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Lelo Tiani 2: Design Edition

Published on 2012-06-08 20:52:33

Lelo is a company that changes their sex toys based on consumer feedback. Many have been changed. The Ina‘s clitoral arm was made less pinchy. The Mia was made more powerful and rumbly. So this review is a comparison review of the original Tiani vs the Tiani 2. If you’ve never read my opinions on [...]

I Don’t Hate the Picobong Moka

Published on 2012-06-02 22:04:41

First, a little background on why me NOT hating the Picobong Moka is such a shocker There are a lot of things I disliked about Picobong from the get go. The stupid name that reminds me of something childish; the beachy-fun website with their Hawaiian-like names; the toy designs that left a lot to be [...]

Support Team Tantus’s Good Clean Fundraiser

Published on 2012-06-01 16:51:23

“Cancer touches us all. At Tantus, over half the staff has had personal experience with cancer, either as a survivor, or having watched as a loved one is treated. It is for this reason that Team Tantus participates in Relay for Life. For 2012, we’ve created this dual-color limited edition toy – the Panacea Vibrator. [...]

Wanton Wednesday…..The End

Published on 2012-05-29 17:30:25

I decided last week to end Wanton Wednesday (you can read about the Why here). It had a good run and I’m grateful to everyone who joined in; I adore you all. My final contribution is the color version of a photo I included in the 100th edition post – when I was showing my [...]

Memorial Day Weekend Sex Toy Sales!

Published on 2012-05-25 14:18:45

It’s holiday weekend, therefore it’s time for sales! (I’ve never understood that, btw)

Stop the presses – There are Willing Submissive Women at DomConLA!

Published on 2012-05-22 13:13:26

A Twitter friend pointed us to HuffPo’s article on this past weekend’s BDSM-angled con, DomConLA. She was specifically pointing out that RedemptionsGirl is in a few of the photos, but what I took notice of was actually some curious wording. “…..who is a willing submissive at a dungeon party during the DomConLA convention” I cocked [...]

A Very Merry Un-Birthday….to Me

Published on 2012-05-19 21:08:41

Today was my birthday. Yet it was also an un-birthday. What I mean is that it really wasn’t celebrated in any traditional sense. And you know what? It was pretty damn good. I lounged around reading magazines, and felt no guilt. I played my Facebook games. I made myself a wonderful steak salad for lunch. [...]

Ethical Blogging: Attribution does not equal Permission

Published on 2012-05-13 18:16:04

The bane of a bloggers existence some days is the evolution of the Scraper. The Scraper is someone who has set up a website solely to garner advertisers. They have numerous sites like this and they obviously don’t have time to write their own content, so they “scrape” illegally from others. It’s only scraping, though, [...]

Happy Mother’s Day! The Winner of the Crystal Delights Plug is…..

Published on 2012-05-13 09:37:40

I love that Rafflecopter makes entering contests and having contests so easy. It’s really a lot less of a headache! Of course, in fairness to all, manual verification of entries still needs to happen to be sure that everybody followed all of my rules and restrictions but I was able to do that as things [...]

An Updated Review of the Lelo Luna Beads

Published on 2012-05-12 12:51:03

A lot of women find that wearing the Luna Beads will increase vaginal secretion (during use) and the mere presence of something subtly moving can increase natural arousal. But, please, don't call these a "sex toy". No related posts.

Do all birthdays suck?

Published on 2012-05-08 08:53:30

Please allow this old lady a bit of self-involved moping and grumping for a mo’, would ya? Last year’s birthday REALLY sucked. Perhaps this year’s birthday won’t suck so badly because I’m aware that it will suck in advance and I am preparing myself for that. The asshole now-ex-friend who forgot my birthday last year [...] No related posts.

Leaf Rechargeable Vibrators: The Spirit Vibe

Published on 2012-05-07 13:54:50

Entirely too long ago I received the Spirit vibe from Leaf to review. I sometimes wonder why it takes me so long to write certain reviews while others seem to write themselves, and I realized why: When I don’t love or hate a toy, I find it hard to know what to say. And that’s [...] Related posts: A Comparative Review: Top Electric Massager Vibrators – Part 2This is a continuation, please see Part 1 which talks about the plug-in style. I... Why I Hate JIMMYJANE: Part 1 – The F [..]

A rant: Your crappy writing skills turn me off

Published on 2012-05-05 22:13:42

Your written words are your clothes, your voice, your facial expressions and that by which we measure intelligence, personality and sometimes even attractiveness. I'm not a "grammar Nazi" and I'm not a college English professor. I'm just a reader who wants to read words that make sense when thrown together in sentences and paragraphs. I don't expect perfection; I just expect simple readability. Related posts: Rant: FYP (For Your Pleasure) Sex Toy PartiesI know that at these FYP sex toy parties, [..]

Wanton Wednesday, 100th Edition

Published on 2012-05-01 15:46:32

It’s been 100 editions and just over 2 years since I first rebelled. Wanton Wednesday has really picked up some steam lately and I’m thrilled to see everyone enjoying themselves. I haven’t really taken anything new in ages (haven’t felt up to it) so I figured that for the 100th edition I’d get fancied up. [...] No related posts.

Happy Mother’s Day: Win a Crystal Delights Glass Plug

Published on 2012-04-30 12:56:38

Here’s a butt plug….Happy Mother’s Day! That’s not something I’ll ever say to my mother. But thankfully there are millions of partners and husbands and wives around the world who just might love to say that to the mother of their children! Flowers are commonly given for Mother’s Day but what do you do when [...] No related posts.

Glass Sex Toys: A Primer (and Interview with Crystal Delights!)

Published on 2012-04-29 21:19:32

There are two sex toy materials that seem to scare the uninitiated: Glass and wood. It is ironic considering that the material you should be the most scared of is the one 50% of customers purchase willingly and gleefully. But glass is strong, non-porous, is not made with chemicals and is compatible with every type of lube. What's not to love? Related posts: Pinkcherry.com Review: Cherries Jubiliee Glass DildoPinkcherry.com – Glass Dildos |  Cherries Jubilee by Dream Toys A glass dildo. Wh [..]

Earth Day and Sex Toys: A Battery Primer

Published on 2012-04-22 13:18:48

Everybody goes on and on about how “green” and environmentally superior rechargeable sex toys are, but I’d bet that you didn’t know this fact: Alkaline batteries can be safely disposed of with normal household waste. Never dispose of batteries in fire because they could explode. Due to concerns about mercury in the municipal solid waste [...] Related posts: Ask Lilly: Tips for Traveling with Sex ToysTraveling with sex toys is anywhere from “no big deal” to  [..]

I’ve found a new secret to my G-spot

Published on 2012-04-21 10:20:43

Or rather….my husband has. For the first decade of our sex life his penis alone managed to hit my g-spot over and over during sex to varying degrees of bliss. In more recent years he and I have done more exploring both with his fingers and both of us using toys. I never doubted my [...] Related posts: A Prelude to Fisting, or, My Best Friend the G-SpotI think that my G-spot has been trying to pick up the slack from my... “I can’t orgasm – and it’s not your faultR [..]

A Phthalates Experiment (or: I touched a slimy dildo on purpose)

Published on 2012-04-20 12:22:06

Yesterday I purposely opened up a box of phthalates. Inspired by a video from Jennifer Pritchett, owner of The Smitten Kitten, I opened up a box that had been languishing in my 2nd-floor storage room for over a year with camera in hand to show you all what I might find. Back story: A year [...] Related posts: Ask Lilly: How do I know if a sex toy has phthalates in it?Another Formspring question here! When looking for a new toy how do you know if... Ask Lilly: Choosing a Dildo for BeginnersLook a [..]

e[lust] #35

Published on 2012-04-19 10:18:59

Photo Courtesy of Vincent and Mia Welcome to e[lust] - The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at e[lust].  Want to be included in e[lust] #36? Start with the [...] Related posts: e[lust] #31  Welcome to e[lust] - Your source for sexual intelligence and inspirations of lust from... e[lust] #21Welcome to e[lust] - Your [..]

Wanton Wednesday, The Anniversary Edition

Published on 2012-04-17 18:59:37

2 years ago I started my own little weekly sexy photos-n-more meme for many reasons but mostly because I didn’t feel welcome elsewhere. If others wanted to join in my slightly-more-risque version then so be it! It started off as a rebel yell which grew into a quiet, small group which then grew into a [...] Related posts: Wanton Wednesday: Peek-a-boo(b)!Trying my hand at these animated gifs has given me a little motivation to actually... A very animated Wanton WednesdayI’m posting thi [..]

Surprise! We-Vibe has 3 Amazing Vibrators

Published on 2012-04-10 11:40:53

We-Vibe has done what I didn’t think was truly possible: Created a rechargeable clitoral/external vibrator that is powerful and rumbly – and I truly do covet a good, rumbly vibrator. And they didn’t just make one, they made three. The combination of lower RPMs with a powerful motor leads to vibrations that go way beyond [...] No related posts.

Sex Toy Journalism: Seeking the Truths of Silicone via Flame Testing and Confronting Manufacturers

Published on 2012-04-06 11:58:30

What is Flame Testing and What Does it Prove in Regards to Silicone Sex Toys? Flame testing a silicone sex toy is neither unheard of or common. Where did it originate, I wonder? Was Metis Black the first to do it and the sex toy reviewers followed suit, eager to seek truths where we were [...] No related posts.

Review: Hold on to Me Kegel Exerciser from Bedroom Kandi

Published on 2012-04-05 13:52:59

Babeland let me review the Bedroom Kandi line Hold On To Me item, which is a kegel exerciser set that is similar in execution to the Lelo Luna Beads. There are a lot of differences between the two products but a lot of similarities, namely, the ability to gradually increase the weight of the beads [...] Related posts: VibeReview: Lelo Luna Beads{Disclaimer: This review is not for the wimpy men who get squicked out with clinical... Babeland: Pleasure Tops and Eco Sexy Kit ReviewPleasure Tops R [..]

Decompressing and Deconstructing: MomentumCon 2012 Aftermath

Published on 2012-04-03 17:05:00

I mean “aftermath” in the best possible way, but yet my brain is a freaking mess. “Overstimulated” is the best way to describe my current state. I go from leading a fairly boring life to a jam-packed weekend full of sex geek fun, feminist conversations, sex-positive atmospheres and 50-some hours with “my people”. It’s funny [...] Related posts: Officially Excited For MomentumCon 2012: The Sessions!!If you thought I was intimidated freaked out excited by [..]

MomentumCon – The Impending Return of My Bubble of Amazing People

Published on 2012-03-25 15:51:48

In less than a week I’ll be at Momentum, back in my beloved bubble of My People. Of course, in exactly a week’s time from right now, the moment I’m writing this, the bubble will be slowly bursting and all of my lovely friends will be departing for home and quite likely I’ll be alone [...] Related posts: Momentum Con- Part 2: The BubbleSo Sunday I had both breakfast and lunch with AAG and her awesomely funny roommate... Momentum Con – Part 1: These are My PeopleLike [..]

Lelo’s Revamped Cock Ring, the Tor II: Great, until you try to put it on

Published on 2012-03-16 18:52:54

I never owned the original Tor because I’m not a cock ring kind of girl and my husband never was impressed by them either. We were, however, given the Lelo Bo to review a few years ago and while it was seen as an improvement upon the ubiquitous jelly/TPR stretchy, sticky watch-battery jobs the Lelo [...] No related posts.

Re-thinking the Feasibility of Online Relationships

Published on 2012-03-08 20:02:28

I used to believe wholeheartedly that online relationships – relationships of all varieties including platonic – were not only feasible but wonderful. I used to believe that one could get to know a person on a deeper level through online chats and emails; sometimes things are easier said when we’re staring at a computer screen [...] Related posts: Trouble with a Capital ‘T’Either I’m crazy, or …… nah let’s just stick with crazy. For the first [..]

Want some Tantus? Hurry, they have an awesome sale going on!

Published on 2012-03-07 10:46:15

Get Lucky! 40% off all Closeouts Use promo code GETLUCKY Ends 3/17 or while supplies last It’s March Madness in our warehouse, with our Get Lucky! sale now under way. Save an additional 40% on all already deeply discounted Closeout items. With items starting at an absurdly low $3.60 after using promo code GETLUCKY at [...] No related posts.

Lelo admits to faulty SenseMotion remotes: The good news and the bad news

Published on 2012-03-03 20:44:27

A few months ago I reviewed the abysmal Lelo SenseMotion Insignia Tiani. Insignia SenseMotion Tiani? What a mouthful either way! The fact is, I and other reviewers, had come to the same conclusion: Lelo’s hyped SenseMotion was a total failure. For some reason though most of us assumed that the technology itself failed and Lelo [...] Related posts: Lelo Tiani Review – from the Lelo SenseMotion Insignia LineSexforums.com contacted me last month to see if I’d be willing to do a re [..]

Assumptions and Asshats – That’s a lot of ass, and not in the good way

Published on 2012-02-26 17:11:36

“She was asking for it, dressed like that” It’s a common “rape apologist” statement. The women who are raped are blamed because they dared to present themselves as a sexual being. I think that sex bloggers get a little bit of this mentality from male readers. I present my sexual thoughts or even sexual photos. [...] Related posts: My panties are wadded (and not in a good way)subtitled: Safe Auto and Billy Mays Need to Die in a Fire or: Survival of... Wicked, Wicked [..]

Glass Dildos: The Curved Joy Flower

Published on 2012-02-25 16:17:05

I’ve owned a few glass dildos in my time; my first one was a bit of a let-down, as it wasn’t as heavy as I thought it would be. My second one was even more of a let-down, since it looked nothing like the original photos on the seller’s site and the new design left [...] Related posts: Pinkcherry.com Review: Cherries Jubiliee Glass DildoPinkcherry.com – Glass Dildos |  Cherries Jubilee by Dream Toys A glass dildo. What can... Review: Ocean Breeze Glass DildoFirst, an asid [..]

WantonWednesday: Mardi Gras Time!

Published on 2012-02-21 21:18:04

  Now then, where’s my beads???? I’ve never gotten any Mardi Gras beads but I think I’d like the pretty metallic-y ones the best! CommentsFebruary 21, 2012, Sada K. writes: Boobies! (Sorry, I had to.)February 21, 2012, Penny writes: woo mardi gras! *throws virtual beads* ;)February 22, 2012, KaziGrrl writes: Woo-hoo!! *tosses you sparkly beads* [...] Related posts: WantonWednesday: Office Finale Pt 1I actually meant to post this earlier, but the efforts of packing combined with [..]

How (not) to Impress and Woo on Okcupid: Message Dos and Don’ts

Published on 2012-02-20 22:41:38

When your first line of communication is text-based, you  really should try to make a good first impression. I don’t mean that you need to hire Cyrano to ghost-write your profile, or be insincere or embellish anything. Be yourself. However, be yourself with decent spelling, grammar and punctuation. We’re not grading here (unless you message [...] Related posts: Annoyance or Tolerance?A quick break in my lovefest blogging of MomentumCon. Today’s post is brought to you... The Di [..]

Tantus Giveaway! Get your hands on the Anaconda or the Bend Over kit!

Published on 2012-02-17 08:32:13

Open to US participants – Win a Tantus Anaconda dildo or their Bend Over Intermediate kit (plus a t-shirt!) – Contest ends Feb 29th Now that I’ve told you everything nerdy about silicone sex toys and Tantus sex toys, you get a chance to own one! The winner will get to choose between the Anaconda [...] Related posts: Erogenous Zones 3: Hands and FeetI’ve been so busy trying to get e[lust] 22 packed up and ready along with...

e[lust] 33

Published on 2012-02-15 14:05:37

Photo courtesy of Penny Welcome to e[lust], the sex blog round-up- The best posts from the hottest and smartest sex bloggers all in one place! This edition highlights topics such as STI’s, swingers and poly relationships, spanking, role play and so much more. Want to be included in e[lust] #34? Start with the rules, come [...] No related posts.

The Ultimate Guide to Silicone Sex Toys – With Metis Black of Tantus, Inc.

Published on 2012-02-09 16:47:28

Silicone sex toys are heralded as the most superior sex toy material to many people. Silicone dildos can vary through a range of densities and silicone vibrators can feel plush without the potential for harm (like jelly or rubber). I picked the brain of Metis Black1, the fabulous woman behind Tantus Inc, makers of some [...] Related posts: Ask Lilly: Holiday Sex Toy Gift Buying GuideI get a good number of people who contact me for advice on buying a... The Rabbit Vibrator: An Essay (Or Buying Gu [..]

Baby, It’s Cold Outside (But Just for Today)

Published on 2012-02-07 20:31:35

Thankfully we’ve had a pretty mild winter; I think last year there was enough snow for two seasons! But it has snowed once or twice, and yeah it was pretty chilly.   CommentsFebruary 7, 2012, Catharine writes: I love your pic. Wish I had some snow to show my boobs to, it's melted!February 8, 2012, [...] Related posts: Wanton Wednesday: Sunshine & TitsI stood in the window at just the right time of day giving just the... Wanton Wednesday: Flashing at my windowAcross the street is a small sh [..]

That turnip truck? I didn’t fall off it yesterday.

Published on 2012-02-06 21:03:36

I swear it’s almost like creating that douche-proof contact form was like a request to the blogging angels for comedic gold. If by comedic I mean bashing-my-head-off-the-wall I’m-surrounded-by-idiots haha funny. Bloggers, a heads-up here, please…don’t be taken in by this guy. Greer is a part of a group of “entrepreneurs” who have this awesome idea [...] Related posts: Non Se(x)quitorI hate the word “dong” when referring to dildos. I cannot see a di [..]

Should we bring back the Sex Blogger Co-Op for a trial revival?

Published on 2012-02-01 13:24:43

A number of the 100-some original members are long gone and in their place are newer bloggers who don’t know about the thing that was once the Sex Blogger Co-Op on Ning.com. For a refresher or those who don’t know what it’s all about, read these few posts: Blogger Education? talks a bit about the [...] Related posts: Blogger Education: How to keep your individuality in blog design while maintaining readability for your audienceTips on how to design your blog so that it walks th [..]