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Breaking Bad Communication Habits

Published on 2012-11-27 11:32:00

Breaking Bad Communication Habits I often see couples who are stuck in a communication rut and don’t know why. Repeatedly they are having the same arguments over and over again, or have even just stopped talking as they have now given up trying

Should I be worried?

Published on 2012-04-12 13:38:00

My partner isn't having a physical affair, but is very close to someone else. Should I be worried?An emotional affair has three features. Secrecy, either about the existence of a friendship, or the interactions that take place. Physical chemistry and attraction. When the friend knows more about your primary relationship than you know about this friendship.Emotional affairs like all affairs, are increasing because of the social context in which we live. We spend a lot of our time at work [..]

I can't seem to stop arguing with my partner

Published on 2012-02-28 12:54:00

I can't seem to stop arguing with my partner. What can we doAlthough they can be painful and unpleasant arguments are common in all kinds of relationships. But disagreements don't have to end in hostile silence or a screaming match. Learning ways of handling discussions on emotive topics and looking out for the patterns and triggers in your arguments can really help you improve the situation.Find out why you argueThink about what you're really arguing about. On the surface it could be about [..]

How can we cope with the aftermath of an affair?

Published on 2011-06-06 10:34:00

How can we cope with the aftermath of an affair?How can an affair be forgiven? It is vital that you both understand the real reasons why it happened. To do this you will have to talk about what had been going on between you in the time leading u

How do I move on after divorce?

Published on 2011-06-05 17:41:00

How do I move on after divorce? The end of a relationship is always a difficult time. No matter who ended it or when, the future can look bleak and frightening. But life does can continue and many thousands of people go to have happy and fulfill

Life/Work Balance

Published on 2011-06-02 13:50:00

Life/Work BalanceIt's often observed that in spite of the vast array of modern day time-saving technologies we have less and less free time. Many couples find themselves constantly torn between the pressures of employment and personal life. We need t

Coping with a new baby

Published on 2011-05-30 11:30:00

Coping with a new babyMaking the change from being a couple to being parents isn't always easy. It can be difficult to find time for yourselves, your sex life can change, you have to juggle the commitments of work and family and find a way of agreein

Marriage 911 in the year 2011

Published on 2011-01-01 16:27:00

Is your marriage alive and well, or is it time to dial 911? Chances are the health of your relationship falls somewhere in the middle — slightly out of shape and tired. Unfortunately most of us tend to take the health of a marriage for granted. And

FAQ

Published on 2010-09-23 08:40:00

How do you know when a relationship is too difficult (and you should get out)? Contrary to conventional wisdom, not all relationships can be saved. Relationships can only take a certain amount of neglect and abuse before they are too sma

Trina's Top Tips

Published on 2010-09-20 15:23:00

1. How to depressurize sex?If sex is a chore, or almost off the menu, or your guy wants it all the time…..then…Negotiate a date and time with him when you will have sex, but only one time per week. Tell him you will have sex at the agreed time b

Break the Sexual Stalemate

Published on 2010-08-21 17:28:00

Break the Sexual Stalemate - (from Retool your Relationship)The first step to end your sexual stalemate is to take control. It’s an all-too-familiar standoff: you need intimacy for sex, and he needs sex for intimacy. In a sens

INTIMACY

Published on 2010-08-07 13:09:00

Many people think that intimacy is the same as sex, but it’s much more than that. To be intimate is to allow yourself to be vulnerable with another person.Sensuality is one way of being intimate. Sensuality is the ability to touch and feel ver

The internet and our relationship

Published on 2010-08-06 12:59:00

The internet and our relationshipIncreasingly couples are citing the internet as a problem in their relationship.Some signs that a partner may be in a relationship over the internet:They are spending more and more time on the internet particularly in

Why is my partner so annoying at times?

Published on 2010-08-01 10:07:00

Why is my partner so annoying at times?We fall in love with someone, and imagine that now at last life will be full of peace, joy, companionship and hope. But after a while we often become aware that our partner seems to stand in the way of us achiev

Couples Therapy - Why? and How?

Published on 2010-07-31 20:53:00

Couples often come to therapy polarized by reactivity and power struggles that make them feel increasingly disconnected. Trapped in a stalemate that they are unable to change on their own, they invite the therapist into the intimacy of their struggle

Jealousy

Published on 2010-07-19 10:44:00

Some simple but effective tips you can use if a current or prospective relationship partner suddenly succumbs to an attack of "The Green-Eyed Monster."1. Be honest. If there is good reason for your partner to be jealous, it may be time for a heart-to

Your Sex Cycle

Published on 2010-07-16 16:55:00

Your Sex Cycle - Desire in Women If you are having problems with sex or are not having much of it, it is nearly impossible to jump-start the process by hopping into bed and being a willing partner. As you would expect, a women’s sex cyc