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What They Don’t Know Won’t Hurt Them
Published on 2011-07-01 12:47:55
Continuing on our Pandora’s Box discussion from last week, there is an idiom that is used often in everyday life: “What they don’t know won’t hurt them.” The theory behind this is that if someone won’t be affected by not knowing something
Can I Tell You A Secret?
Published on 2011-07-01 12:35:14
There are no secrets in life. It doesn’t matter who we tell, when we tell, why we tell or what we tell. Sooner or later, every secret is revealed. It’s the nature of the beast. Murphy’s Law states that anything that can go wrong will go wrong,
Pandora’s Um… Box
Published on 2011-06-24 08:10:09
In Greek mythology, Pandora was the first woman on earth. As the story goes, the gods essentially created her by forming her out of earth and water, and gave her many talents, including the gift of curiosity. To make a long story short, Pandora’s B
All Boxed Up And Ready To Go
Published on 2011-06-24 08:02:56
Temptation is a funny thing… We know it’s bad for us the minute it rears its ugly head, but given the opportunity to dismiss it on sight we often choose not to. This is rarely a good idea, even a hurtful one on occasion, but the beast of temptati
Mama Said Knock You Out
Published on 2011-06-17 02:04:46
My mom is visiting. Most women are so happy to spend time with their mothers. It’s a time to regress, feel like a little girl again, get some TLC by Mom… Only with my mother, it’s the other way around. For most of my life, I’ve been the p
Word To Your Mother
Published on 2011-06-17 02:00:37
If guilt was a bug, I’d step on it. If it was made of glass, I’d throw a rock at it. If it was the sexiest woman alive, begging me to get naked with her, I’d turn and walk away. Guilt converts our true feelings into mud. Guilt keeps us from bei
The Ants Go Marching
Published on 2011-06-10 08:36:13
In the midst of the controversy surrounding Arnold Schwarzenegger’s love child, and Rep. Anthony Weiner of New York’s ahem, wiener, it would appear that temptation is everywhere. One of my friends used to always say, “As soon as you’re taken
Tempted By The Fruit Of Another
Published on 2011-06-10 08:24:25
Temptation is like ice cream… All we have to do is think of the repercussions of indulging and it immediately becomes obvious that we’re better off without. However, just in case our discipline weakens, there’s a Baskin-Robbins or a Cold Stone
Ready… Or Not?
Published on 2011-06-03 08:39:14
I went to a wedding last weekend. I just heard you groan again. But this wedding wasn’t any ordinary wedding. It was a family wedding, and a weekend spent with the family members I love most. It was a simple wedding – it was 70 year-old marry
Ready, Set, Go
Published on 2011-06-03 08:34:13
First of all, I don’t “groan” at the mere mention of a wedding. However, I have to admit that in some twisted way, I am proud that you think this of me. I am both aware, and appreciative of the notion that weddings take place around us every da
If The Shoe Fits
Published on 2011-05-27 09:44:48
In the words of the flight crew of Apollo 13, “Houston, we have a problem.” The New Guy and I had a fight. Okay, maybe disagreement is a better word, because no punches were thrown, but I think for a few moments he probably wanted to punch me…
Head Of The Class
Published on 2011-05-27 09:35:35
Boy, when you start thinking about all of the places they can veer off track, it’s surprising that any relationship succeeds. Let’s go back – way back. Do you remember my idea of what makes up the right kind of woman? I may be in the minori
For The Love Of Money
Published on 2011-05-20 09:44:26
So, I know last week I went on and on about The New Guy being my best friend, blah blah blah, but contrary to the “best friend” code of conduct, I still can’t tell him everything. Like the fact that I’m broke. When you’re single and you’r
Money Can’t Buy You Love
Published on 2011-05-20 09:34:18
I once dated a woman over the course of exactly one month. She was smart, she was sexy and she was drinking “He Said” Kool-Aid by the liter. At the end of the month, I opened my credit card statement. All six dates that I had with this woman star
A Friend By Any Other Name
Published on 2011-05-13 08:28:23
It’s no secret that I’ve been in a ton of weddings. That movie 27 Dresses with that blond chick from Grey’s Anatomy? It could have and should have been about me. I’ve been a bridesmaid more times than I can count. Standing up on that altar li
You’ve Got A Friend
Published on 2011-05-13 08:26:32
When I was little, my best friends were Tommy and Jack. We did everything together… rode our bikes, played stickball, pool-hopped – you name it, we did it. The only times we weren’t together was when one or all of us was grounded… probabl
A Desperate Situation
Published on 2011-05-06 12:04:08
Last weekend, I went out with a group of friends. There were three couples, and also a friend who is single. I never really gave much thought to my behavior when I was the single one in the group, but hers was unmistakable – she was desperate. It w
Double Trouble
Published on 2011-05-06 12:00:06
Who are you to judge? Hell, NOBODY has the right to judge this woman, or any other woman in her shoes. However, that doesn’t mean staring at her PDF and reaching for anything remotely qualifying as a man isn’t an act of desperation on her part. C
Home Is Where The Heart Is
Published on 2011-04-29 08:14:08
Like most West Coast Gen-X children from a broken family, I’ve taken many a train to Therapy Town. For years I thought of myself much like the guy from the Sunday cartoon pages who walks with a dark cloud following over his head. And then suddenly,
There’s No Place Like Home
Published on 2011-04-29 08:12:25
Perhaps you remember the following moments of joy you have shared with me, among many others, regarding your current domicile: Last July: “I love my new apartment!” Last Christmas: “I’ve finally found a place that feels like home!” Last
In A Word, Flirt-astrophe
Published on 2011-04-22 01:23:04
So, you know how I was wondering about my flirt-ability? Well, it’s still there. And I didn’t even have to wait for my trip to Mexico to find out. Only this time, I was accused of false flirting. I took a friend out for her birthday. We went to a
If It Smells Like A Flirt…
Published on 2011-04-22 01:19:18
For some people (not you and me, of course), flirting is like body odor… No matter how often we shower, we can’t get rid of it. And everybody else in the room accuses us of having it, no matter how much we object. What exactly makes a good wingma
To Flirt Or Not To Flirt?
Published on 2011-04-15 02:04:25
I’m going on vacation. I know, I’ve been traveling a whole bunch lately, but this trip is different. I’m going on vacation – a girl’s trip. I’m talking a no-boys-allowed, cocktail-filled, sun-drenched, bikini-clad, good old-
Flirt-O-Rama
Published on 2011-04-15 02:02:48
So you’re not single anymore? When did you get married? Oh, you’re not married… Then you must be engaged. Not engaged either? Then you must be living together. Not under the same roof, not even under the same zip code? I’m sorry… I could ha
Let’s Talk About Sex
Published on 2011-04-08 08:18:35
Back when I was single (okay, saying that just cracked me up), I used to say, “I can’t wait until I’m in a committed relationship so I can have sex anytime I want it.” My married friends would laugh and scoff at me saying, “Just you wait.
Sexual Healing
Published on 2011-04-08 08:16:50
Sex is the most UNDER-rated and OVER-rated component of life, both in and out of a relationship. Why is it over-rated? Because when we take away the magazine covers, adult movie channels and Charlie Sheen’s new living arrangements, it’s just sex.
The Father Factor
Published on 2011-04-01 02:22:28
It is often said that if you want to know how a man will treat a woman, you should pay attention to how he treats his mother. That may be true, and we’ve talked about guys and their moms before, but what we haven’t talked about are girls and
This Father Knows Best
Published on 2011-04-01 02:20:19
The minute my daughter was born, I knew I was forever a changed man. The first time I held my E.T. look-a-like infant daughter in my arms, I immediately realized that I would spend the better part of my life making sure she would always be taken care
Honorable Men(tion)
Published on 2011-03-25 02:23:12
After all these months with The New Guy, there is still one thing he hasn’t done. He hasn’t met all the men in my life. He’s met a ton of my friends, but for the most part only my girlfriends. The general consensus is that he’s really
Time To Man Up
Published on 2011-03-25 02:12:53
I have the coolest girlfriend in the world… really… I mean it. (Did I just label a woman on this planet as my girlfriend?) Would I have lasted in any relationship for more than ten minutes if my girl wasn’t as cool as the other side of the
Just Another Manic Monday
Published on 2011-03-18 07:19:01
When I was growing up, Sunday nights were hands down the worst night of the week. For me, that day of the week meant one of two things: either I had been at my dad’s house for the weekend and then had to go home to my asshole stepfather and to scho
Monday, Monday
Published on 2011-03-18 07:12:49
I sleep lousy on Sunday nights, too. I also sleep lousy Monday thru Saturday night, but somehow I don’t think I’m the only one. I have plenty of valid reasons… my responsibilities, your gender, my bank account (or lack thereof) to name a few…
Love Me Tender
Published on 2011-03-11 08:49:44
It happened. I didn’t plan on it… I didn’t think it through… I almost didn’t remember it. But it happened, and there’s no going back. I dropped the L-bomb. I could blame massive amounts of alcohol, I could blame being half-asleep, or I co
A Whole Lotta Love
Published on 2011-03-11 08:43:45
Better you said it drunk than sober. Other than that, I’m glad you’re not kicking yourself over your loose lips (among other things), because you can never un-ring a bell. Like you, I grew up in a household where the only time they said “I love
Where The Green Grass Grows
Published on 2011-03-04 02:23:02
Now that The New Guy and I have hit the half-year mark, I’m getting the all-important questions: “Is he the one?” “Are you totally in love?” “Are you just soooo happy?” “Do you miss being single?” Gotta admit, that last one trips me
Green Is In The Eye Of The Beholder
Published on 2011-03-04 02:20:03
The grass is always greener on the other side… why do you think they coined the expression in the first place? Even when we know the grass isn’t greener, it still is, by definition, due to the simple fact that it’s on the other side. The trick
Sick Of It
Published on 2011-02-25 08:30:45
“The true test of this trip and this relationship will be upon returning to both your homes and your lives, alone and together.” No truer words were spoken than yours last week. And boy, was there a test immediately following our trip. A few days
From Soup To Nuts
Published on 2011-02-25 08:28:59
You want soup? Is that it? Hell, I’ll bring you some soup on my way home from work tonight. Oh wait, that’s not the point. As is so often the case, it wasn’t about the soup at all, was it? Whenever I’ve been sick, the last thing I wanted was
Make Mine A Double
Published on 2011-02-18 06:49:20
We came, we saw, we vacationed. And we pretty much made it through in one piece. Rather than bore you with the details of each leg of the trip, I thought we could play a little game called, “Single or Double” as in, the difference between traveli
Double Down
Published on 2011-02-18 06:44:10
You know what I hate about relationships? I mean, besides everything? I hate that the gap between “single” and “double” is as wide as Lake Michigan… and twice as hard to navigate. You know what else I hate about relationships? I mean, besid
What A Trip
Published on 2011-02-11 08:34:59
Well, it was bound to happen sooner or later. Our first trip together. One full week, together. For one full week. Two plane flights, four taxis, two hotel rooms and a ship. For one full week. Together. The New Guy and me. Not that I’m nervous or a
Tripped Out
Published on 2011-02-11 08:32:28
Without reading beyond it, allow me to rewrite your opening paragraph: “Well, it was bound to happen sooner or later. Our first trip together. One full week together. The minute we got home, I broke up with him.” Taking a trip with someone for lo
Join The Club
Published on 2011-02-05 02:23:16
Since this is shaping up to be the Year of the Decision, it’s funny how some of my previous decisions are materializing – especially my decision to jump into my relationship with The New Guy headfirst. Last weekend was Girl’s Weekend. 100%
Admit One
Published on 2011-02-05 02:21:58
That’s it? That’s all you have for your loyal readers, and me? 72 hours straight with a group of women, all in their prime and on the prowl and all you have to share is the Spanish Inquisition? You are either lying by omission, or this new relati
A Good Egg
Published on 2011-01-28 08:43:49
I know we’ve touched on this subject before, but I’m going to have to talk about it again – BABIES. Why? Because I’m sitting in a fertility clinic right now. Remember a few months ago when I talked about my friend who was freezing her eggs? W
My Cup Runneth Over
Published on 2011-01-28 08:41:53
My favorite subject matter, both in blog and in life is when my initial reaction is, “Where do I start?” And this recent excursion of yours easily falls under this umbrella. First of all, masturbating into a cup? Please tell me these men at the c
That Will Never Be Me
Published on 2011-01-21 07:46:23
It’s month five and the walls are coming down. The relationship walls, that is. Now that The New Guy and I seem to be firmly planted in a full-blown relationship, I’m quickly noticing that along with all the great new comforts are all the little
From Satin To Sweatpants
Published on 2011-01-21 07:43:41
That will never be me, the dude version? Where do I sign up? OK, I’ve already changed my mind… Whatever “that will never be me moment” I was willing to share when my fingers first hit the keyboard, I am now completely unwilling to share. The
If I Had It To Do Over…
Published on 2011-01-14 08:32:08
There’s a popular phrase that gets said a lot, in many different ways and I heard it again today: “If I had it to do over again…” Most often, it’s in reference to love or money, and today was no exception. I was at the car dealership droppi
What’s Done Is Done
Published on 2011-01-14 08:27:24
If I had a chance to do anything over again, anything at all, I wouldn’t change a thing. Is this because my life is so wonderful that I have absolutely no regrets? Uh, not exactly. If I could go back and fix the mistakes I made the first time aroun
Same Sex Partner
Published on 2011-01-07 08:21:55
It’s a new year. The gym is packed with hundreds of “get fit” resolutions. People are back at the office, decked out in new duds with rested faces and positive attitudes. The air is crisp with the excited energy of a fresh start. For me, New Ye
All Aboard The Monogamy Train
Published on 2011-01-07 08:17:42
Everybody I know makes a New Year’s resolution. The ones who say they don’t do this? They’re the ones making not just one, but three or four of these earnest, yet elusive New Year’s resolutions every year. I should know… I happen to be one
Her Year In Review
Published on 2010-12-31 11:08:36
As 2010 comes to a close, I thought I would take a look back at my “If You Build it, He Will Come” year. It’s been a doozy. And it all started with this line in January: “Brace yourself – I think I want to meet someone this year. Someone I
Should Old Acquaintance Be Forgot
Published on 2010-12-31 10:51:58
Oh, I definitely remember your prophetic statement in January about meeting and keeping someone, and yes, I heeded your advice and braced myself accordingly. Little did either of us know that I would need to nail the shutters tight as well. What bega