Ladies: Do you boundaries when it comes to a relationship?
Posted on Dec 24 2011 at 02:21:12 PM in Society & Culture
Ladies, know your boundaries when it comes to a relationship, don't settle for less because mr. right is not in your life, focuse on yourself and the rest will follow. Therefore, stand for something or fall for nothing, life is all about meaning and knowing what you want out of says alot. “No.” “Stop.” “Not interested.” “No thank you.” These and other variations should be part of your vocabulary. Lots of women complain about being taken advantage of or of feeling used when relationships end, when they could have prevented it from the start by setting clear boundaries. For example, if you don’t want to be someone’s baby mama; always pictured your life with a two-parent family, you have some options. Those include: a) no sex before marriage, b) no unprotected sex, and c) a strong birth control method. Above all, make your position known. Stick to what you want, because, -especially with sex- if you leave the boundaries open, they will be tested. Another example: you don’t want to be the woman on the side. Well, if you see that a guy is married or find out he’s in a relationship… LEAVE. Don’t let “feelings” make a fool of you. Stick to your guns. Set some boundaries. The best way to stay true to who you are is to first KNOW who you are. Know thyself. Are you okay with being hit, raising a child or children alone, being in a relationship for several years before even being proposed to, “shacking up,” being a booty-call or side-chick? If your answer to any of these questions is “NO!” then make sure you’re not going out of your boundaries; you’re not doing things that would land you in any of these situations, and above all, if you find yourself in this situation, get out of it. I’ll give an example: Let’s say you’re at a Monica/Trey Songz concert, and somehow you end up closer to them than you’re supposed to be…out of “fan boundary;” security is going to make you go back where you belong. Your life is more important than a concert, so get some boundaries and stick to them. In the end, even if the relationship doesn’t work out, you won’t have lost yourself. If you like this article visit http://www.awordformmysistas.com/