Blog Feed: Life on the Swingset

The Crash Pad Series Queer Porn Review: Ep 134 – Kylie Liddell and Oliver Hyde

Published on 2013-01-03 00:01:29

In Episode 134 of The Crash Pad Series we meet Kylie Liddell and Oliver Hyde. Kylie is a ferocious top while Oliver is a petulant bottom. They enter the Crash Pad with Kylie pulling Oliver, who is wearing a ball gag, through the door with an arm aro

Pedestrian Polyamory 38: Voicemails! Stroking Gavin’s Enormous C*ck

Published on 2013-01-02 21:09:47

Pedestrian Polyamory is back again! Gavin and Shira finally have enough voicemails to do a show! Gavin's affairs take us on a journey on a date with three girls (at the same time, our Gav sure is growing up!), meanwhile Shira is dealing with jealou

The Baggage We Carry – How Past Relationships Can Interfere in Present Ones

Published on 2013-01-02 02:00:44

We are all the product of our past experiences. They make us who we are. But sometimes the past can get in the way of the present. Guy and I are back on track after settling some serious conflicts. I honestly thought that we would not make it, but I

SS 100: Looking Back, and Forward to Another 100 Episodes

Published on 2013-01-01 00:13:05

This… is episode 100. We thank our guests, our previous co-hosts, we yell at each other, unbridled chaos abounds everywhere. It’s a full 90 minutes of the four of us enjoying each other. Pure joy, true love… To another 100 episodes

SS 99.1: Origin Stories: My Journey into Non-Monogamy, a Dylan Story

Published on 2012-12-31 14:41:06

Not all of you have been listening weekly for three years (probably… maybe) so by extension, not all of you know how we got here and what we lived through before we discovered these lifestyles we lead. So I’m Dylan, and I’m telling

The Safe Zone – Giving Yourself Permission To Screw Up in Non-Monogamy

Published on 2012-12-28 00:01:38

Just over a month ago we found ourselves discussing the possibility of a meet-half-way weekend with some friends in Canada. Our Canadian friends are newbies, and I found myself giving them some pretty decent advice to look at the possibility of sex a

The History of the Vibrator

Published on 2012-12-27 00:01:04

But, back to the history of the vibrator…. Once upon a time, many, many eons ago, women didn't have orgasms; at least society tried to tell them they didn’t. If they did experience any type of pleasure from sexual congress they were told that the

Share the Love – Non-Monogamous Sex in Public and Private

Published on 2012-12-26 02:36:32

One wonderful thing about non-monogamous relationships is people are allowed the freedom to choose whatever rules make them the happiest. Whether people classify themselves as swingers, polyamorous, open or something else entirely, there are many pos

How to Swingle: The 1st Page of Ginger’s Swinger Mingling Playbook

Published on 2012-12-25 00:01:47

Mingling is challenging for even the most adept swingers. Given that Prof and I are in the middle of a long vanilla stretch, I’m finding that in absence of real social situations I’m daydreaming about what I would say to that spectacularly hot in

Nerves & Dysfunction

Published on 2012-12-24 11:33:47

Women have it easy. That’s right, I said it.  The prevailing notion is that a man can and will fuck anything presented to him, (and, to be fair, some men CAN and WILL) but in the lifestyle there are a few added stressors that can make that ste

Mentoring in the Swinging Lifestyle

Published on 2012-12-20 02:00:45

Living in the middle of nowhere, it is rare to find a hot couple close to home. As such, I admit to having a lot more patience with local hot newbie couples than I tend to have at a club or weekend away to a sexy place. We courted one such young, new

Origins – How We Got Into The Lifestyle

Published on 2012-12-19 02:00:09

“So, how did you get into the Lifestyle?” That’s how it always starts doesn’t it? Like superheroes, swingers have their origin stories. It is such a given that asking for it is often the opening line in our small talk (either

Fruit Cocktale – Fruit and Personality Types

Published on 2012-12-18 02:00:52

My name is Zoe Hanis and I am a coconut. Though I am beginning to wonder if that is not a very good way to go through life. I was listening to the Swingset crew in Desire the other day, when Ginger mentioned that she was a pineapple. Unfortunately, C

SS 99: The Swingset Takes Desire Debrief – Sexy Times In Mexico

Published on 2012-12-17 14:06:15

After a slight delay, the Swingset crew talk Life on the Swingset’s first trip to Desire Resort & Spa in Cancun and squick Shira B. Katz right the hell out. We lament the shortness of our jaunt to paradise, and talk about what we hope to do nex

Pedestrian Polyamory 37: The Quadcast!

Published on 2012-12-14 19:04:25

Pedestrian Polyamory is back, and we've brought friends. Gavin and Shira explain the lack of updates to the show, and almost promise to make that not happen anymore. Once we catch up with the Master Banters (trademark pending), Shira and The Transi

Neophilia – Novelty and Non-Monogamy

Published on 2012-12-14 02:00:27

I know what you’re thinking, neophilia? Sounds a bit perverse, right? Neophilia is not a fetish, it actually means the love of or enthusiasm for what is new or novel. It’s a concept I discovered recently and I’ve been curious to see if there is

Desire Riviera Maya VS Desire Pearl – It All Comes Down to the People

Published on 2012-12-13 02:00:42

During our week visit to Cancun this year, we hit a bit of the mid-week doldrums. Wednesday is often a quiet day at Desire. The resort tends to be at a lower capacity and the energy just feels a bit sluggish sometimes. So, we thought it was a good da

Another play party: different venue, a different atmosphere, and far different reactions (part 2) or MFM’s rock

Published on 2012-12-11 02:00:40

I am not used to being the center of attention. No, that isn’t true – I like being the center of attention in social situations. However, I am not used to simply taking without giving something back. I tend to be an active participant when it com

SS 98: Smitten Kitten Presents The Holiday Sex Toytacular 2!

Published on 2012-12-10 16:02:48

Clare from Smitten Kitten returns to discuss bad toys with us, and our toy wishes for the holiday as we discuss sex toys even more! Check out the Smitten Kitten Online and use our discount code, “swingset” for a 10% discount!The post S

Stand Up and Pee! A Review of the pStyle

Published on 2012-12-08 02:00:37

This is an absolutely amazing device. The pStyle “Stand Up and Pee!” is so easy to use. I’ve always been curious what it would be like to pee standing up, and then I discovered that there’s a product to let me do just that! I

Sexy Schrödinger – Shy Folks Hitting On People

Published on 2012-12-07 02:00:53

No one believes me when I tell them I’m shy. They protest. They point out the not-shy things I do. They occasionally suggest I’m pretending to be shy to score points with shy people. (Do shy people look up to other shy people?) But I am s

Single Men: The Peter Pans of the Lifestyle

Published on 2012-12-06 02:00:09

My husband and I have been in the Lifestyle for almost ten years now.  We’ve made the increasingly common migration from swingers to poly.  These days, we are an early forties poly couple looking for a husband. I’ve spent the summer seeking, bu

Finding My Way Through The Cornfields : Polyamorous Beginnings

Published on 2012-12-05 02:00:20

Where have I been? Where have a come from? These are questions I think about sometimes, trying to see the past so that I can make a better decision about the future. Sometimes it helps, and other times it just lets me know that even though life isn&#

Another play party: different venue, a different atmosphere and far different reactions (part 1) or BDSM is not my friend

Published on 2012-12-04 02:00:49

My name is Zoe Hanis and I have discovered that not all play parties are created equal. This one was in honor of a friend’s birthday. When the evite showed up, I immediately pounced on it excitedly. This time I was ready: no apprehension, no m

Smooth Massages Courtesy LELO: Flickering Touch Massage Oil & Candle Review

Published on 2012-12-04 01:18:35

I’m a fan of giving pleasure. I know that’s the kind of thing that people like to brag about because it makes them look good, but lately I’ve really started to enjoy giving massages. I’m nowhere near the massage guru that Dyla

SS 97: Smitten Kitten Presents The Holiday Sex Toytacular!

Published on 2012-12-03 14:42:40

Hi everybody, it’s the Life on the Swingset annual Toytacular event! We’re in year three of recommending the best and most interesting toys we’ve played with, and laughing about the worst and worst designed toys we’ve suffered

The New Normal—Readjusting to Life After Desire Resort and Spa

Published on 2012-11-29 02:00:39

A week ago, I was soaking up my last day at Desire, which always turns into a bit of a frenzy on the last day. We have things we want to do, but instead I quickly slip into my daily Desire mode on each trip. My daily Desire schedule usually consists

With This Ring – What Marriage Means to Me as a Polyamorist

Published on 2012-11-28 02:00:03

I went to therapy for the first time last week. Between the recent breakup with my (our) girlfriend, and general marital stresses at home, it was time to find someone to vent on that would actually be able to help, instead of just thoughtfully noddin

The Search for the Elusive Male Unicorn or Trying to find a Bi Guy is Damn Hard

Published on 2012-11-27 02:00:02

My name is Zoe Hanis and I have been called a unicorn. Though I am married, I have been swinging as a single playing with couples. A bit ago, Guy told me of a fantasy he has had; to be fucked while fucking someone else. The idea of watching him play

SS 96: Sex Positive Parenting with Airial Clark!

Published on 2012-11-26 14:49:25

Parenting when you’re a swinger or a polyamorist isn’t easy is most definitely not a topic that’s well documented. Luckily Airial Clark has been picking up the slack! She joins us for a conversation on how to be  a parent and strad

Review: Lux Male Stimulator LX-4 Cock Ring

Published on 2012-11-24 02:00:13

I’m kind of a cock ring connoisseur, not in the sense that I use them all the time, but in the sense that I think I understand my way around good cock rings. There are a few different types of cock rings but (at least in my head) I divide them

The Giving of the Thanks

Published on 2012-11-21 22:00:25

There is so much to be thankful for, and I must beg the indulgence of my international friends…and those that think Thanksgiving as a holiday is in poor taste be it for political, religious, or genocide related reasons. All I’ll say is th

Trip Report – Desire Resort and Spa with the Life on the Swingset

Published on 2012-11-21 02:00:00

Ms A and I listen to The Life on the Swingset podcast whenever we can. We’ve found it chock full of inspiration and education and it has helped us immensely as we’ve navigated our year and a half journey into the Lifestyle. Though we̵

Out as Polyamorous – The Family Responds

Published on 2012-11-20 02:00:34

My name is Zoe Hanis. I am polyamorous and my parents know. Earlier this week, I sent the letter to my parents and my in-laws. The email went out first thing in the morning; and the wait began. My parents were the first to respond. I found this inter

SS 95: The Swingset Takes Desire – Live With Tequila Body Shots

Published on 2012-11-19 14:17:59

Cooper, Ginger, and Dylan brought Marilyn, The Professor, Tonia, and 35 couples with them to Desire in Cancun, Mexico! 18 months of foreplay result in good feelings, a little crying, lots of sexy time, and a terribly unstructured but incredibly fun t

A review of Anything For You – Erotica For Kinky Couples – Edited by Rachel Kramer Bussel

Published on 2012-11-17 02:00:01

I love reading erotica and especially love anthologies. A well-crafted novel is always appreciated but there is a distinct pleasure in the quick short read. As editor, Rachel Kramer Bussel puts together some of the best erotic anthologies out there.

Sex is Sex is Sex With or Without Penetration

Published on 2012-11-16 02:00:55

Somehow, I managed it. To achieve that elusive disconnect between the traditional notion of sex (ie me putting my penis into things other than mouths) from the word sex. Dan Savage recently said that if there was one thing the heterosexual world coul

Marilyn & The Professor Talk Energy Play

Published on 2012-11-16 00:54:50

After an intense experience in the hot tub at Desire Resort & Spa with Life on the Swingset, Marilyn and The Professor sit down to talk about the role of energy play and Reiki, a trip to A Touch of Magic Massage by Claudia, and what a skeptic Cooper

Sex Toy Travel Tips

Published on 2012-11-14 02:00:26

I recently realized I needed to look at a whole new aspect of travel, traveling with sex toys. For the first time I found myself with a couple of items I wanted to take on a trip. I wanted to learn the best way to transport these items within the lim

Components Of Sex Work Activism

Published on 2012-11-12 17:00:06

All activism is comprised of a diversity of tactics because the movement is composed of people who possess a diversity of skills, talents, experiences, enthusiasms, and challenges to offer any movement as a whole. To speak of human rights activism as

Reality is Fleeting – The Sliding Glass Door Conundrum

Published on 2012-11-10 02:00:16

I didn’t realize the weight of the final day of a trip to paradise at Desire Resort and Spa until I felt the last day on our first trip. A pair of sliding glass doors await us all. We spend so much time in the area just outside the lobby, getti

Sexy Science with The Mayhems – Liquid Nitrogen Play

Published on 2012-11-08 02:00:08

I first experienced Liquid Nitrogen play at The Pink Party at Mission Control the first night of OpenSF. I received an email before the conference telling me that Ned and Maggie Mayhem were going to do a liquid nitrogen demo. I was excited about meet

It Won’t Stop – The Epic Prostate Orgasm

Published on 2012-11-06 13:01:47

I’ve been chasing the prostate orgasm for months, perhaps years now, the way many women chase that elusive first g-spot orgasm. And while some assholes may still question the existence of a g-spot, there’s no doubt that the prostate exist

Possibly Coming Out as Polyamorous – An Open Letter to the Folks

Published on 2012-11-06 02:00:09

My name is Zoe Hanis and I lie. Not only do I lie, but I have become excellent at it over the years. Polyamory is just now starting to become more well known.  Within the last year or two, it has been in the media more than ever before.  But it is

SS 94: Shira Takes Over the Swingset

Published on 2012-11-05 22:04:31

When the Swingers are away the Katz will play! Shira B. Katz has taken over the Swingset, and has enlisted her husband of mythical proportions Gavin Katz.  The hosts of Pedestrian Polyamory (cheap plug) aren’t necessarily talking about Polyam

Wish You Were Here – Cooper Reports from Desire Resort and Spa

Published on 2012-11-05 14:50:31

Greetings from Paradise! At this moment, I sit naked on a swinging bed near the lobby bar at Desire Resort and Spa on the Riviera Maya. Wish you were here! I really do. I wish I could share this with all of you. In the months leading up to this trip,

Little Su Tulip Vibrator and Dildo

Published on 2012-11-03 02:00:19

When I was asked if I would review toys for Life on the Swingset, I jokingly said “only if it comes with instructions” as it seems much of my experience has been fairly vanillaish. Imagine my surprise when I was given the Joya 4U Little S

Adios! Cooper Rambles His Way to Desire Resort & Spa in Cancun

Published on 2012-11-02 01:28:54

I’m taking my leave. But don’t worry, it’s just for a bit. I’m riding pretty high right now. We have around forty couples joining us in Cancun at Desire Resort & Spa for our little trip to paradise. Forty couples. It’s h

Pedestrian Polyamory 36: The Depresissode – This Time…. On Purpose

Published on 2012-10-31 19:47:40

Gavin and Shira B. Katz return to rock the mic one more time, and it's time to get all sad 'n stuff. Gavin and Shira have been dealing with depression, and give tips on how to deal with guilt, handle your own personal depression as well as dealing w

Poly in the Cornfields

Published on 2012-10-31 02:00:48

Life is different out here. I live in a city in the middle of cornfields. Most of the people out here seem to have an idea about farming, even though they aren’t farmers themselves. They tend to be fairly conservative, fairly religious, and fairly traditional. So me, the poly guy, out here in this city in the cornfields, well… let’s just say life can be interesting. It’s not that there aren’t other polyamorous people out here; there most certainly are. They’re just really hard to fin [..]

SS 93: Gang-Bang the Mailbag – Double Penetration II!

Published on 2012-10-29 13:37:01

We’re up for a second round of double penetration! That’d be double, double penetration…. Hmm… Anyway, We’re back with questions about what to do about party invitations when you have a couple that breaks up, bringing up the cultivation of poly relationships with swinger friends, long distance relationships, partners leaving the lifestyle and potentially their relationships, being and dealing with self-consciousness about cock performance and size, the “gender [..]

LGBT Oh And QP – Bisexual and Pansexual Acceptance

Published on 2012-10-26 02:00:30

I recently have done several posts about my coming out as Pansexual. However I’m seeing something that has been growing quite a bit in the back of my mind. I’ve been watching accounts that talk about the Bisexual and Pansexual experience. One of the things that I have taken note of is something that is called Bi-Phobia or Bi-erasure. It’s something that is both frightening and really interesting. Even within the LGBTQP community, the way that Bisexual or Pansexual people are viewed as eith [..]

Life Takes Another Turn… – Polyamory and Communication

Published on 2012-10-24 02:00:08

So we make it to October.  There’s a nip in the air, days are crisp, nights are becoming downright cold — perfect temperatures for wrapping yourself around a lover and warming things up to a more comfortable temperature, as in “naked cuddles and sexy time.” Not that there’s been a lot of that going on, the last few weeks.  Alas, Joe and I and the BF have all been hit with horrid colds for weeks now and to add to the fun, both of them have been buried under loads o [..]

SS 92: Gang-Bang the Mailbag – Double Penetration!

Published on 2012-10-23 12:40:03

Today on Life on the Swingset, the Podcast, we take your questions and give you sweet, delicious, custard filled answers. We talk about metamoures not getting along, reading your partners’ e-mails, the struggle to decide whether to let a swing partner cum inside your partner, swinging with a cancer conquering sexy body, our horrible, horrible fetlife profiles, our opi… well ok we covered a lot today and we’ll cover a lot next week as we run hot right up to the edge of our trip [..]

The Authoritative Guide to Safer Sex from Online Dating University

Published on 2012-10-23 01:08:33

Often I come across things out on the web that are simply the best information I’ve seen. I’d been wanting to collect data into a great safer sex guide for quite some time and then the Authoritative Guide to Safer Sex was pointed out to me from the good folks over at Online Dating University. Rather than attempt to do my own and pale in comparison, I present the opening paragraphs below and then take you right into their guide.

The Swingset Has An Orgy With Cunning Minx on Polyamory Weekly

Published on 2012-10-22 14:04:55

We’ve long been fans of Cunning Minx here at Life on the Swingset, and her long running podcast Polyamory Weekly. Because of this, we were thrilled to catch up with her at Open SF this past June and even more thrilled to start some cross pollination (that one is for you, Shira B) by first having her on our show to talk about the art of The Pick Up (but not pickup artists) and then joining her on her show to continue to flog our Progressive Swinging horse. So listen to it right here (and st [..]

The Crash Pad Series Queer Porn Review: Episode 133 – J-Bird and Lyric Seal

Published on 2012-10-20 01:00:57

In Episode 133 of The Crash Pad Series, J-Bird and Lyric Seal have stopped at The Crash Pad before going to a party. Lyric is trying to pick an outfit to wear. J-Bird chats while watching Lyric go through her outfits. J-Bird offers which outfit they like then, somewhat bashfully, also tells Lyric they would like to take them to the party as a date. It’s a bit awkward for Lyric who insists it’s not that they feel weird about J-Bird its they just don’t like the word “date.” Lyric wou [..]

Swingers Make Better Sex Partners

Published on 2012-10-19 02:00:07

Our first date had gone well. We had met for dinner and I ended up following him home. We had already had the discussion about STI testing and agreed to no sex until we were both up to date on testing.  So going to a place more private to talk seemed reasonable. Talking led to playing. I told him that I should probably go.  It had been more than a month since I had had sex and I was having trouble keeping in control. He smiled at me and told me that just because he couldn’t enter me, didn’ [..]

When to Walk Away – The Swinger Date Abort Button

Published on 2012-10-18 02:00:58

Learning how to politely say “no” is an important skill in the Lifestyle. It is especially so when going on a date with another couple. We try to choose our dates carefully by reading their profile, looking at pictures, and having an email exchange. we look for quality pictures that are in focus and give us a sense of who we might be meeting. The written profile is just as important. We are extra excited if we find wit, intelligence, and humor in the paragraphs. Really short profiles [..]

Mangasm Prostate Stimulators Edge & Rush Review

Published on 2012-10-16 19:32:22

It has been quite a while since last I got to explore a new prostate stimulator. I’ve run the gamut from cheap jelly butt plugs (hey, I was a noob, I didn’t know!) to the stainless steel monster that is the nJoy Pure Plug 2.0 (which sits on my bedside table mocking me with its size). Often I find myself feeling that, well, perhaps they’re trying too hard. Prostates are simple nerve clusters. They don’t even really need rubbing, just pressure. I often get the sense that co [..]

“To Club or not to Club?” – Clubbing vs Private Hook-Ups

Published on 2012-10-16 02:00:16

I have often heard people curious about or new to the lifestyle say “We are not ready for a club or a big party.” I have also read articles that have said it is best to “start out” in a more intimate setting, meeting another couple for a quiet evening and “see what develops”. With all due respect to the people who have this belief, and to those who give that advice to others, I beg to differ. Here’s why; Let’s say you meet a couple online and there is mutual interest, and you p [..]

SS 91: Open Sex Positivity – Spreading the Good Word

Published on 2012-10-15 12:23:38

Kendra Holliday joins us in a discussion on how to be open and sex positive while still staying friendly and approachable. Our discussion heats up when Dylan suggests that he misses Rick Santorum competing for the Republican presidential nomination because it was such a great opportunity to discuss sex positivity in comparison to the extreme positions Santorum took on… well everything from sex’s role to women’s health, and cools back down once we all figured out that we’r [..]

Is Monogamy Safety? – Competition in Non-Monogamy

Published on 2012-10-12 02:00:27

Last night a thought occurred to me (as thoughts often do while I’m trying very hard to sleep because I have to be up frightfully early) that monogamy itself may be an attempt to defend against our nature to compare and rank. I’m not speaking anthropologically, as I’m not qualified to do that, nor do I care to bother myself with such things called research. (And would never live up to Sex at Dawn.) This was just a concept that hadn’t struck me before and I felt the need t [..]

A Busy Poly Life – How YOU doin’?

Published on 2012-10-11 02:00:52

Heya, non-monogs! How’s it swingin’? Is everybody’s life awesome and full of love? I’ve been a busy kitten. For a little while there, yeah, even too busy to blog–too busy to sit down and slather my thoughts and feelings all across the computer screen for all to see. But I’m better now! I hope. A lot of things have changed since I last wrote for this website, so I want to catch y’all up a bit before I jump on in with all the things. This entry on my blog [..]

Raising Open Kids Who Understand Ethical Non-Monogamy

Published on 2012-10-10 02:00:48

There are many of you who, like me, are trying to raise children in a society that often is not particularly accepting. Society, books and movies haven’t exactly paved the way to the notion of ethical non-monogamy. We may have opened up our marriage late in the game but we’ve always been open-minded about sexuality and gender roles.  We have been trying to keep the standard narrative driven drivel to a minimum since the birth of our first. It was easier in the early years then the real chal [..]

Cult Sex Toys

Published on 2012-10-10 02:00:29

As something of a pinko commie queer, I tend to be cautious with sex toy reviews. On one hand, I get excited when packages show up in the mail and I love having a reason to romp and play sexy times. On the other hand, do we need all this crap? Does the world really need more batteries and shitty plastic and pieces of crap sex toys that break in a week and get manufactured as eco insensitive bullshit? HOWEVER, primates are a tool making species. I use all kinds of tools and we’re all out lookin [..]

Poly vs Swinging: A Different Kind of Freedom?

Published on 2012-10-09 02:00:04

My name is Zoe Hanis and I think I have discovered a huge difference between polyamory and swinging (besides the fact that swingers seem to be much better at fucking). This week has been a rough one.  It is always very hard for me to see someone that I care about in pain.  I have that “mommy instinct” to fix whatever the problem is, or at the very least, kiss it and make it better.  Unfortunately, when the relationship is only one that is in my poly web and does not directly include me, t [..]

Lelo Ina 2 Review

Published on 2012-10-09 00:01:55

The vibrator that I come back to over and over again is my Lelo Ina. From the moment I first tried the Ina I fell in love. It has become my favorite go to vibrator. It always knows what I like and need. Hits all my spots and gets me so wet. I never thought I could find another vibrator like it. I was thrilled when I heard that Lelo was bringing back new, revamped up versions of a few of their vibrators. When I saw that Ina was one of them I couldn’t wait to get my hands on it. Kept [...] [..]

SS 90: Two Years Out Of The Closet – Kendra Holliday is Open

Published on 2012-10-08 13:13:32

Two years ago a woman by the name of TBK visited us here on the Swingset to talk about her life, and her website, The Beautiful Kind. We heard back from her after she came out as Kendra Holliday and listened as she described the liberation of being out and the frustration of being under attack from all sides for her decision. Today she rejoins us and lets us know how she’s progressed on her journey from a simple webmistress to a founder of Sex Positive St. Louis, as an activist, as a mothe [..]

Composing the Relationship Contract – A Non-Monogamous Set of Vows

Published on 2012-10-05 01:17:12

There may be some ideal to aspire to where there are no rules and boundaries and instead the desire to do right by each other manages to push aside any issues, conflict. Or perhaps it’s simply that when those issues and conflict arise, it’s because that’s truly the relationship trajectory. Is this like poly Nirvana? The true apex of understanding and faith in yourself and your partner(s). Perhaps. But I’m not there yet. In fact there’s only one person I know who is [..]

Pedestrian Polyamory 35: Listener Mail: LDRs, Combined Living, and When to Fess Up

Published on 2012-10-04 02:21:49

Gavin and Shira are back again, after a long spell of not being able to share the same room let alone the same microphone they're back... with a vengeance! Gavin finally lets the Pedestrians know, exactly how did that date go? Shira talks about the personal issues that have been going on in the Katz house, as well as a preview to next weeks Depresissode. Then they once again open up the listener mail bag, and discuss the polyamorous issues of the Pedestri-nation. This episode has a wide rang [..]

Just a Typical Family Vacation – The Secret Lives of Swingers

Published on 2012-10-04 02:00:55

We are at the beach with our extended family. Kids are running about. Grandparents are resting on the deck. Siblings are floating in and out. A bucolic week on the shore. Except that Mr. D. is quietly texting five local couples. We are holding out hope that one might come through and be available to go out on a night when he stars align and we can slip away for a few hours. “Where are you going?” the relatives ask. “Why not go out with your brother and his wife?” “W [..]

Horror Is My Porn

Published on 2012-10-02 02:00:03

When I was little, I was fascinated by the horror movie section and the video rental place in my hometown. I wasn’t allowed to watch those movies and their forbidden nature beckoned me. I read the covers of every horror film in my reach while appropriate videos were selected for me. This has been a serendipitous asset during trivia games because while I may not have seen all of these movies I have bizarre facts about them tucked away in my brain because the mind is a strange and wonderful plac [..]

Don’t Be “That Guy” – Avoiding the Creepy Label

Published on 2012-10-01 02:00:05

Greetings all…One of the most common questions we get concerns single guys in the club scene and even guys who are part of couples on how they should make friends, approach potential playmates, and become welcome in a club setting. Guys, this is not to be preachy or authoritative, this is just a message of advice to both the single guys and coupled guys out there. Some of you know this well, other are still learning, some need to listen carefully. Guys, the ladies, ESPECIALLY in a club sit [..]

Too Many Hearts at Stake – A Newly Poly Sex Educator Doubts Himself

Published on 2012-09-29 01:09:23

I’ve asked myself this question several times this week. How can I educate? How can I educate when I’ve just experienced a week that made it rather abundantly clear that I don’t know what the fuck I’m doing half the time. Can I be allowed to just fall back upon that trope that says those who can’t do teach? Is that really a saying? Or just a Woody Allen joke. This week hard times were hit in the Beckett household. Storms have been brewing. We’re still very new [..]

The Crash Pad Series Queer Porn Review: Episode 132 – Betty Blac and Kitty Stryker

Published on 2012-09-28 19:38:54

Episode 132 in The Crash Pad Series features the incredible Kitty Stryker and the lovely Betty Blac. Kitty and Betty are relaxing after having gone to a play together.  Kitty really liked the play and tells Betty that some people are into dirty talk but she’s into dirty political talk. Betty thanks Kitty for the pretty flowers she brought for her.  Kitty takes a yellow flower and softly strokes Betty with it as she asks her about what her favorite flower is. She runs the soft flower over her [..]

CatalystCon: Sex Education And Activism

Published on 2012-09-28 02:00:59

Recently I had the pleasure of attending CatalystCon, a conference put together by Dee Dennis and her dedicated supporters. Dennis first created its east coast predecessor MomentumCon that took place in March in DC. MomentumCon looked to make waves in sexuality, feminism and relationships. The list of presenters was staggering and included a closing keynote plenary with Dr. Jocelyn Elders.  The growing success of MomentumCom, in its second year, brought many requests to bring the conference ou [..]

Who’s On Top? It’s All About Communication

Published on 2012-09-27 02:00:56

The next question I get when folks get past the polyamory part of the equation is, how does polyamory work exactly? These folks are most curious about the sex equation because, for some people, it is more comfortable to take my relationship down to its lowest common denominator – sex. It is more comfortable for folks to think I am with my boyfriend and my other lovers because we have great sex. And we do. But our relationship is more about relating to each other than it is about sex, as most r [..]

Relationship Repair: Have A Device-Free Day

Published on 2012-09-26 02:00:21

So yeah, life sucks right? Well no, actually. Life is pretty good for us poly pornographers, hence my absence. Too busy living it to blog much about it, so thanks for your patience with my neglect. Summer’s gone out with a bang – in a tent….because camping…and tent sex – and fall descends with a whimper. Temps are still high, things overall are pretty good. I’ve been doing this weird “making friends” thing and am hitting the bars with two kickass girlies tonight. To paraphrase a [..]

PP 34: The Myth of the Human Pheromone

Published on 2012-09-26 00:02:47

The Transient joins Shira B. Katz in this episode of Pedestrian Polyamory so that she can ramble about pheromones for an hour. (Gavin calls this making the New Kid pay his dues.) After the usual Pedestrian Affairs, Shira is off an talking about Pheromones. Do they exist in humans? What kind of pheromones are out there? Just what is a vomeronasal organ? Join Shira and The Transient as they enjoy a big bowl of I*e C***m and get nerdy.The post PP 34: The Myth of the Human Pheromone appeared first o [..]

I Kissed A Girl – Poly Zoe Moves Down the Road To Swinging

Published on 2012-09-25 09:32:13

My name is Zoe Hanis and I have discovered the terms polyamory and swinger are not mutually exclusive – oh, and I may be bisexual. I think I am starting to get the hang of swinging; though I am not convinced that it is a whole lot different from polyamory. I am not having sex with anonymous strangers nor am I having one night stands. Rather I am having sexual relationships with my friends and their friends.  It seems easy and natural. Friendship is a special type of relationship. It is an eas [..]

SS 89: Drama and Unreasonable Requests in Swinging & Polyamory

Published on 2012-09-24 17:17:06

A listener’s story about the unreasonable request from a swing friend for the husband in a couple to impregnate her, leads us into a discussion about what is acceptable and not to ask of your partners in swinging & polyamory, and also what to do when the dreaded drama rears its ugly head.

CatalystCon: An Agent of Change

Published on 2012-09-21 01:02:21

Shortly after returning from Open SF, the non-monogamy conference held in San Francisco this past June, I found myself hungry for more. Not just more of what happened outside of the sessions (if you’re unfamiliar with that story you can read about it here) but more of the actual conference experience. I learned so much from the sessions I attended at OpenSF and made connections with people who I hope are long-lasting. It also made me take a good look at where I was headed and sex education was [..]

Meet and Greet – Meeting Swingers More

Published on 2012-09-20 10:00:23

The last few months Mr. D and I have been trying to increase our success rate in the Lifestyle. Ultimately, the Lifestyle is a numbers game—for us at least, only half of the plans that we try to make work out. And from talking to friends that is typical. So we are trying to increase the times we get out there and have dates. We are also trying to attend Meet and Greets whenever possible to increase the possibility o. As a part of to this strategy, we have come to appreciate the value of the Me [..]

I’m Interested In You – Things I Have Difficulty Saying

Published on 2012-09-19 01:01:46

I’ve been trying to inform people of my interest in them more, be that interest in a sexual or romantic relationship. Because I’ve been trying to no longer live life in fear. I know that may seem like an extreme statement, but I’ve been realizing for a while now (especially after Open SF) that I’ve spent much of my adult life paralyzed by the fear of asking the question. In high school, the question was “Would you like to go on a date?” As a swinger, the quest [..]

Polyamorous Zoe Plays Well With Swingers – Her First Swinger Party Continues

Published on 2012-09-18 02:00:56

My name is Zoe Hanis and I am … confused. A couple of weeks ago I was polyamorous, able to have multiple loving relationships – my husband, my out-of-state boyfriend, my “new guy” boyfriend.  Everything was compartmentalized and simple.  It all made sense.  Sex meant something; maybe not love like the monogamous society claims, but a deeper connection never-the-less.  It wasn’t casual play. Now I am a swinger or at least I got to play on the swingset for a night at my first swinger [..]

SS 88: Polysaturation and Swing Overload – Too Much of a Good Thing

Published on 2012-09-17 00:01:37

Our good friends SFCuties asked us, “Is there a swinger version of PolySaturated, and what would it be called?” We take on this challenge tonight, going through what it feels like to experience polysaturation and smitten with what we call, “swing overload”. Shira B. Katz regales us with tales of her time at Burning Man including good times at the indoor air-conditioned sex dome, which then disintegrated into discussion about body odors in the context of orgies. Join the [..]

A Polyamorous Woman Arrives at Her First Swinger Party

Published on 2012-09-16 13:42:57

It’s now 4.30 in the morning.  I have been home from the party for about half an hour or so and have far too much in my head to even think of sleeping. Let’s back up.  All week I had been on pins and needles about attending Guy’s swing party.  But I was not going to back out.  I wanted to meet his friends, and I needed to know if I could accept this part of who he is. Guy had recently asked to be called my boyfriend instead of just “the new guy”.  To me, “boyfriend” has always [..]

Crash Pad Series Queer Porn Review: #129 – Jacques Lefemme & Ramses Rodstein

Published on 2012-09-15 08:00:21

I was waiting for the next Crash Pad Series episode to post so I decided to go back in time a bit to the episode just before rife and Vespur. I just couldn’t resist checking out what Jacques and Ramses were up to in episode 129. I guess I’m just as much a voyeur as the Crash Pad’s Keymaster. No entrance or dialog to start us off in this episode. Jacques and Ramses are face to face nearly kissing. Jacques presents Ramses with a chain collar that results in a passionate embrace followed [..]

LELO’s Tiani 2 Review

Published on 2012-09-15 00:57:29

As the male half of the Becketts, I honestly don’t get too many products to review. And usually they’re mediocre or terrible when I do. Admittedly LELO sending us a new product is a call for joy and celebration around the Beckett household, but doesn’t usually mean much for me. But the Tiani 2 caused me to take note due to promises of being a toy for couples. Way back, before The Swingset was born, before non-monogamy transformed our sex life, we bought the We-Vibe. This was a [..]

Sensual Mind Games & Giving Up Control – Humiliation in BDSM and Kink

Published on 2012-09-14 00:01:50

There’s been lots of talk about kink here on the Swingset. Recently I was approached to write about a certain brand of kink that, up until recently, hadn’t been discussed much. It happens to be the kind of kink I enjoy and it’s called erotic humiliation. In the realm of BDSM it can be an uncomfortable topic. Everyone is used to spanking, flogging, even bondage. These subjects can sometime seem, dare I say, pedestrian. Unfortunately, I don’t particularly enjoy pain play. Not on it’s own [..]

PP 33: All Shira All the Time (With Apologies)

Published on 2012-09-13 23:04:51

It's Shira's turn to go solo on Pedestrian Polyamory. Shira is back from Burning Man and won't shut up about it, even though she promised to! Hear Shira talk about her transformation between her first burn and her second and why Burning Man is responsible for Pedestrian Polyamory being a show at all. Shira also talks about.. Burning Man! And hypothetical druggy situat-i-ons, orgy domes, Tu-Tu Rapey Tuesday, and commitment ceremonies. Then she talks about... Shira! Hear about why Shira feels like [..]

Redefining Love – Embracing Polyamory and Non-Monogamy

Published on 2012-09-13 10:00:47

Whenever I reveal that I am polyamorous to someone, the first thing I usually hear is, “I could never do that.” It surprises me when I hear that from almost every monogamist I meet because my first thought upon learning about polyamory and non-monogamy was – “Wow! what a neat concept! I could totally do that.” I consider myself an open-minded, open-hearted kind of woman. I found marriage and most of my adult relationships very constrictive because of the mindset of those I fell in lov [..]

Curiosity and Fate – First Tentative Steps into the Swinging Lifestyle

Published on 2012-09-12 10:00:28

Since Anne and I opened up to our new neighbor friends about our lifestyle. Things have gotten interesting. As one would suspect, Mrs. Neighbor told Mr. Neighbor about it. When we were setting up plans to hang out again once Mr. Neighbor was back in town, I asked if she had told him about us and if we scared him. With a slight smile she replied, “Actually it’s quite the opposite.” The following weekend we got together at their place. The Neighbors made us dinner and served us wine. We [..]

Hairy Bitches: Or, How I Learned To Stop Worrying And Love My Pubes

Published on 2012-09-10 17:56:10

I remember the first time I shaved my pubes. I was a teenager and I slid up on a counter and looked my boyfriend dead in the eyes to show my bare pussy. It was as though my smooth cunt was a tractor beam that had his eyes in a solid lock that was pulling him directly into the mothership. Shaving felt taboo, dangerous, and deliberately sexual. He adored it and even I ran my fingers and palm over my own flesh amazed at its sleekness. Of course I never thought twice about shaving my armpits. At the [..]

SS 87: Gangbang the Mailbag IV: Divorce or Cheating, Nuclear Situations, New to Parties, and Escalating Friends with Benefits

Published on 2012-09-10 11:25:16

Once again Cooper shuffles over to the virtual Internet post office for the arduous job of sifting through all the spam, trolls, and coupon savers so that we can answer your questions as we gangbang the mailbag once more! Tonight we chat about the Bad-Dragon “Medium” sized Anthro-Dragon Dildo, a question about whether divorce or cheating is ever appropriate or “the right thing”,  a question about averting a situation about to go nuclear, a question forwarded to us by J. [..]

Crash Pad Series Queer Porn Review: #128 – Maggie Mayhem & Ned Mayhem

Published on 2012-09-08 08:00:11

My boyfriend and I sat down to watch episode #128 of The Crash Pad Series, not knowing exactly what to expect. We don’t watch too much porn that’s not mainstream, but I had heard of Maggie and Ned and was excited to see what kind of porn they make, and curious what we’d discover on The Crash Pad Series. One of the first things I noticed was how much giggling, laughing, and chatting occurred during the episode. I enjoyed it a lot. It was almost enough to make me forget that I w [..]

Aging in the Swinging Lifestyle

Published on 2012-09-06 10:11:25

I, Mrs. Doubleplay, will be turning the big 4-0 in two weeks. It has naturally been the subject of many conversations with my vanilla friends. I am reluctant to share the news with my lifestyle friends, however. While I know many fabulous ladies in the swinging lifestyle who are over 40 — over 50 even — I acknowledge some losses in turning 40. Or at least I perceive them as losses right now. First, meeting couples. We live in a small town in the middle of nowhere. We already swim in [..]

Whose Bed Have Your Boots Been Under? – Sleeping & Living Arrangements in Long-term Polyamorous Groups

Published on 2012-09-04 09:00:34

Several months ago my boyfriend asked me one of those really scary big questions that come up for every couple: “What comes next? Where is our relationship going?” He went on to elaborate that in a more traditional monogamous relationship, this would be the point where we’d start talking about spending more nights together, maybe eventually moving in together. The sort of conversation that signals major lifestyle-altering commitment. In our living situations, our polyamorous groups, th [..]

SS 86: Beautiful Pornography and the Art of the Blowjob

Published on 2012-09-03 16:17:02

Amidst the endless bang bus, humiliation porn, and ass to mouth videos, one site stands out as something completely different: TheArtOfBlowjob.com, featuring a gorgeous redhead named Camille Crimson giving slow, artistic, fun, and sexy blowjobs to her man. The Art of Blowjob is leading a charge toward a different landscape of porn with more beauty in it. PR and Marketing Director for The Art Of Blowjob, Sophie Delancey joins us to talk about the beautiful porn she manages, what she thinks about [..]

Crash Pad Series Queer Porn Review: #131 – April Flores

Published on 2012-09-01 01:48:20

We’re back with another review of fabulous queer porn from The Crash Pad Series! Episode #131 had something different for me, a solo performance. At first I wasn’t sure about reviewing the episode. To be honest watching another woman masturbate is usually not a big turn on for me. Yet I was instantly curious when I saw April Flores enter and look straight into the camera. She then speaks directly to the Keymaster. “I know you’re there.” she says. Ooh, this is something different! [..]

A Polyamorous Woman at a Swinger Party

Published on 2012-08-30 02:00:23

My name is Zoe Hanis and I am polyamorous. I was recently invited to a swinger party. I am seriously considering going. Much more so than I might have been even six months ago, when the idea of swinging conjured thoughts of sex with anonymous strangers and preconceived notions of a “meat-market” where people would only be interested in physical traits or coital skills. The thought of sex used only as a recreational activity, like a pick-up game of basketball, would make me nauseous, bringin [..]

Opening Up To New Friends about Swinging

Published on 2012-08-29 10:00:30

Recently Anne and I have become very good friends with a couple just down the street. All of our other good friends know about us being in the lifestyle, swinging, progressively swinging, having an open relationship, whatever we technically do. These neighbors are awesome on all counts, but we weren’t sure when or if to let them know about our relationship(s). It isn’t something we necessarily hide, but it also isn’t something you just tell people right when you meet them. However, about a [..]

SS 85: Foreplay, Fiveplay, Sixplay, Orgy!

Published on 2012-08-27 00:35:08

Foreplay… it’s what we sometimes don’t have time for, but apparently what we all desperately want more of! Whether it’s giving, receiving, taking hours, or taking a few minutes, we take the time to discuss what we like, why we like it, what we do for other people and why we do for other people and figure out that sometimes all a situation can be -is- foreplay. Ginger reveals her secret mutant ability, the stealthy surprise orgasm, Shira reveals she’s only recently g [..]

PP 32: Gavin on Gavin – An Introspective Introverted Interview with an Introvert

Published on 2012-08-24 01:24:00

Pedestrian Polyamory is back, but this time with a twist. Shira is off to Burning Man leaving Gavin alone to speak on whatever his heart desires. Gavin lets the listeners in on some of the behind the scenes of Pedestrian Polyamory, shares a deeply personal experience that has to be heard, and his thoughts on his polarizing personality. He also, reveals what the future has in store for Gavin Katz.The post PP 32: Gavin on Gavin – An Introspective Introverted Interview with an Introvert ap [..]

Getting Things Started – Starting Sexy Time as Swingers

Published on 2012-08-23 10:00:03

Six years into the Lifestyle, I’m still amazed at how awkward it can be for swingers to “get things started.” We’ll meet couple for drinks and then all agree on either a hotel or coming back to our place or theirs. It’s “on” as they say. We all know why we’re there. But once we arrive and there is a bed not so far away (or we are even sitting on the bed) it can be very hard to get naked. Even with fellow veteran couples. Even with people we have people [..]

The Agony and the Ecstasy of Porn – Is Porn Bad or Good?

Published on 2012-08-20 00:01:02

Often, as sex positive people, it’s tempting to champion porn as an absolute good. To extoll its merits and talk about broadening horizons and spreading the idea that sex is good. (A sentiment that we’re also often still amazed comes up for debate.) The trouble is, that for every open-minded person who longs to create something of value in porn (and of course make money as they do it, I don’t believe that we have porn messiahs riding into town to selflessly produce porn for hum [..]

Sex Addiction? I Just Love Sex and Can’t Get Enough of It…

Published on 2012-08-17 10:00:54

Let me state the following rather emphatically. There is no sex addiction! There is, however, an attempt to pathologize sexual behaviors society doesn’t approve of, as when we “convince” the “sex-addict” that he/she does indeed have an “addiction”. No one has ever been able to convincingly tell me exactly what a sex addiction is all about. I understand sexual compulsion and associated dysfunctional behaviors….but not addiction. Sexual behaviors that have gone [..]

Summer Swingfest – Swinging in the Rockies

Published on 2012-08-16 09:00:46

I glance out my window at the beautiful terrain of the Rocky Mountains as we head towards Monarch, Colorado, my body electric with  excitement about our weekend at a mountain swingers festival. Thanks to Exotic Travel, we are about to partake in a full takeover of a mountain clothing optional resort by outdoor enthusiasts, most who are seeking a weekend of adult fun time and friendship. This is our second year at the resort, and I’m especially excited at the amount of people we know at th [..]

PP 31: Listener Mail – Dutch Rudders, Swing Fidelity, Bizzaro Shira, and the Fear of Rejection

Published on 2012-08-16 00:03:25

Mail bag time! Shira and Gavin are back once again to answer listener mail. This episode deals with going dutch in polyamorous dating, swingers having metamour drama, when to tell a date that you are poly, and getting over the fear of rejection. The Katz' also dive into their personal lives a bit, Shira's dating a bunch, Gavin's not dating at all... yeah, yeah, I know. You're sick of reading it, I'm sick of writing it, you'd think by know they'd be sick of talking about it. Listen to Pedest [..]

Experts, My Ass – A Polyamory TV Show and Relationship Dynamics

Published on 2012-08-15 09:03:35

It’s no great shock that Showtime’s newest hit “Polyamory: Married and Dating” has created buzz.  Relationship bloggers — mono and non-mono — have beaten the piss out of it, “experts” have declared this, that and the other bullshit, and I’m not going there.  The subject did, however, inspire a train of thought on relationship dynamics in general and the fact that, as with polyamory, everyone does things  differently. Take Couple/Triad/What [..]

SS 84: Cultivating Swinging & Polyamorous Relationships

Published on 2012-08-13 12:10:06

We explore cultivating relationships from both the swinging perspective and polyamorous perspective. Ginger feels ready to get out there and meet some women to date. Cooper has an important (and easy) relationship discussion with his girlfriend about their involvement level and expanding his dating. Time is a very important factor, as is relationship structuring, but it can be hard going in with very low expectations. Google Calendar again emerges as the cornerstone of non-monogamy. Shira talks [..]

Adam & Eve’s Helmet Hugger Masturbator Review

Published on 2012-08-13 02:09:43

“With a name like Helmet Hugger…” There’s a reason that I don’t trust most strokers (Re: There’s a reason I ONLY trust Tenga Eggs) they’re mostly shit. When I was handed the helmet hugger by the lovely people at Chicago’s awesome Early To Bed boutique, I looked at it skeptically because it had a lot to live up to, and it wasn’t winning me over with the smarmy picture of “Model:Mike” on the box. The lack of materials listing on the [..]

PP 30: Postulant Polyamory – Jealousy, How We Did 29 Episodes on Polyamory Without Talking About It.

Published on 2012-08-08 01:55:04

Gavin is taking the reigns once again, and this time he is putting Shira through her worst nightmare: conversations about Jealousy. Before they get into the topic, Gavin and Shira ONCE AGAIN try to make their voice clear on the topic of privilege (last time, I swear... probably... maybe). Gavin then leads us through the topic of jealousy, what it is, what it means, how to deal, and the best cleaning solutions to get the shit off your floor. Shira meanwhile kicks and pouts as she usually does [..]

How To Hide A Sex Swing

Published on 2012-08-07 02:00:07

So, you’ve done it! You’ve purchased a sex swing! You’ve gone ahead and joined the ranks of….the people with sex swings. It’s safe to say you’re not playing at the amateur level anymore. Congratulate yourself on your excitement, your pervy-ness, and most importantly, your willingness to hang yourself (or others) from the ceiling. Most people don’t give it much of a thought when purchasing the swing, but in order to make sure no one crashes down to the gr [..]

SS 83: The Pick-Up In Non Monogamy with Cunning Minx

Published on 2012-08-06 13:27:35

The Pick-up, we discuss vanilla pick-up culture briefly while moving into how to be picked up, how to message people online, and meeting people in real life. The concept of a codex, or a user manual (RTFM!) for potential hookups and dating partners to use comes up and we spend a lot of time figuring out what goes into it and what it actually means. While we lose a Ginger this episode, we pick up a Cunning Minx and have a great time!

Lover’s Knot Jute Bondage Ropes Review

Published on 2012-08-04 01:40:25

Nothing feels as exquisite and erotic as when I feel ropes tightening against my skin. I close my eyes and take in the feel of the silky fibers. I am taken away to my passionate, erotic place. I got this incredible feeling as the Lovers Knot Natural Jute bondage ropes were wrapped around my wrists. The fibers were so soft, pliable and crisp as I rubbed them gently between my fingers. You can tell a lot of time, effort and care was put into making both the Natural and Lust style jute ropes. The N [..]

Is Social Networking Afraid of Sex?

Published on 2012-08-03 02:12:08

Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, Fetlife, Tumblr, all of these Social Networking sites have vastly different policies when it comes to depictions of sex. Under the guise of “Community Standards” Facebook clearly states that images of nudity are forbidden except under very strict guidelines like Fine Art or breastfeeding. Twitter’s policy is fairly clear that no “Pornography” is allowed, however “Porn” stars are becoming the biggest and smartest Twitter user [..]

Our First Single Male Meet Up – An MFM Threesome

Published on 2012-08-02 02:01:04

Our last two lifestyle experiences have been rather frustrating for me, Mrs. D. After a four-month hiatus due to business travel, I was ready to get fucked. And while I truly enjoy seeing my husband fuck hot women, I have felt short-changed in recent adventures as both times the male in the relationship has had performance issues. Mr. D and I have been talking about contacting a single guy, but we were afraid to take that step. We certainly had been discussing it during our dirty talk in the bed [..]

Explorations Into Openness – Beginning Non-Monogamy

Published on 2012-08-01 02:00:07

When I set out to write this, the first official post of this blog, I wanted to allow readers a glimpse into who I was and what I was about, which meant actively engaging the part of my brain and psyche that could answer that question – Who is Lexy? How did she get here? Where was she going and was she happy? I’ve been non-monogamous all my life, even before I knew what it was. Even when I was married and both my ex-husband and I indulged in lurid affairs that destroyed relationships, in [..]

Every Moment Matters – Polyamorous Down Time

Published on 2012-07-25 02:00:31

Hey!  How the hell is everyone?  Great! How are we?  We’re great too. That is all.  Really.  Not much is going on here, I’m happy to say.  Yep.  Happy. Joe and I went camping last weekend and it was a “Family Fun Fest with the in-laws, chilling at the beach by the lake, camping in the woods” kinda weekend.  He kept in touch via text with his girlfriend L.  I kept in touch with boyfriend A via same.  We got sunburns, ate junk food, took turns scaring raccoons awa [..]

Polysaturation: Practicality vs Idealism – Polyamory Filling Your Life

Published on 2012-07-24 02:00:00

One of the biggest issues I’ve been struggling with in my current relationship dynamic is the idea of “polysaturation.” For those who don’t know, polysaturation is the point in polyamory at which a person is in so many relationships that they don’t have the time and energy to devote to any more. It is maximum relationship capacity. The reason this is a struggle for me is because on a practical level, I understand polysaturation, and feel like I’m getting there in my o [..]

SS 82: Geeksexuality – Making Porn, Bisexual Males, Bush, & Quantum Physics

Published on 2012-07-23 13:26:16

We are joined by Ned & Maggie Mayhem, geeksexual porn stars whose mantra is to just be themselves in porn. We gush over them a while, Cooper admits their site is the first porn site he’s ever paid for. The discussion leads to making porn, bringing toys into the bedroom, male use of the Hitachi Magic Wand, male bisexuality in porn, and identifying as queer. Show Links: MeetTheMayhems.com Professor Mayhem Tutors James Darling CrashPadSeries.com Jiz Lee’s Karma Pervs MissMaggieMayhem.co [..]

Shame, Bisexuality and Swinging

Published on 2012-07-20 02:00:57

After many years of secrets and shame, I told my wife that I had always been curious to experience sex with a man and that I was far kinkier than I had shared. I had denied this part of myself, repression wrapped in shame and hidden away from the world. Opening up to these secrets led to a series of conversations with my wife where I shared all of myself for the first time. While she was surprised, she did not run or feel betrayed. Instead, she worked to understand me and in the process got in t [..]

Erectile Dysfunction Etiquette in Full Swap Situations

Published on 2012-07-19 02:00:59

Another blog, another story of meeting a couple fairly new to the lifestyle and yet interested in a full swap situation with a husband who has erectile dysfunction. I am a frustrated gal, I tell you. So I’m just going to tell it like it is. Consider the letter below an etiquette guide for men having trouble “getting it up” in a swinger situation.

Keeping It Simple – Respect & Honesty in Polyamory

Published on 2012-07-18 02:50:48

Joe and I like kissing.  A lot.  By this (in addition to the joys of rampant face-suckery), I mean the old saw:  Keep It Simple, Stupid. Upon deciding to follow through with non-monogamy, the question of how came up.  The two most important factors were also the most obvious:  respect and honestly.  These go without saying and should be the foundation of any relationship, especially one with the potential complications of non-monogamy.  Love is not enough.  We’ve all seen toxic cou [..]

E[lust] #38 – Sexy Articles, Erotica, Sex Blogs and More

Published on 2012-07-17 21:39:28

Photo courtesy of Lucy and Alex of A Couple of Wankers Welcome to e[lust] - The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at e[lust]. Want to be included in e[lust] #39? Start with the newly updated rules, come back August 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates! ~ Top 3 ~ Wrong On Every Level [..]

Origins of Star and the Constellation – A Polyamorous Family

Published on 2012-07-17 02:00:12

One of the most common questions that I’ve been asked about my lifestyle is “how did you get started?” Though my origin story is not one with whirlwind romance, wild adventure, or radioactive spiders, I think that it differs enough from many of the writers here on the Swingset to be worth telling. To start with, I’m sharing a new diagram of my Constellation. When I first started writing, we were a family of five that were fairly easy to represent with my little star-chart, especi [..]

SS 81: Open SF Debrief III – Learning to Speak Up, Browsing SF, and a Farewell Lunch

Published on 2012-07-16 15:50:44

We finish our debrief from our experience at Open SF Non-Monogamy Conference. We discuss seminars we attended, Dylan laments falling asleep, Cooper explains how The Brown Eyed Girl took them all out for a spin around town and how he learned to ask for what he wants, we break in the middle for a little discussion on companies who take public stances on issues, and we end with a farewell lunch on Monday with Pepper Mint. Donate to Open SF to help guarantee its return. Join the Swingset crew at  [..]

Vamp Silicone’s Talula G2 Silicone Dildo Review

Published on 2012-07-14 02:00:25

I love huge, thick dildos. Especially firm ones with balls. One that feels soft and sleek like a real cock would. The Talula G2 from Vamp Silicone is all of these things and more. The Talula G2 has a very unique angle that I’ve never used or seen before. It has a 45 degree angle on it so it sits more comfortably against my pussy and slides upwards as it enters. It wasn’t heavy or floppy as I wore I with my strap-on and perfectly hit my girlfriend’s g-spot everytime. It’s [..]

Seeking My Inner Child – Looking Into Polyamory

Published on 2012-07-12 02:00:09

For a while now, my cousin, Kiko, and I have shared dialogue about polyamory and open relationships. I so enjoy these conversations, because, while we rarely agree, we are always respectful with each other about our opinions.  I think I also enjoy it because, like me, he is seeking to understand something that is unfamiliar to him.  My whole life I have struggled with understanding relationships and understand people’s behavior while in relationships. When I was in high school, I was continu [..]

PolyFidelity Or “Holy Fuck, What Now?”

Published on 2012-07-11 02:00:28

Recently I tweeted employing the term PolyFidele, indicating a state of polyfidelity seasoned with a little French panache because I’m a Quebecer now and that’s the kind of shit qu’on fait.  Whether or not one is perfectly bilingual, after a few years here, some things are simply best said in French. I stopped cold and thought (in English) “Holy shitballs. What did I just say?”  Polyfidelity:  a term least understood by the monogamous, many of whom have difficult [..]

Intermission – Swinging Takes a Holiday

Published on 2012-07-10 02:00:25

Anne and I have been out of the scene for a bit. I don’t really know why. Obviously because of this these blog posts have slowed to a trickle. I think this is just the natural ebb and flow of our own relationship. Everything seems cyclical sometimes. Flowing back and forth. Focusing on us and bringing others to bed. High libido and low libido. Stress and relaxation. Meeting new people and seeing old friends. All of these things and more come and go at different times. Sometimes things get in t [..]

SS 80: Open SF Debrief II – Magic Brownies, Presentations, Hot Tubs, Flirting, & Sex

Published on 2012-07-09 10:00:20

We continue our debrief from our experience at Open SF Non-Monogamy Conference. We discuss seminars we attended, including Charlie Glickman, Tristan Taormino, and the presentation we gave. Cooper gets a magic brownie and tries to pick up a Brown-Eyed Girl, and talks about how incredibly charming The Professor is. The gang goes on a San Francisco odyssey to find a hot-tub in the hills, and Dylan gets a girl. Donate to Open SF to help guarantee its return. Join the

Vibrating Pleasure Periscope – Sex Toy Review

Published on 2012-07-07 03:00:25

The box containing California Exotic Novelties’ Vibrating Pleasure Periscope makes a number of bold claims, all of which the toy itself completely fails to live up to. The packaging assures me that I will be able to “explore the innermost hidden recesses of [my] pleasure zones.” It’s clearly a novelty toy, and my expectations were low to begin with, but this piece of flimsy white plastic managed to fall so spectacularly far below them that it found a home somewhere in the Marianas Trench [..]

California’s Proposed Multiple Parents Bill

Published on 2012-07-06 03:00:00

The conservative right has long been doing their best to illegitimize any family that doesn’t fit within their narrow definition of “traditional.”  (The absurdity, of course, is that real families never really fit the mold into which conservatives now want to shoehorn everyone.)  A family, so they say, ought to consist of a mother and father raising their (preferably) biological children.  All across the U.S., they’ve been attempting to legally define marriage as an a [..]

PP 29: Listener Mail – Gay Pride, All Privilege and Full Disclosure

Published on 2012-07-05 18:40:21

Shira B goes to the San Francisco Pride Parade and regales you with tales of terror in the streets of San Francisco. Pissing, shitting, and domestic violence, oh my. Then the Katz hit the listener mail bag to give the Pedestrians a differing view on privilege and political correctness. Other topics include: more Gavins, disclosing polyamory to casual lovers, and newbie pitfalls in opening up long term relationships. Listen to some uncensored Katz commentary. (Unless they're talking about I#@ Cr [..]

Getting Our Groove Back – Back to a Swingers Club

Published on 2012-07-05 04:01:05

We are back after taking a four month hiatus from the lifestyle. Mrs. D was out of the country travelling for business in places where the lifestyle doesn’t really exist at all. In this country, Mrs. D wearing a one piece bathing suit caused eyebrows to raise, let alone her usual sexy attire. We have been anxious to get back into the mix since she returned. Scanning the possibilities for a Saturday night, we ended up deciding to hit the road and visit a club a couple of hours away from us. It [..]

I’ve Got Big Balls – Polyamory Favors The Bold

Published on 2012-07-04 10:23:30

In case you haven’t noticed yet, I’m kind of a ball busting bitch.  On purpose.  It’s an integral part of the vetting process, with which I weed out the lame and the halt — or as pertains to socializing with strangers on the internet:  the douchebags and the freaks.  As a very, VERY strong woman, the only men who can handle me are men at least as strong as I am who know what they want and go the fuck after it when they want it. Enter Greek A. Expressed interest, kept [..]

Outsourcing Emotion & Sexuality in Polyamory & Swinging

Published on 2012-07-03 02:00:50

It’s an interesting term and idea to be sure, this idea of non-monogamy being a way to outsource emotion and sexuality. It could also be thought of as a rather cold or unfeeling term. Trivializing even. I am simultaneously cursed and blessed with the ability to step back and evaluate my emotions and life with a modicum of detachment. The curse of this is I’m often struck by the absurdity of emotion. The blessing is that this objectivity allows me to take a deep breath and change my p [..]

Pleasurists Edition 180 – Sex Toy Reviews & Contests

Published on 2012-07-01 09:01:11

Image courtesy of Bzzingbee Welcome to Pleasurists, a round-up of the adult product contests, giveways, and sex toy reviews that were posted and submitted approximately between June 10th and June 24th. If you like what you see consider following the RSS Feed and Twitter for updates on further editions. Did you miss edition 179? Read it all here. Do you have a review for edition 181? Be sure to read the submission guidelines and then use the submission form to submit before Sunday June 17th @ 11: [..]

I Rub My Penguin & Flower Power Vibrator Sex Toy Reviews

Published on 2012-06-30 12:00:06

I love the cute toys, especially when they’re as cute as the offerings from Big Teaze Toys. They have a variety of vibes to play with: rubber duckies, wormies, flowers, penguins, rockets, and aliens. All are adorable and come in a variety of speeds, styles, colors, sizes, and some are even waterproof. They really have something for everyone. I was so happy and excited to receive three charming vibes from Big Teaze Toys, to open up the package from them and see an I Rub My Penguin, a purple [..]

PicoBong’s Kaya Rabbit Vibrator & IPO Finger Vibrator Reviews

Published on 2012-06-30 00:01:23

I have tried my share of vibrators, clit toys, G-Spot toys, dildos, harnesses, and all sorts of sexy toys. So after many reviews I know what I like and what works for me. A few of my favorite vibes and toys come from Lelo. I trust them and they produce some of best high quality sex toys out there. So when I heard about PicoBong, a fun new brand from Lelo, I was very intrigued by what they had to offer. They have rabbit vibes, clit vibes, finger vibes, mini vibes, plug vibes, duo vibes, G vibes, [..]

Swinging Advice: Post Orgasm Etiquette

Published on 2012-06-29 12:00:27

We here at The Swingset are always happy to help with any questions or concerns you have, please don’t hesitate to ask! Q. We’re off to our first swingers club on Saturday (inspired by your excellent podcast!). We’ve re-listened to your earlier podcasts and have a good idea what to expect, but Steve has a major question. . . . If we get lucky and end up having sex with another couple (we’re up for full swap), what is the etiquette for a man AFTER you’ve come – ok [..]

The Brown-Eyed Girl

Published on 2012-06-27 00:01:37

She’s a brown-eyed girl, and Van Morrison scored our meeting in my mind. She had questions for me. How convenient. With a motive to meet, I didn’t have to see her across the room and attempt to drum up the courage. Though I surely would have made that try. And after all, here I was in San Francisco, a city that I was sure may afford me some sort of plenary indulgence when it comes to confidence. Surely after presenting to a nice crowd at a non-monogamy conference, surely with half a [..]

The Geisha Transformed Pt II: The Open SF Conference Experience

Published on 2012-06-26 08:00:27

Read Part I here It felt like an eternity between the day I bought my conference ticket and the day I got on the plane to The Open SF Conference in San Francisco. There were lots of experiences along the way that changed the dynamic of the weekend. I had been writing for the website, interacting with the cast online, had developed a close online relationship with Cooper and started to gain more followers on twitter. I would be going to Open SF not as a passive observer and a fan but as a more [..]

SS 78: In Bed With The Swingset – Flirting, Drinking, Safe Words, A Sex Toy Box, & Chaos

Published on 2012-06-25 08:00:53

The Swingset crew is drinking in bed together at the Open SF conference. For a good long while we giggle and talk of almost nothing. Dylan shamelessly flirts with the ladies. We move on to talking about Dom/sub play, and Cooper’s fears getting into it. The discussion leads to relationship safe words and the Get Out of Jail Free Card in dealing with relationship conflict. We talk aftercare and then dig into Cooper’s sex toy box while Dylan just wants to make out with Ginger’s [..]

Switch: Between Dom & sub – A BDSM Interlude

Published on 2012-06-25 07:00:44

I am Dom, and I am sub. Two women. Two scenes. One night. Never really went there before. Have considered, have tried. Never actually let go. When I am Dom, I know she wants to be humiliated, to be held down, to be called a whore and a cunt and fucked. When I am sub, I discover that I want to have choices taken from me, to be treated however my Mistress feels I should. Both in an evening for the first time, in a city far away enough and different enough, and unique enough to be a product of my [..]

A review of Mother/Daughter Sex Advice by Susie Bright & Aretha Bright

Published on 2012-06-24 00:01:56

As a mother of a young tween daughter I was very excited to hear about Mother/Daughter Sex Advice. Although our talks at the moment are very basic we will be venturing down the paths of this book. I’ve been a fan of Susie Bright ever since a friend highly recommended her books and website in a blog post. While perusing the site I found an interview clip with Tristan Taormino about her new book Opening Up. That day I signed up for email updates and have followed Susie ever since. It would be so [..]

Custom Strap-On Harness from The Dandy Fox

Published on 2012-06-23 12:00:24

I wish I could have a cock sometimes. I love how it makes me feel. All powerful and dominant. I know having a real cock will never happen so having a strap-on harness is the next best thing. When I have the right harness it feels like is truly a part of my body. I have tried numerous harnesses before and many are good. The main thing that bothers me with them is the time that it takes away from playtime by having to put it on and make adjustments. You tend to lose some of the intensity of the [. [..]

Off To The Bubble – Searching For Understanding, Affection, Sex, & Connection in San Francisco

Published on 2012-06-22 02:00:29

The weekend is faded and hazy, as though it’d been run through a gauzy filter, or a lens with vaseline on it. How did I start to lose it so quickly and why? With an extra two hours to ponder as our flight has been delayed I’m able to reflect and look back. But already I wonder is it possible that everything that happened actually had? In such a short time at such a short conference. (Open SF REALLY only ran two days, when all was said and done…) As the clarity of experience is [..]

PP 28: Just Correct!

Published on 2012-06-22 00:53:59

Hot off the heels of OpenSF Gavin and Shira are here to decompress all over you. First Shira reveals the details of her next speaking appearance (*hint* CatalystCon ). Then the Katz' share the highs from the entire conference, but you can't have high high's without some eventual low low's. Shira and Gavin have both been experiencing various degree's of over sensitivity surrounding language. Gavin discuss his feelings on the misuse of the word 'Privileged'. Shira tells a story revolving arou [..]

The Geisha Transformed Pt I: The Road to the Open SF Conference

Published on 2012-06-21 12:00:46

My husband turned to me as I prepared to leave for The Open SF Conference and told me that this trip would be transformative. We’ve had many talks about my upcoming trip to the non-monogamy conference but this comment was rather unexpected. He continued to tell me he thought I would return a different person but in a positive way. I shrugged it off wondering how a weekend conference would be “Transformative.” You need to know my journey up to this point to see that he was right. I [..]

The State of the Stables – Polyamory Boyfriend Prospects

Published on 2012-06-20 12:00:24

The stables….the Prospects…those ever in flux fellas I’m chatting up or have perhaps begun dating, ever hopeful that someone will have the stamina to hang in there and make it to PolyBoyfriend.  I envision them patiently ensconced in their stalls, quietly massive, awaiting my decision, time and interest, and perhaps stamping an impatient hoof, anticipating our evenings together, and the day I finally throw a saddle over a strong back, cinch it tight and take my chosen new moun [..]

The Rules – Constant Communication in Polyamorous Relationships

Published on 2012-06-19 12:00:08

I live by two non-negotiable rules in my relationships, which are the foundation for my sense of security and trust with any other human being and the starting point from which all other relationship boundaries are built. The rules are, “Talk about everything, all the time,” and “No surprises.” The first rule is the most important, as the second is something of an offshoot from it, but these are the standards to which I hold myself and the people with whom I surround myself. Talk about e [..]

Fears and Self Loathing on the Way To San Francisco

Published on 2012-06-18 12:00:48

Lying in bed, the night before this big trip to San Francisco, I came to what I perceive as an important (and rather surprising to me) revelation about myself. Many of my big concerns in life are fictions. There are people in my life, who upon reading that sentence, would assure me that this is true of most people, and most worries, concerns, etc. That concept isn’t new to me, and I agree whole heartedly that many of my big worries in life are baseless, or at the very least pre-mature. But [..]

Pleasurists Edition 179 – Sex Toy Reviews & Contests

Published on 2012-06-17 12:00:10

Image courtesy of Chris Kinnk* Welcome to Pleasurists, a round-up of the adult product contests, giveways, and sex toy reviews that were posted approximately between May 27th and June 10th. If you like what you see consider following the RSS Feed and Twitter for updates on further editions. Did you miss edition 177? Read it all here. Do you have a review for edition 179? Be sure to read the submission guidelines and then use the submission form to submit before Sunday June 17th @ 11:59pm Pacific [..]

SS 77: Sex With Benefits – Progressive Swinging – Live From The Open SF Conference

Published on 2012-06-15 11:58:05

The Swingsetters are live in San Francisco at the Open SF Conference on non-monogamy to discuss Progressive Swinging, where swingers are gradually sliding down the spectrum toward long term relationships, and even !!GHASP!! love. We take questions from the audience and Cooper gets all riled up. Join the

PP 27: Voyeurism and Exhibitionism

Published on 2012-06-14 23:35:23

Not much going on in Shira and Gavin-land, but before they dive into the topic of the day, they do have a warm thank you to all the Berries in the world.  Shira and Gavin this week dive into the world Voyeurism and Exhibitionism, and share their own personal views on the topics.  Our duo also discusses paraphilia, soft-exhibitionism, Girls Gone Wild, sex in public, and of course, somehow find a way to explain how all of this fits into a podcast about polyamory.

That Thang We Do – Communication in Polyamory

Published on 2012-06-13 12:00:03

A while back, I wrote a post that was mainly a FAQ about OUR version of polyamory, as well as an update about our cast of characters for anyone who was having trouble keeping track of B, T, L, F and who others were/are.  This was in response to questions I get on a fairly regular basis from readers, fans, and of course, real-life Prospects who may or may not be polyamorous or familiar with the concept at all. Focusing more on the mechanics today, let’s address another common question I ge [..]

Following My Open Sexuality Down The Rabbit Hole

Published on 2012-06-11 12:00:07

“I’m a little bit afraid of you,” she told me, shyly hiding beneath a throw pillow. “Afraid of me?” I was surprised. I felt like I’d restrained myself rather nicely. The day had been spent drinking wine at a massive tasting with a mixed group, so I hadn’t been excessively evangelical. Sure, my girlfriend Mae was with us, and she’d been introduced as such. Sure, I’d talked about Tristan Taormino and POSSIBLY about sex toys at one point. (The [..]

Pleasurists Edition 178 – Sex Toy Reviews & Contests

Published on 2012-06-10 12:00:27

Image courtesy of Epiphora* Welcome to Pleasurists, a round-up of the adult product contests, giveways, and sex toy reviews that were posted approximately between May 13th and June 3rd. If you like what you see consider following the RSS Feed and Twitter for updates on further editions. Did you miss edition 177? Read it all here. Do you have a review for edition 179? Be sure to read the submission guidelines and then use the submission form to submit before Sunday June 10th @ 11:59pm Pacific Tim [..]

Lelo Billy – Anal Sex Toy Review

Published on 2012-06-09 12:48:29

The Lelo Billy is part of Lelo’s Homme line of products and is billed as “The Most Sophisticated Gentleman’s G-spot Massager” on Lelo’s website. Lelo has created a beautiful and fun product in the Billy, but I am not convinced that sophisticated is the right word. I found the Billy to be a fairly straightforward and simple prostate toy that has a few flaws. The Billy arrived as with all Lelo toys in a very high quality box containing the Billy, a charger, and a cloth bag for storage. [..]

The Late Bloomers – Becoming a Swinging Couple

Published on 2012-06-08 12:00:27

I’m what you might call a late bloomer. Not that we haven’t tried to go down the road towards non-monogamy before, we just never really got to our destination. We spent lots of time trying to get directions then making wrong turns followed by an extended stay at a rest stop to start a family. Years later we needed to figure out where the passion had gone. Sex is Fun led us to Life on the Swingset and the idea of trying to open up again. A lot of work went into this. It’s not a fun story so [..]

The Numbers Game – Potential Polyamory Metamours

Published on 2012-06-06 12:00:00

Happy Hump Day, Swingsetters!  I do so hope you’ll get your hump on today, in some form.  Damn skippy, I plan to, being the hump-positive little thing I am.  Mina here aka The Poly Pornogapher, and perhaps I should introduce myself.  No doubt, you’ve peeked at the little bio below my blog, and if you haven’t, allow me to direct you to do so. Read it?  Good.  That pretty much sums who I am and what the deal is with me.  I’ve been sharing my dabblings in polyamory vi [..]

A Response to Dylan’s Poly Mismatch from Ep 73

Published on 2012-06-05 12:00:26

We received this very well thought out response from Open Source Heart to Dylan’s business from Episode 73 of Life on the Swingset: The Podcast, where he talked about bringing a new potential poly match home to meet Tonia.

SS 76: Gang-Bang The Mailbag III – Jealousy in Open Relationships

Published on 2012-06-04 11:13:55

We return to the mailbag, still full after last week to discuss a number of jealousy related issues. A newly poly girl is uncomfortable with her husband dating his monogamous ex girlfriend, what is the difference between different flavors of non-monogamy, is jealousy healthy, does it show your partner that you care? Join the Swingset crew at Desire Resort & Spa from November 3-10, 2012!

Petite Vibrating Nipple Teasers Review

Published on 2012-06-02 12:02:27

​I absolutely love nipple play. Be it by myself, other woman, or men I find it very sensual and erotic. At even the slightest touch of my nipples I giggle and tingle all over. With a bit more play I get so wet it runs down my leg. It’s quite a sight to see. I fell in love with my first set of nipple clamps many years ago. They really turned me on and I looked so hot with them on. So I was excited when I was lucky enough to receive a set of Petite Vibrating Nipple Teasers from [...]

Living It Live: The 24/7 Web Cam Exhibitionist

Published on 2012-06-01 12:04:52

Hello there! Spying on me, huh? I can’t blame you; I have an unconventional life. Another reason I can’t blame you for peeping on me (you naughty thing) is that I’m the one who made it possible. I opened the door and let you in. I invited you into my home and made my whole darn life available for your viewing pleasure 24/7. Whether you’re in Canada or Cambodia, baby, I’m here for you. Perhaps you want a quick peek to see what I’m up to, like that time you caught me naked in shower or [..]

Like a Couple of Teenagers – The Joys of Making Out

Published on 2012-05-31 12:00:27

I’ll admit, I haven’t really spent a whole lot of time making out since…say…college. Certainly not since the beginning of my relationship with Marilyn (which, of course, was in college.) I remember the first time I made out with a girl, in high school, in the basement, while my parents had guests over upstairs. Guests who were well aware that me and my new girlfriend were going downstairs to make out, and who made a point to talk loudly every time they passed the basement [..]

PP 26: Listener Mail – Bring the Boise

Published on 2012-05-30 21:25:14

Yea, I realize that looks like this is an episode about the Capital of Idaho… it’s not, not even a little bit. But if I just wrote ‘Bring the Boys’ you would might miss the whole Old School Rap theme that Shira makes us do.  Anyway, in this episode Shira and Gavin (who refers to himself in the third person apparently) talk about Gavin dealing with Polyamory Rookie BS.  Shira explains how the Transient has now Transcended to being Trans.  Then we open up the mail bag [..]

Being Out As Bisexual

Published on 2012-05-30 12:00:59

I finally told most of my friends about being bisexual. I had talked about wanting to tell people previously. A lot of my good and long time friends came into town to celebrate the 30th birthday of one of our friends, though he was not yet in town. The rest of us had gathered at a bar that eventually led us back to someone’s house. As usual when we all get together the drinks did floweth. At some point I was talking about how I decided to brush my teeth that morning with my left hand. For the [..]

SS 75: Gang-Bang The Mailbag II – Oral Sex & Cum, Bad Swinging Experiences, Drinking, Chemistry, & Primary Partners

Published on 2012-05-29 12:00:40

To celebrate our 75th episode we go back to gang-banging the mailbag for another listener question episode. We get excited that Shira’s transient boy is staying in America and Cooper is narrating Tristan Taormino’s radio show. Our ire is raised that the Catholic church is suing about birth control. Then our listeners ask us to talk about spanking, kinks to watch, revisiting oral sex to talk about cum, the girls talk about how much they enjoy watching men ejaculate, how to bounce back [..]

Cobra Libre Male Masturbator Review

Published on 2012-05-26 12:00:36

The future of male masturbation. Maybe I wasn’t promised this directly by the company, but this seemed to be the word coming down the pipeline as we all waited for the Cobra Libre to be in stock. With its sleek lines and its rolled front, not only did we have no idea how large this thing was, but it looked like a futuristic cross between a car and a Dust Buster. If it had neon striping it could well be a light cycle from Tron III: The Sexcade. I’ve had mixed luck with male masturbat [..]

Pleasurists Edition 177 – Sex Toy Reviews & Contests

Published on 2012-05-25 23:21:25

Image courtesy of Pixel*Welcome to Pleasurists, a round-up of the adult product contests, giveways, and sex toy reviews that were posted approximately between May 6th and 20th. If you like what you see consider following the RSS Feed and Twitter for updates on further editions. Did you miss edition 176? Read it all here. Do you have a review for edition 177? Be sure to read the submission guidelines and then use the submission form to submit before Sunday May 27th @ 11:59pm Pacific Time. *Pleasu [..]

Body Positivity and Penis Size – What You Have Versus What it Does

Published on 2012-05-23 12:00:30

I will confess, this post is not directly about swinging, poly, etc. However, as a sexually liberated group, I felt like I needed to share my feelings on a particular issue with this readership. Penis size judgement. I have fallen madly in love with the body-positive movement. Let’s do away with body shaming of all kinds, and teach people who the only person who needs to love a body is its owner. Your value judgment is not a part of my body. I am in favor of this, and women everywhere are [..]

Save the Last Dance for Me – Fear of Inequality in Swinging

Published on 2012-05-22 12:00:50

Recently, I had a doubt. It was a subtle thing that played nearly silently in my mind but over time the doubt became troubling. It had to do with the fear of inequality in swinging. Part of opening up a relationship means lots of discussions that for us are sometimes overly analytical and other times purely emotional. I was surprised to find out we weren’t exactly equal in what we wanted. The initial plan was to stick together during the entire swinging experience but over time we realized tha [..]

Swinging & Changing Relationship Dynamics

Published on 2012-05-21 12:00:29

One of the most difficult things to manage in non-monogamous relationships is the changing dynamic you can develop with your external relationships. How is this different from serial monogamy? Dynamics change there too after all. Well, the primary difference (my impatient friends) is that you’re often dealing with a number of different dynamic changes at the same time, and unlike monogamy, these don’t always lead to the termination of relationships. This is really the most fundamenta [..]

Tristan Taormino to Host Show on VoiceAmerica Radio Network – Press Release

Published on 2012-05-21 10:45:18

We have been fortunate to have Tristan Taormino, the amazing sex educator and filmmaker, on Life on the Swingset twice, Episode 29 and Episode 74, and every time we’ve spoken to her and interacted with her, we’ve felt she is a breath of fresh air in her industries. We’re thrilled to announce and help promote her newest endevour, a weekly radio show called Sex Out Loud! Below is the press release. New York, NY, May 21, 2012 – VoiceAmerica Talk Radio Network, Internet broadcas [..]

Pleasurists Edition 176 – Sex Toy Reviews & Contests

Published on 2012-05-20 12:00:20

Image courtesy of A Couple of Wankers* Welcome to Pleasurists, a round-up of the adult product contests, giveways, and sex toy reviews that came out approximately between April 23rd and May 13th. If you like what you see consider following the RSS Feed and Twitter for updates on further editions. Did you miss edition 175? Read it all here. Do you have a review for edition 177? Be sure to read the submission guidelines and then use the submission form to submit before Sunday May 20th @ 11:59pm Pa [..]

Pleasurists Edition 175 – Sex Toy Reviews & Contests

Published on 2012-05-20 00:01:25

Image courtesy of Blacksilk*Welcome to Pleasurists, a round-up of the adult product and sex toy reviews that came out in the last seven days. If you like what you see and want more of it be sure to follow the RSS Feed and Twitter for updates. Did you miss Pleasurists 174? Read it all here. Do you have a review for Pleasurists 177? Be sure to read the submission guidelines and then use the submission form to submit before Sunday May 20th @ 11:59pm Pacific Time. *Pleasurists now accepts photo subm [..]

G-Spot Lollipops Review

Published on 2012-05-19 12:00:35

There is nothing that I love more than an intense, mind-blowing, gushing wet orgasm. Especially the kind I can get from the right amount of pressure from a G-Spot toy directly hitting my G-Spot. My favorite toys for that are the lollipop toys and the steel toys. I have tried similar toys, but the products from G-Spot Lollipop were unique and different from the ones I have used before. They come in four different styles, have four different ball sizes, and come in seven different colors (like Pas [..]

SS74: Tristan Taormino Talks Kink, Anal Sex, Fisting, Pegging & Her New Project

Published on 2012-05-18 12:00:49

Tristan Taormino returns to the Swingset to give Cooper some advice on NRE, discuss her new book The Ultimate Guide to Kink, and talk about her new project, a weekly live call-in radio show called Sex Out Loud on VoiceAmerica.com starting June 1st. Tristan Taormino: @tristantaormino  PuckerUp.com Tristan Taormino’s Radio Show: SexOutLoudRadio.com @sexoutloudradio Join the Swingset crew at Desire Resort & Spa from November 3-10, 2012!

Time Management in Non-Monogamy

Published on 2012-05-16 12:00:22

“People assume that time is a strict progression of cause to effect, but *actually* from a non-linear, non-subjective viewpoint – it’s more like a big ball of wibbly wobbly… time-y wimey… stuff.” — The Doctor Not just as poly people, but just as humans, our most precious resource is time. When we have multiple people we love deeply and want to spend time with, managing that resource becomes critically important. As poly vixen Shira B Katz likes to say, t [..]

Grey Areas in the Non-Monogamy Affection Spectrum

Published on 2012-05-14 12:00:45

I often feel like people who live fairly normative romantic lives place their social relationships into discrete categories: George is my friend, Sally is my wife, Fred is my brother, etc. I believe that people in non-standard romantic situations, be they open, swingers, poly, or other – and the people who spend lots of time around us – use more of a spectrum of affection to describe relationships. For instance, which standard relationship box would a swinger use to contain a frequent sexual [..]

The Ejaxxulator – Ejaculating Dildo Review

Published on 2012-05-12 11:00:36

I put forth a challenge to our listeners, to find me a high quality silicone dildo that could ejaculate. My specifications were a bit stringent perhaps, but I only asked for what I imagined the target market would want. I wanted it to be made of quality non toxic and easily sterilizable silicone, I wanted it to be realistic (and human), I wanted it to be able to be used with a harness, and to be easily refillable with the lube of our choice. These things were important for me for many reasons. G [..]

Community – Creating a New Family in Swinging & Polyamory

Published on 2012-05-11 16:49:00

I am a collector of people. I surround myself as much and as often as possible with friends and loved ones. Solitude is an occasional need, and I enjoy it thoroughly when I allow it for myself, but overall what I need, what I want, is family. I’m close to my actual family, I see them regularly, we go out to eat, we watch movies together. But there are things you don’t talk to your family about. Not because they wouldn’t understand (though they may not) but more because theyR [..]

PP 25: ORE, NRE, and the Chemicals Between Us

Published on 2012-05-10 21:58:42

Gavin and Shira sit down and talk about the ORE, which stands for Old Relationship Energy, and may or may not be something that Shira completely made up.  They also talk about NRE, but more than talking about the energy, they talk about the science and chemicals involved, and what drives humans to act the way they do.  Before they get into that Gavin announces he’s back on the polyamorous market, and Shira talks about having guilt just for being Shira B. Katz.

SS73: Sex Positive Education Surrounding Swinging, Polyamory, & Other Non-Monogamy

Published on 2012-05-07 15:34:40

In this episode, Cooper asks for business and Dylan spills about a poly mismatch… and a breach of protocol. We discuss community around polyamory, forming communities around swinging, and moving into Pepper’s experience at various educational workshops and into what’s planned for OpenSF. Pepper Mint: @freaksexual, freaksexual.com Join the Swingset crew at Desire Resort & Spa from November 3-10, 2012!

A Visit To The Tool Shed – A Great Sex Toy Store in Milwaukee, WI

Published on 2012-05-07 10:13:41

“We should see if there’s a good sex toy store in Milwaukee,” Marilyn suggested, whipping out her phone as we drove to Wisconsin for the afternoon. I told her that sounded good to me, and within minutes she’d discovered The Tool Shed. Reading the small description, female run, seminars, body conscious, quality selection, this sounded right up our alley. We threw the address in the GPS and before long we found ourselves in a college town feeling neighborhood, parked in fro [..]

Could Loving More Mean Hurting Less? – Managing Jealousy Before Violence

Published on 2012-05-04 12:00:13

Recently two Long Beach, CA girls decided they needed to meet after school to fight. A couple of hours later one of the girls was rushed to the hospital and later succumbed to unknown injuries. What struck me about this story was the fact that this girl died just weeks before her 11th birthday and that they met to fight over a boy. I was trying to wrap my head around the concept that two fifth grade girls felt they had to meet in an alley to throw down over a guy like guests on episode of The Je [..]

An Anal Affair

Published on 2012-05-02 12:00:39

On Anne and my’s last date something new happened to me. Well, new things or at least variations on things happen all the time, but this I found especially exciting. I was fingered. I hope you had to do a double take to see the name of the author. I am a man. Now, Anne and I are very exploratory in our personal sexcapades, but anal play is not something she has never really had much interest in. She is slowly working towards it because she knows I like it. I don’t push her and she moves at h [..]

New Relationship Energy Pitfalls – Polyamory Drifts Out of Comfort

Published on 2012-05-01 15:52:32

NRE (New Relationship Energy) is different in what would be considered polyamorous relationships as it is in swinging relationships. So different in fact that I think it’s apropos that way back we coined the acronym NSE for New Swinger Energy. In my experience, and from what I’ve been told by many readers and friends, when in a swinging relationship, a couple meets another couple, the NSE hits them with a tremendous amount of enthusiasm for their own relationship. The very act of fin [..]

SS72: Hard Kink – Needles, Breath Play, Spanking, & More

Published on 2012-04-30 13:00:21

Pepper Mint rejoins the Swingset for discussion on hard kink. We open with a discussion about mommy porn and Fifty Shades of Grey and move into discussion about the BDSM and kink communities, plow through into contracts, talk about our actual kinks. Dylan asks about punching, Shira emotes about being punched in the butt, and Cooper cringes when needle play is mentioned, and we end by talking about how wonderful the human body is and how people process histories of abuse and sometimes use kinks [..]

An Open Letter from Shira B: Blowjobs with Condoms – Safer Oral Sex

Published on 2012-04-27 12:00:54

Hey there Swingsetters and Pedestrians! There are a few things that make me feel a little weird and isolated: the look from other people I get when I grab a wedge of lemon and happily pop it into my mouth and devour it, the funny feeling I get when I go into a really rich person’s house, and, of course, people’s reactions when I tell them I give blowjobs with condoms. It’s true! I like blowjobs with condoms. They’re hot. You should think so, too. As a partnered polyamorou [..]

PP 24: Listener Mail – We hit the Mail for the Hell of it

Published on 2012-04-25 16:55:03

GHere we go, here we go, here we go again. Barry, what's my weakness? (Mail!) Ok, then. Chillin', chillin', mindin' my business. I checked my mail and I couldn't believe this. I swear; I stared, Gavin's my witness, the mailbox had it goin' on with somethin' kinda wicked, wicked - I had to click it. I'm not shy so I podcast the business. The mailbox is packed and it's stacked ('specially in the back). D Barry wanted to thank a lover for mail like that. Can S Barry get some love with that shake-s [..]

The Allure of Sexually Liberated Women – The Ignorance of Vanilla Males

Published on 2012-04-25 12:00:50

Let me preface this post by saying that most likely this will end as little more than a rant. I do not necessarily like to go off on rants but . . . Ok maybe I do. Now that we have that disclaimer out-of-the-way, I would like to discuss a situation that Ally and I have encounter entirely too often. Most often, when dealing with vanilla males. For those of you who have not been fortunate enough to meet my beautiful wife Ally, she has a dangerous intellect, a goofy sense of humor, and a compassion [..]

SS71: Words Matter – Vanilla VS Swinging, Polyamory, and Open

Published on 2012-04-23 11:09:01

We are joined by The Professor and Boris & Doris of the Boris & Doris Podcast to follow-up on a discussion prompted by Gay Rick from Sex Is Fun on his Facebook page. We discuss the uniqueness of the term “Vanilla” as it relates to open relationships, sex positivity, BDSM crowds, and whether it is, in general a positive or negative. Join the Swingset crew at Desire Resort & Spa from November 3-10, 2012!

PP 23: Threesomes!

Published on 2012-04-19 16:20:56

Gavin and Shira talk about threesomes of the sexy variety (not the relationshipy vee/triad variety) in this episode of Pedestrian Polyamory. Before diving into the topic, Shira and Gavin talk a bit about enjoying each other's other partners and invite the listeners to improve upon their theme music. Then diving into the subject of threesomes, the Katz talk about protection, preparation, negotiation and execution of awesomely sexy threesomes and share a few stories about their own awesome (and le [..]

E[lust] #35 – Sexy Articles, Erotica, Sex Blogs and More

Published on 2012-04-16 16:08:45

Photo Courtesy of Vincent and Mia Welcome to e[lust] - The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at e[lust]. Want to be included in e[lust] #36? Start with the newly updated rules, come back May 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates! ~ Top 3 ~ Strangers in a bar Dealing with Abuse in Our [..]

SS 70: Ginger & The Professor In Paradise at Desire Resort & Spa

Published on 2012-04-16 11:43:49

Shira talks about sapiosexual foreplay. Cooper discusses building an untraditional family and continues his baby phobia. Ginger and the Professor have just returned from the Swingercast Desire Resort & Spa trip and tell us about their time in paradise. (Ginger spends the VAST majority of this episode giggling.) The Professor paints a beautiful word portrait of a nude Shira B. Katz striding along the beach with glistening wet labia. And Cooper insists that geese are bastards. Join the Swingset cr [..]

Hands on with my Bad Dragon Tentacle Dildo

Published on 2012-04-14 12:00:00

Monday heralded the long-awaited arrival of my Bad Dragon Tentacle Dildo. I was surprised how much I was looking forward to this toy. I never imagined when we originally found the Bad Dragon as a link from another site that we would eventually own one. We weren’t sold on the idea right away. I remember glancing over at his laptop when I heard him chortling over a website. There was some sort of cartoon dragon lounging across the screen. In my response to “What’s that?” he turned so I c [..]

Fill Your Vessel – Meditations From Desire Resort & Spa

Published on 2012-04-13 12:00:20

There is no better place from which to blog than from one of the beach side beds at Desire Resort & Spa—where we happen to be parked at this very moment. Professional bloggers? Absolutely…as long as we are constantly surrounded by naked people who inspire us to write! Without fail, John and Allie from Swingercast have pulled together a great group—familiar friends and many more newly created. We also re-met many people who are not part of the group, but vacation here the same time every ye [..]

Swinging Advice – Jealousy of Web Cam Sexy Modeling

Published on 2012-04-13 11:01:07

We here at The Swingset are always happy to help with any questions or concerns you have, please don’t hesitate to ask! Q. In the beginning of October my wife was let go from her job. We had been kidding around with the idea of her doing webcam shows like some of the models contracted with my company. My wife is pretty shy, we met in high school. We have been together for almost 14 years. I was her first, so her sexual experience was limited to what we had done. We have had a great sex life an [..]

Privacy in Polyamory – I Love You, Please Go Away

Published on 2012-04-11 11:00:48

I am a people person. While I wouldn’t quite call myself an extrovert (I hate strangers and get anxious in crowds) I am the sort of girl who is happiest when I’m surrounded by people who I care about. When given the option of going home for a quiet evening alone or going out to the bar with friends after work, I’m at the bar every time. That said, there are a handful of things in life that I really prefer to do alone. And because my significant others and I work opposing schedu [..]

Response To Ep 68 – Ch-Ch-Changes – Swinging, Polyamory, & Non-Monogamy Explorations

Published on 2012-04-07 16:40:50

Cooper here! We get a lot of awesome responses to our show and website, and many of them can be found on our Kudos page, but every once in a while, a response comes along that is so detailed and thought out it deserves its own post. The amazing response below came from friend to the site: Poly Man Whore - and I’ll just let him take it away! Hi, Swingsetters! I loved ep. 68. It is nice to hear about everything that’s going on in your worlds. I did have some thoughts, though, that I w [..]

Pleasurists Edition 173 – Sex Toy Reviews & Contests

Published on 2012-04-07 14:59:53

Photo by Lucy* Welcome to Pleasurists, a round-up of the adult product and sex toy reviews that came out in the last seven days. If you like what you see and want more of it be sure to follow the RSS Feed and Twitter for updates. Did you miss Pleasurists 172? Read it all here. Do you have a review for Pleasurists 174? Be sure to read the submission guidelines and then use the submission form to submit before Sunday April 8th @ 11:59pm Pacific. *Pleasurists recently started accepting photo submis [..]

Desire Chronicles – Ten Things I Can’t Do When Returning to Vanilla Land

Published on 2012-04-05 11:01:26

On our plane flight back home from Desire, Mr. Doubleplay and I reflected on our transition back to reality, including: 10. Flashing my boobs does not bring my drinks faster or get me a second serve in beach volleyball–at least not without causing quite a commotion! 9. No coochie coochie in a public hot tub 8. Poles are not an invitation for a sexy dance 7. Appetizers no longer mean finding some playmates to get naughty with before dinner 6. Stiletto heels and a thong are no longer the sta [..]

PP 22: Listener Mail – Gav Dogg and Shira B had to Regulate

Published on 2012-04-04 23:54:24

Shira and Gavin are talkin' casual sex. No, not how to get some casual sex, but where it fits into polyamory, and their own personal FEELINGS on the matter. Before that Gavin talks about his Poly Speed Dating adventure followed up with his own regular dating adventure(!!). Shira discusses her own misadventures in dating and analysis paralysis. Shira also introduces a new segment to Pedestrian Polyamory, which Gavin of course adores... er I mean abhors.

Intolerance – Contraception Debate, Religious Intolerance, & Grumpy Cooper

Published on 2012-04-04 11:01:10

WARNING: Ahead there be politics. And religion. And sexual rights. Pretty much everything you’re not supposed to talk about at dinner. So be prepared. With a title like “Intolerance” you’re likely expecting me to rant about the vanilla world and their intolerance for us over here on the open side. But this isn’t about that, at least not directly. It’s about me. Cooper’s favorite subject is Cooper after all. How else can he pretentiously write about himse [..]

SS 69: Oral Sex, Cunnilingus, Rim Jobs, Oh Yes

Published on 2012-04-02 14:16:33

Oral Sex. Cunnilingus. Rim Jobs. Today we discuss anything and everything oral on this episode of Life on the Swingset, The Podcast! We start with the basics, what we prefer, what we enjoy, and delve into different types of oral play. After a rousing instructional segment on how to suck Dylan’s cock, Shira B. Katz gives us both information and directions on better oral play with barriers. Join the Swingset crew at

Staying Sane – Morality, Freedom, and Open Sexuality

Published on 2012-04-02 11:01:35

“Morality is doing what is right, regardless of what you are told.  Religion is doing what you are told, regardless of what is right.” There has been a lot of talk lately about the level of insanity brought about by the coming election versus open sexuality. It became a hot topic amongst the Swingset this week. I felt compelled to write about the current state of things and maybe provide a little bit of historical perspective. For a moment lets not look at how we seem to be regressing, lets [..]

Polyamory Relationship Rules vs. Boundaries

Published on 2012-03-30 11:00:03

Alex and I have some things we agree either explicitly or implicitly to not do in our outside polyamory relationships.  We have discussed things and in some cases we’ve expressed strong preferences about how things happen and we’ve discussed how hurt we would be about other things. Most of these implicit or explicit agreements are around big things. For example, Alex knows I would be very hurt if he involved someone he was dating in any of the heavy-duty parenting stuff. We had a co [..]

Desire Chronicles – Party Hostess, Bringing Nudists to the Dark Side

Published on 2012-03-29 11:01:26

During this trip to Desire, the ratio of nudists to Lifestyle couples was a about fifty-fifty. We were disappointed when we would talk to a hot couple and then learn that they didn’t play. Starting only at 50 percent, and then subtracting couples that were of different generation, body type, and so on meant we hung with a small crowd in the end. But I had lots of fun with one nudist couple, doing my best to gently turn them to the dark side. We sat next to this couple at dinner and really [..]

PP 21: Casual Sex

Published on 2012-03-29 01:58:25

Shira and Gavin are talkin' casual sex. No, not how to get some casual sex, but where it fits into polyamory, and their own personal FEELINGS on the matter. Before that Gavin talks about his Poly Speed Dating adventure followed up with his own regular dating adventure(!!). Shira discusses her own misadventures in dating and analysis paralysis. Shira also introduces a new segment to Pedestrian Polyamory, which Gavin of course adores... er I mean abhors.

All Over the Place & Coming Out as an Ethical Slut

Published on 2012-03-28 11:19:02

Prof and I have been all over the place. Geographically. Emotionally. Relationally. It is pretty damn cool. The hard part about being all over the place, is we haven’t been here writing. The cliché that we ethical sluts have to be excellent time managers is true. You’ve heard this from me before here in the blog. But we will triumph over the time crunch! Prof and I have too much fun sharing our perspectives here with you to let it fall off the radar. And, indeed, we have evolved so [..]

Men – Sexism, Bias, & the Role of Men in Swinging & Polyamory

Published on 2012-03-27 11:01:36

Which came first?   The rotten egg or the spiteful, angry hen who laid it?  Or, more bluntly put, which came first?  The troll of a misogynistic, sexist man…the misandrist female who makes all men (including the good ones) into trolls…or the lifestyle that encourages men to be both bold and trolls at the same time?  These are the thoughts that were discussed between myself and Laz after a particularly nasty night at a club one weekend. James Brown said it best.  It’s a ma [..]

Polyamorous, Swinger, Non-Monogamist, Open?

Published on 2012-03-26 16:45:41

I’m going through a rather unique period of self discovery here. Swinging launched me through something similar, though not nearly as complex, in discovering a vast amount of new sexual ability and information. Now, the ability and go-ahead to build relationships with other people is re-defining me for myself. I find it fascinating, terrifying, exciting, a host of adjectives that can be applied to the course I’m on in this polyamory thing. Yes, that’s right, I think it’s [..]

SS 68: Ch-Ch-Changes – Swinging, Polyamory, & Non-Monogamy Explorations

Published on 2012-03-26 12:20:19

In this show, we talk about one of our favorite subjects… ourselves! We’ve been steadily evolving and felt like keeping all of you up-to-date on where are we going, why we’re moving in that direction, all while throwing in a bit of misdirection with Metroid and Mega Man to keep you guessing. We address two listener questions / comments and all in all have a good time sharing our lives with each other. Join the Swingset crew at Desire Resort & Spa from November 3-10, 2012!

Pleasurists Edition 172 – Sex Toy Reviews & Contests

Published on 2012-03-25 11:08:01

Courtesy of Karen Blue* Welcome to Pleasurists, a round-up of the adult product and sex toy reviews that came out in the last seven days. If you like what you see and want more of it be sure to follow the RSS Feed and Twitter for updates. Did you miss Pleasurists 171? Read it all here. Do you have a review for Pleasurists 173? Be sure to read the submission guidelines and then use the submission form to submit before Sunday March 25th @ 11:59pm Pacific. *Pleasurists recently started accepting ph [..]

Tristan Taormino’s Expert Guide to Pegging Review

Published on 2012-03-24 11:01:05

Pegging is something that I find empowering and invigorating. This addition of pleasure into my sexual life has brought out a new side of me that is much more dominant. I can control the pace and the tone of the experience and get a high off of seeing  how much my guy is enjoying what I am giving to him. When I heard Tristan Taormino was putting out a DVD called Tristan Taormino’s Expert Guide to Pegging I was so excited. I wanted to see what new little tips and tricks I could use toward [..]

Slut Shaming and Non-Monogamy

Published on 2012-03-23 11:00:10

The topic of slut shaming has been on my mind recently, and I’ve been thinking about how it relates to polyamory, open relationships, and swinging.  There’s been a lot of discussion in the media recently around how we as a society should approach contraceptive usage, and that discussion inevitably evokes discussions which highlight how broad swaths of society feel about sexuality. The word slut or implications of sluttiness have been appearing in the news with alarming frequency: [..]

Desire Chronicles – The Joys of Wet Platinum

Published on 2012-03-22 11:01:26

The focal point of fun at Desire is happy hour at the hot tub. It is a great time to meet new couples who have recently arrived. With about 40 people drinking and soaking, it is easy to get to know others.

Show and Tell – Informing Polyamorous Partners About Other Partners

Published on 2012-03-21 11:01:43

How upfront is upfront, and what is just rubbing it in people’s faces? It’s a dilemma I haven’t really faced before. How and when do you go about informing polyamorous partners about other partners. As a swinger, the thing people most want to know is if you play safe. If you take precaution. If you get to know people first. Rarely does the subject of numbers come up. Rarely do you feel compelled to disclose when and how many people you’ve been with recently. Rarely does i [..]

Classes, Conventions & Conferences – Open Relationship Education

Published on 2012-03-20 11:01:58

I’ve learned so much here on Life on the Swingset and other resources. I decided recently it would be nice to add another dimension to that learning with some open relationship education. I’m looking into real-time education with real-time interaction from seminars, workshops and conventions. I’d like to combine learning with social interaction. It’s nice to converse with other people interested in subjects I can’t really bring up in my current social circle. I’m hoping this year to [..]

SS 67: Newly Non-Monogamous – Do We Like New Swingers & Polyamorists?

Published on 2012-03-19 12:49:29

After a detour involving Prof Stephen Hawking’s time spent at a sex club, we discuss new swingers, polyamorists, and non-monogamists. Cooper and Dylan both profess their affection with newbies, while Shira and Ginger confess they make them nervous. After the break we talk about our own experiences being newbies, and get sidetracked again by a discussion of Classic Chicago Commercials. Cooper closes the show by reviewing Tristan Taormino’s Expert Guide To Pegging. Join the Swingset [..]

Taking New Skills to New Places

Published on 2012-03-14 00:01:09

One skill I have definitely learned through my journey of non-monogamy is communication. It just doesn’t work unless everyone can communicate what they need and what they fear. This should be obvious, but sometimes it isn’t.

Who’s on Top – BDSM and Polyamory

Published on 2012-03-13 00:01:40

Once upon a time, in my introductory post, I mentioned that all of the members of my constellation – which, for those keeping track, is currently standing at 9 people – are in d/s (dominant/submissive) relationships with our respective partners. For the most part, the structure has been pretty straightforward – the males of the group are dominant, the females submissive. I am the monkey-wrench thrown in the works: the lone switch. For the vanillas in the audience, a switch is a person [..]

Taking The Poly Show on the Road – Beginning Polyamorous Dating

Published on 2012-03-12 11:01:44

I have a pretty active open lifestyle. Not as active as the peak activity time of, say, a year and a half ago, but quite active and satisfying. We have a few couples we see regularly, some singles to see independently, and now…well, this poly experiment, as I begin polyamorous dating. It’s going quite well, in fact. Due to an incredibly lackluster dating life in high school, I suppose I went into the new poly experiment (wherein Marilyn and I can and do date independently, and openly [..]

Swinging Advice – Overcoming Guilt Over Playing With Others

Published on 2012-03-09 00:01:19

We here at The Swingset are always happy to help with any questions or concerns you have, please don’t hesitate to ask! Q. We are recently married (few months) and have had a couple “experiences” with another couple. Long story short…after the bars we go back to our place and the girls start usually start making out and one things leads to another and we have ended up having same room [...]

Full Swap or Soft Swap – The Numbers Game

Published on 2012-03-08 00:01:26

We are learning more about the differences between full and soft swap. A big one seems to be the numbers game. We have always liked group play. As a soft swap couple, give us a six-some  and we are happily like kids in a candy store sucking and licking and touching all around. Six is really ideal in soft swap. Enough to fit on one bed but tons of combinations. [...]

PP 19: Listener Mail – With my Mind on my Drama and my Drama on my Mind

Published on 2012-03-07 15:00:08

With so much drama in PP16, it's kinda hard being a K A T to the Z. But somehow, someway, we gotta keep on answering listener mail like every single day. May we answer a little mail for the B's and make a few jokes as we breeze through two in the morning and the podcast's still goin'. Okay. That was ridiculous. Listen in as Shira and Gavin answer some mail received after Depressisode 16. They cover topics from dating, to depression, to dealing with reluctant partners.

Everything Has a Price – Sharing Bisexuality

Published on 2012-03-07 00:01:09

Very few people know that I am bisexual, only a few close friends, not even all of my close friends. I really have given up on hiding it. I recently posted this picture of Neville Longbottom and the Harry Potter boys on a gaming forum that a group of friends and I use. Totally agree with it. No one questioned my posting it. The ladies agreed and the men seemed [...]

Realistic BDSM – Real Life Intrudes on Kink

Published on 2012-03-06 00:01:30

When people talk BDSM, they think about leather clad women in needle point stilettos bearing floggers that dangle down about their calves. But this is reality, kids, and it is a fair statement that while tying up your boss to get him to sit down and listen to your ideas or gagging a chatty typing pool member so you can get some work done are great fantasies to make you [...]

SS 66: Chemistry – Connections, Pheromones, & Animal Attraction in Non-Monogamy

Published on 2012-03-05 14:02:48

Dylan launches a custom sexy talk service. We discuss the ethics and reasoning behind wanting or not wanting to date someone you’re mentoring. Cooper and Dylan both want to fuck all their friends. We discuss what chemistry means to us all, the surprise of a chemistry blind side, and the difficulty of getting four-way chemistry in swinging dating. Cooper reviews the Nexus Revo. Join the Swingset crew at Desire Resort & Spa [...]

Pleasurists Edition 170 – Sex Toy Reviews & Contests

Published on 2012-03-04 00:01:02

Courtesy of the bedroom blogger* Welcome to Pleasurists, a round-up of the adult product and sex toy reviews that came out in the last seven days. If you like what you see and want more of it be sure to follow the RSS Feed and Twitter for updates. Did you miss Pleasurists 169? Read it all here. Do you have a review for Pleasurists 171? Be sure to read the [...]

The Next Evolution – Swinging-Open Marriage-Polyamory

Published on 2012-03-01 20:01:28

I don’t believe that the polyamorous are simply swingers who’ve seen the light. Nor do I believe that swingers are somehow smarter for realizing that sex is very often less complicated than love. I’m thrilled at the amount of polyamorous content currently streaming down the Swingset pipeline. We’ve truly taken great strides towards our SOP (swinger-open-poly) ideal that we first floated the month after Shira B. Katz joined our crew. [...]

A Guide To Good Grooming

Published on 2012-03-01 00:01:26

With our Desire trip imminent, much of my time this week was spent on grooming. Mani/pedi today, haircut tomorrow, and then the day before the trip—the wax.  Plus trips this week to the tanning salon and an hour in front of the mirror today tweezing eyebrows, facial hair, hair around the breasts. Endless! I am amazed how the lifestyle has made both Mr. Doubleplay and I extra conscious of our [...]

Roots

Published on 2012-02-29 00:01:09

Lately I have been noticing a trend. It is entirely probable that this is just a trend with people that I know. This trend is specifically people wanting to take things back to their roots and by roots I mean pre-agricultural times. This even extends to myself.

The Softies Get Hard – Our First Full Swap

Published on 2012-02-28 00:01:11

A few months ago, we were both surprised to find that we were extremely turned on by the idea of a full swap. Initially, the concept of full-on sex with someone else was a little intimidating and not quite an option for us. It wasn't off-limits to discuss, but neither of us were quite comfortable with the idea just yet.

SS 65: Friends & Lovers – Do We Want To Be Friends With These People We Fuck?

Published on 2012-02-27 10:43:14

JV Altharas and Shara from Ending The Sexual Dark Age join us to discuss the dichotomy of being friends with your swinging playmates, and how we feel that enhances the value of the sex, but also how that can drift into other ares. We get sidetracked by the idea of writing directions on thighs, Cooper updates his Poly experiment, Dylan rants about politics.

Poly Drama – Ripples in Poly Families

Published on 2012-02-27 00:01:39

Complicated: past participle, past tense of com·pli·cate (Verb) 1. Make (something) more difficult or confusing by causing it to be more complex. 2. Introduce complications in (an existing condition): “smoking may complicate pregnancy”. 3. Or, anything related to or having to do with polyamory. Ok, I added the third definition, but most people involved in this lifestyle would tend to agree with me I think. Yes, polyamory is complicated. No, it [...]

Pleasurists Edition 169 – Sex Toy Reviews & Contests

Published on 2012-02-26 00:01:57

Courtesy of Penny* Welcome to Pleasurists, a round-up of the adult product and sex toy reviews that came out in the last seven days. If you like what you see and want more of it be sure to follow the RSS Feed and Twitter for updates. Did you miss Pleasurists 168? Read it all here. Do you have a review for Pleasurists 170? Be sure to read the submission guidelines [...]

PP 18: Secondary Relationships with Pepper Mint

Published on 2012-02-25 23:51:49

Shira steps out on Gavin and talks about polyamory with another man - Pepper Mint! Shira welcomes Pepper Mint back for his second interview with Pedestrian Polyamory. Shira and Pepper discuss the finer points of secondary relationships, including the difference between low-attachment and low-involvement relationships, the elusive poly folk who are down to fuck, and what really counts as 'polyamory'. Before the interview starts you can enjoy the second installment of Hep Katz Sonnet Corner and, o [..]

Polyamory – At The Core of One’s Being…

Published on 2012-02-23 00:01:13

Is polyamory like sexual orientation, a deep trait felt to be at the core of one’s being? Would a polyamorous person feel as incomplete without multiple partners as a lesbian or gay person might feel without one?

Scheduling… Period

Published on 2012-02-22 00:01:09

I hate trying to schedule dates. Not because they aren’t fun, but because it usually needs to be done a good ways in advance. There are a few reasons, like not knowing if you will be in the mood for it that day. Specifically though I want to talk about periods because I have become required to track Anne’s period. I know better when it is going to occur than she does. That shit is tracked in my google calendar via this handy tool

Interview with Terry Gould, author of The Lifestyle: A Look at the Erotic Rites of Swingers

Published on 2012-02-20 12:28:05

Kasidie interviews Terry Gould, author of what many consider the definitive book on swinging and the lifestyle: The Lifestyle - A Look at the Erotic Rites of Swingers

SS 64: Kink-O-Rama – Pegging, Voyeurism, Sapiosexuals, & Comfort

Published on 2012-02-18 14:23:51

We cold open with Cooper having a butt plug (hand crafted by Boris at BnDpodcast.com) inserted by Marilyn, then lead into a discussion of our kinks kicked off by a listener voicemail request. We round robin it for a while, discovering some of our surface kinks, resistance play, certain clothes, BDSM and pegging tops the list. Dylan spends much of the show insisting he doesn't have any kinks before realizing time and again that he does. We also talk about being squicked out by some people's kinks [..]

PP 17: Male Anal Stimulation – Butt-Fuckery, Pegging, and Prostate Milking

Published on 2012-02-16 10:43:53

Shira and Gavin go off the rails in this episode and start talking buttsex with boys! Shira gives you the low-down on prostate health and pleasure, getting into all the details on how to prepare for anal play, what's you can do, and what her favorite moves are. Before bringing the bottom's up, Shira and Gavin address some standing issues from the previous show including: What's a PINO, do they exist? Is Gavin a cuckhold? Is Shira an unempathetic whore? Listen to find out!

An Unexpected Sleep Over For The Swingers

Published on 2012-02-15 00:01:36

Anne and I had a date with a single lady, a unicorn if you will. We had been trying to have a date with her for a while, but for one reason or another things kept getting in the way. We have played with her at parties before, but we have never really had a date with her. I still hold to our stance of not looking for single men or single women. Single women are in too much demand and single men are in too much supply. Both of those things bring about there own issues that make us not want to acti [..]

Cooper’s Fantabulous Polyamorous Confidence Experiment

Published on 2012-02-14 02:24:13

I project well. By that I mean that I that I can appear to be something I'm not, to the vast majority of people who know the name Cooper Beckett, in fact. And what aren't I? Confident.

Third – Thoughts on Dating a Couple

Published on 2012-02-14 00:01:13

I've spent a lot of time thinking about why couples are so appealing to me. The first thing I need to put out there is that it's not the sex. Threesomes are lovely, don't get me wrong. But I don't have a particular yearning for a threesome over one-on-one sex, and historically I have not found them more satisfying. So that comment is out of the way.

First Impressions – A Spouse’s Approval in Polyamory

Published on 2012-02-13 00:01:45

When introducing a new romantic interest to our friends and loved ones, we all want this person to be well received and well liked. We want our family and friends to find them attractive, interesting, funny, and basically dig them like we do. We polyamorists are much the same, but we have a much more critical judge - our primary partner.

Pleasurists Edition 167 – Sex Toy Reviews & Contests

Published on 2012-02-12 00:01:21

Courtesy of Nymphomaniac Ness*Welcome to Pleasurists, a round-up of the adult product and sex toy reviews that came out in the last seven days. If you like what you see and want more of it be sure to follow the RSS Feed and Twitter for updates. Did you miss Pleasurists 166? Read it all here. Do you have a review for Pleasurists 168? Be sure to read the submission guidelines [...]

Second – Refusing Standard Polyamory Relationship Structure

Published on 2012-02-10 00:01:03

There have been a couple of people recently who have said the phrase, "I don't want to be second". One was to me and one was to my partner. This state of mind always disturbs me because my partner and I don't see relationships structured that way in this lifestyle. We don't believe in or like the labels "Primary" or "Secondary" partners. There are always priorities and responsibilities to each relationship, but if a relationship goes down such a path, my love for my partners can and will be equa [..]

What Can You Do To Be Sure Your Spouse Doesn’t Have an Affair

Published on 2012-02-09 00:01:58

Mr. Doubleplay spoke of how he loves that he is allowed to let his eyes wander now. You can sample the buffet of women out there with permission. No need to hide it!

PP 16: Rules and Hearts are Meant to be Broken

Published on 2012-02-08 18:42:13

Rules and boundaries! So much fun, right? In this episode of Pedestrian Polyamory Gavin and Shira talk about Gavin's recent struggles with jealousy before charging into a discussion on rules, boundaries, and how they effect polyamorous relationships. It seems like most people in non-monogamous prescribe to a set of rules in their relationship, but could there be a better way? Get some tips on when the Katz' think that rules are good and when they are time-bombs.

Condom Failure During Swinging

Published on 2012-02-08 00:01:26

I am always very careful about condom use. Always. It has been that way ever since I started using them. I suspect that is a product of my sex education from the 90’s during when AIDS was very scary (well it still is scary). So, usually I am hyper aware of the condom situation. I check it often make sure it is all good and what not.

On Cocks & Cameras – The Inevitable “Look At my Cock” Picture

Published on 2011-07-06 00:01:31

I will be the first to admit that I wasn't planning a theoretical exploration of the brave new world of open relationships when I leaped into the Lifestyle. I was looking for friends with benefits. That doesn't mean that I wanted my initial, ahem, ex

Experimenting With a Hall Pass – Two Sexy Women Go To A Swingers Club

Published on 2011-07-05 00:01:25

I took another trip recently, but this time Mr. Doubleplay stayed home with the kids. While most of my days were filled with business meetings, presentations, and networking dinners, Mr. Doubleplay arranged a special date for me. We had arranged to m

Swinging Advice – I’m Bisexual, But Not Into Her – Uneven Chemistry & Swinging

Published on 2011-07-01 00:01:04

So how does swinging work if you are only sexually interested in one of the partners? Should you avoid them? Do you stand the risk of hurting the other side of the partnership if you are not interested in women or is this normal

Is there cheating in open relationships?

Published on 2011-06-29 02:41:48

Is there cheating in open relationships, such as Polyamory or Swinging? That depends on your definition of cheating and what your relationship commitments are to each other. But yes, there is cheating even in our world. An open relationship doesnR

The Difference Between Polyamory and Monogamy

Published on 2011-06-29 00:01:07

“How big is the difference in a polyamorous relationship as opposed to a mono relationship?”

You People Will Sleep With My Spouse! – Assumptions About Swingers

Published on 2011-06-29 00:01:03

People in open relationships get a bad rap. Our relationships thrive on openness and honesty

Poly? – A Swinger Feels The Tug of Polyamory

Published on 2011-06-28 00:01:01

Polyamory freaks me out. To be totally honest, I am needy. I require a lot of love and attention from Anne. Lots. Anne and I have discussed polyamory some before. I am uncomfortable sharing her emotionally on that level with someone

Ep 40: Slut Shaming and Anthony Weiner’s Penis on Twitter

Published on 2011-06-27 14:25:44

The crew discusses the fact that girls need to ask permission to touch too, Shira is rejected for the very first time, Dylan talks about massages at strip clubs, and we get deep into the Anthony Weiner sex scandal, discussing whether this is an examp

Pleasurists #135 – Sex Toy Reviews & Contests

Published on 2011-06-26 00:01:56

summer lingerie by Miss-ElizabethRose Welcome to Pleasurists, a round-up of the adult product and sex toy reviews that came out in the last seven days. If you like what you see and want more of it be sure to follow our RSS Feed and Twitter. Did you m

Pipedream’s Extreme White Boy Vibrating Natural Cock Review

Published on 2011-06-25 00:01:16

This incredibly life-like cock has 8 inches of exciting insertable pleasure and a very pleasing 1 1/2 inches in width. I found it to be very fulfilling! I was a little disappointed where the package said it had huge balls, I feel it did not but the

Swinging Advice – Finding Love as a Single Male In The Lifestyle

Published on 2011-06-24 00:01:11

What is the best way to meet another woman that are open to the lifestyle. I figured a single woman at a lifestyle event would be as good a place to start as any, but there are very few events that welcome single men

Through the Looking Glass – The Surreality of Being a Swinging Unicorn

Published on 2011-06-23 00:01:12

Since joining the Lifestyle, I’ve had many experiences that seemed dream-like, almost hallucinatory, because they came at me from outside of the vanilla frame of reference I lived within for most of my life – that having anything other than a two

Double Occupancy – A Tale Of Double Penetration

Published on 2011-06-22 00:01:16

we were chatting about the fantasies and realities of sex in the context of the Lifestyle when the topic of “double penetration” sort of came up

Podcast Special – Ending The Sexual Dark Age Question About Bisexuality

Published on 2011-06-21 23:52:06

In this short podcast special, the Swingset crew answer a question sent by a listener of the Ending The Sexual Dark Age podcast about how to transition yourself to being a bisexual male in the lifestyle when you'd previously identified as straight.

The Evolution of the Orgasm – From First To Multiple Orgasms

Published on 2011-06-21 00:01:21

I realized that I would need to teach myself to orgasm if I was ever going to orgasm with him. After several failed attempts I figured it out, and as some other bloggers have shared, I realized, “Oh—that’s what I was doing when I wore jeans and

Our First “You’re Gonna Burn…” Hatemail!

Published on 2011-06-20 12:43:10

Who is the father of lust? Satan - John 8:44 Who is going to remind God of all your sins when you die? Satan - Rev 12:10 "But the tares are the sons of Satan, the father of lust. Bind the tares and burn them. Cast them into the everlasting fire" -

Home – My Polyamorous Primary Partner

Published on 2011-06-20 00:01:43

People ask us all the time why we got married, if we're not going to be exclusive. This is probably the question we get asked most often. For both of us, the answer is that we know we want to spend the rest of our lives with each other, regardless of

Ep 39: Debauchery at a Swing Club – Couple’s Playhouse Swingers Club Near Chicago

Published on 2011-06-19 00:01:35

Dylan and Cooper return to Couple's Playhouse, a swing club in the suburbs of Chicago for part two of their discussion and description of their first trip to a swingers club. Shira and Ginger add their own thoughts about swing clubs and other kink fr

Pleasurists #134 – Sex Toy Reviews & Contests

Published on 2011-06-19 00:01:28

� Bound on Reflection by boykitten � Welcome to Pleasurists, a round-up of the adult product and sex toy reviews that came out in the last seven days. If you like what you see and want more of it be sure to follow our RSS Feed and Twitter.

Touche’s Opis Vibrator Review

Published on 2011-06-18 00:01:49

I love getting the chance to try out a wide variety of vibrators especially when they are big and purple. From EdenFantasys.com, we received Touche's Opis, which is a curvy, purple silicone vibrator that is soft and pleasurable. At first it just look

Swinging Advice – Eliminating Jealousy & Pleasing Your Partner

Published on 2011-06-17 00:01:09

I am the jealous one, when it comes to my husband being with another woman. My husband is completely fine with wanting me to be with another man. I have finally come to grasps with this and I am ready to try swinging. I however want to be able to ple

The Dating Game – Going Online For Swinging Friends

Published on 2011-06-16 00:01:32

When we decided to give this swinging thing a try, I never realized just how much work it would actually be. I’m not quite sure how I thought we would meet people. I guess I assumed the perfect couple would just show up naked at our door, ready to

Ebbs and Flows – Deciding the Priority of the Swinging Lifestyle

Published on 2011-06-15 00:01:44

Since we began our swinging adventures I have had a hard time figuring out how to fit this into my already relatively full life. At the very beginning, a few months back, we had dates every weekend sometimes two. Being newer to the lifestyle, they di

OurPorn – Watching YouPorn.com With My Partner

Published on 2011-06-14 00:01:21

Prof and I have a new fun bedtime pastime: browsing porn together. YouPorn makes it so easy to have a broad spectrum of categories and ways to search. We climb into bed with our iPad and let the fun begin! Although I’ve found that what is fun about

Pleasurists #133 – Sex Toy Reviews & Contests

Published on 2011-06-12 00:01:36

The Birth of Pleasure 9 by Solus-Photography Welcome to Pleasurists, a round-up of the adult product and sex toy reviews that came out in the last seven days. If you like what you see and want more of it be sure to follow our RSS Feed and Twitter. Di

A Siren Laid Bare: Introducing Emmanuelle Undine

Published on 2011-06-10 00:01:23

Let me introduce myself. My name is Emmanuelle, or Emma for short. The first thing you need to know about me: I love sex. Give it to me rough & hard, soft & easy, or downright sleazy – I’ll always beg for more. The second thing you should

Falling In Love & Breaking Up – Accidental Polyamory

Published on 2011-06-08 23:48:10

Cooper writes about a relationship he and Marilyn shared with a close female friend, their attempts at a polyamorous triad, and how to deal with that breakup in non-monogamy

You Did What? – A Unicorn Begins at a Swingers Club

Published on 2011-06-08 00:01:31

Three days after learning that the Lifestyle didn’t go out of style with electric blue hot pants, I was just as curious as my coupled friends had been about the erotic possibilities of swinging. But unlike them, I didn’t have a primary partner. I

Converting a Vanilla to the Swinging Lifestyle

Published on 2011-06-07 00:01:12

We are friends with two swinger couples who have shared their experiences with converting the vanilla. For one couple, it did not go so well

Pleasurists #132 – Sex Toy Reviews & Contests

Published on 2011-06-06 00:01:03

� Condom Garters by trajedichampagne� Welcome to Pleasurists, a round-up of the adult product and sex toy reviews that came out in the last seven days. If you like what you see and want more of it be sure to follow our RSS Feed and Twitter.

Ep 38: Our Swingers Club Adventure – Living it up at Chicago Swing Club Couple’s Playhouse

Published on 2011-06-04 03:40:36

After Shira discusses the wonderful world of sex and feeling better that came from having her IUD removed, Ginger talks about the benefits of hers, and Dylan discusses exploring his wife's...for science. Ginger regales us with Prof's solo date with a

SpareParts Joque Harness Review

Published on 2011-06-04 00:01:27

What a treat to get a brand new strap-on harness to put through its paces with a super sexy partner! Having not used one before, I was excited to get my hands on a SpareParts Joque Harness. My go-to harnesses are leather. As much as I love the feel o

Who Are You Out To – Coming Out In The Lifestyle

Published on 2011-06-03 00:01:51

It seems as though there are so many things to "come out" about these days. Being gay. Being bi. Being an atheist. Being a Wiccan. Being non-monogamous. It’s an unsurprising by-product of a progressing society. Rather than shamefully hiding your at

How I Started Swinging or When What You’re Doing Isn’t Working, Do Something Else

Published on 2011-06-01 00:31:46

In the three months since I found myself standing at the door of a swinger’s club, I’ve had a series of unusual firsts, some frustrating episodes and more surreal moments than I ever expected. As a single woman in the Lifestyle – a unicorn - I

Sex Toys Go Mainstream – Playing With Vibrators at Brookstone

Published on 2011-05-30 00:01:16

The specialty electronics retailer, Brookstone, has begun carrying the oh so elegant and admired Lelo products. Yes, you read that right, Lelo, as in (shhhhh….don’t say it too loud) VIBRATORS! Oh, I’m sorry, I mean personal and intimate massage

Pleasurists #131 – Sex Toy Reviews & Contests

Published on 2011-05-29 02:48:50

Sock Garters are my thing by steeneeweenee Welcome to Pleasurists, a round-up of the adult product and sex toy reviews that came out in the last seven days. If you like what you see and want more of it be sure to follow our RSS Feed and Twitter. Did

Compersion – The Opposite of Jealousy & Its Place in Swinging & Non-Monogamy

Published on 2011-05-27 00:01:13

Compersion is a word commonly used in polyamorist and swinger circles. It means, roughly, the ability to derive pleasure from your partner's pleasure, and is an important frame of mind in the swinging, polyamorous, and open lifestyles

What Do We Want Out of Swinging?

Published on 2011-05-24 00:01:10

Suzy Softly comes to the realization that the swinging lifestyle isn't just about sex, but about the connections and friendships you make

Ep 37: Gang Bang The Mailbag – Listener Questions on Swinging, Poly & Open

Published on 2011-05-23 01:39:08

In our first "Listener Mailbag" episode we answer several questions from voicemail and email, tackling such diverse topics as the hotness of swingers, sexual experience and prowess, how to swing when you have kids, going to swing clubs, male bisexual

Pleasurists #130 – Sex Toy Reviews & Contests

Published on 2011-05-22 00:01:19

� Boots 3 by cable9tuba Welcome to Pleasurists, a round-up of the adult product and sex toy reviews that came out in the last seven days. If you like what you see and want more of it be sure to follow our RSS Feed and Twitter. Did you miss Pleas

The Colossal Liberator Zeppelin – A Review Of an Awesome Piece of Sex Furniture

Published on 2011-05-21 00:01:21

Cooper tackles the enormous Liberator Zeppelin sex bean bag chair, in an extra large review to fit its extra large stature

Swingers are a Community – Friendships & Relationships in the Swinging Lifestyle

Published on 2011-05-20 00:01:47

Ginger talks about the closeness of a swinger community, and how our lifestyle brings us close together

A Perfect Evening – Getting Down & Dirty at a Swing Club

Published on 2011-05-18 01:11:20

After some lifestyle experiences that have left us somewhat confused and questioning, we had a wonderful evening that reaffirmed why we are in the lifestyle in the first place. The evening was fun, sexy, and comfortable. No drama and some really hot

Kasidie Couple of the Month: Kim & Chris

Published on 2011-05-15 17:43:33

Every month, Kasidie.com, our hands down favorite swinger website, profiles one of their sexy couples, click the awesome picture below to read about them! If you'd like to join the Kasidie community, click here for a free trial, courtesy Life on the

Pleasurists #129 – Sex Toy Reviews & Contests

Published on 2011-05-15 00:01:31

� In Suspence by Rozyland Welcome to Pleasurists, a round-up of the adult product and sex toy reviews that came out in the last seven days. If you like what you see and want more of it be sure to follow our RSS Feed and Twitter. Did you miss Ple

Swinging Advice – The Long Conversation About Opening Up

Published on 2011-05-13 00:01:49

A new couple, emboldened by an upcoming swinger cruise, wonder about the right time to talk about opening up in non monogamy and swinging

The Legend of Cum-a-Lot (Pt 4) – Controversy, Sexuality, and Rebirth

Published on 2011-05-12 00:01:04

Sandstone retreat, a safe haven for non-monogamy, swinging, and polyamory in the sixties comes under fire and must weather a storm of problems from all directions

Why, Then Marriage? – When You’re In An Open Relationship, Why Get Married

Published on 2011-05-11 00:48:14

There are plenty of reasons why people who are in open relationships are also in marriages (their own marriages, not someone else’s). People may choose to explore open relationships after they have already gotten married. I know plenty of people wh

From Vanilla to Neapolitan – How We Began Swinging

Published on 2011-05-10 00:01:48

Mr. and Mrs. Softy are new to swinging. Read about how they first got the idea to play with other couples

Ep 36: Everybody Loves Orgasms – Swingers, Poly, and Open Cumming Together

Published on 2011-05-09 00:01:39

While Dylan fills his ass with first a vibrator, then a butt plug, we giggle our way through a discussion of our favorite thing in the whole world, orgasms. We discuss the differences in the many "spot" orgasms (G-Spot, P-Spot C-Spot U-Spot) and what

Pleasurists #128 – Sex Toy Reviews

Published on 2011-05-08 00:01:14

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Cooper & Ginger Are Interviewed About Swinging by JV Altharas on Ending the Sexual Dark Age

Published on 2011-05-07 17:07:17

Ending the Sexual Dark Age - Sex Podcast - SwingingEnding the Sexual Dark Age is a fantastic podcast hosted by JV Altharas and his companion Shara. On their 29th episode, Ginger and I sat down with them to chat about swinging, polyamory, and the joys

Swinging Advice: How To Survive A Swinging Date Trainwreck

Published on 2011-05-06 00:01:14

Ginger tells poor J what to do when a first swinging date turns bad with broken rules and hurt feelings

The Legend of Cum-a-Lot (Pt 3) – Finding Jealousy at Sandstone Retreat as Swingers

Published on 2011-05-05 01:01:27

Sandstone Retreat, a haven of open sexuality in the swinging sixties, delivers a lesson about jealousy and what it means to be open

What Counts as Cheating For Swingers?

Published on 2011-05-04 01:29:50

So this is one of those blogs about a bad swinging experience. It was a misunderstanding. It’s all cleared up between Mr. Doubleplay and I, but it caused hurt feelings. And I believe that we’re stronger as a result. I share the details since hope

It’s A Bigger World Out There, Unicorn! – New Life in the Swinging Lifestyle After a Break Up

Published on 2011-05-02 23:59:19

With her boorish partner out of her life, Payton is faced with re-entering the swinging lifestyle as a unicorn, a single woman, and how her relationships affect that and her

The Very Blind Date – A First Meeting With a New Swing Couple

Published on 2011-05-02 00:01:49

Ginger and the Professor go on a blind date with a new couple whose pictures they haven't seen

A Review of Pipedreams’ Basix Rubber Works 16″ Double Dong

Published on 2011-04-30 00:02:03

Marilyn reviews the Pipedreams' Basix Rubber Works 16" Double Dong

Swinging – In The Lifestyle For Personal Growth

Published on 2011-04-29 00:08:22

Rather than being simply all about the sex, for many swingers, the swinging lifestyle is actually about learning about themselves and growing as people. Our newest writer, Ivey Lane explores this

The Legend of Cum-a-Lot – Discovering Sandstone Retreat in the Swinging 60s

Published on 2011-04-28 00:01:33

In the late sixties, the Sandstone Retreat was a community of free love, polyamory, and swinging, here is a first glimpse

We Play as a Team – Swinging Preferences

Published on 2011-04-27 00:01:16

Mrs Doubleplay realizes a number of things about her comfort level with playing after a hard swap situation in which the couples switched partners for the duration of the evening

E[lust] #25 – Sexy Articles, Erotica, Sex Blogs and More

Published on 2011-04-26 11:07:02

Photo courtesy of Sadie Welcome to e[lust] - Your source for sexual intelligence and inspirations of lust from the smartest & sexiest bloggers! Whether you’re looking for hot steamy smut, thought-provoking opinions or expert information, you’

Rules Revisited and Reconciliations – Communicating in Swinging

Published on 2011-04-26 00:01:59

The huge pothole Jack and Anne push their way through a lot of communication and the revisiting of their rules as swingers

Ep 35: Safer Sex, The Infections Formerly Known as STDs & Swinging – How Swingers & Polyamorists Handle Safer Sex

Published on 2011-04-25 00:01:30

One of the most concerning topics for anyone looking to get into the swinging or other non-monogamous lifestyles is the risk of contracting a sexually transmitted infection, so we invite Gay Rick from Sex Is Fun, a HIV educator, on to discuss the con

Swinger Drama – What It Is, How It Happens, & How To Prevent It

Published on 2011-04-22 00:01:00

What is swinger drama and why does it scare the crap out of everybody? We discuss drama between couples and drama within a couple, and how it's a good idea to run run run as fast as you can away from both types

The Legend of Cum-a-Lot (Pt 1) – A Mini-Series About Swinging Through The Decades

Published on 2011-04-21 00:01:35

Marty Kay Zee begins to spin his tale about his experiences with swinging and changing views of open sexuality from the late sixties

Mixing of Worlds, Blending of Boundaries – When Swinging and Vanilla Worlds Collide

Published on 2011-04-20 00:01:47

The Doubleplays take a risk and invite a couple that they're still not 100% sure about compatibility with to stay with them and bring their kids

Contest: Win A Butterfly Vibrator From Nasstoys of New York!

Published on 2011-04-19 10:35:54

Hey all, we haven't had a contest in a while, but this is a good one and is REALLY easy to enter! If you'd like to win that sexy awesome Butterfly Climaxer vibrator to the right, all you have to do is one of the following

Pleasurists #126 – Sex Toy Reviews

Published on 2011-04-19 10:24:21

Number One Fan by Unique Nudes Welcome to Pleasurists, a round-up of the adult product and sex toy reviews that came out in the last seven days. If you like what you see and want more of it be sure to follow our RSS Feed and Twitter. Did you miss Ple

Pleasurists #125 – Sex Toy Reviews

Published on 2011-04-19 10:21:54

7613 by cavazzola Welcome to Pleasurists, a round-up of the adult product and sex toy reviews that came out in the last seven days. If you like what you see and want more of it be sure to follow our RSS Feed and Twitter. Did you miss Pleasurists #124

From Vanilla to Neapolitan: How I Began Swinging

Published on 2011-04-19 00:01:48

Mr. and Mrs. Softy are new to swinging. Read about how they first got the idea to play with other couples

The Competition Is Open – How Non-Monogamy Strengthens Relationships

Published on 2011-04-18 15:42:36

Neamhspleachas talks about how competition can help in business and government, so when applied to non-monogamy, the appearance of competition can help improve the relationship

Spareparts Hardwear Theo Harness Review

Published on 2011-04-16 00:01:58

Marilyn has a grand time with the Spareparts Theo Harness, a girlfriend, the Nexus Maximus double dildo from Vixen Creations and a lot of imagination!

Swinging Advice: Considering an Open Relationship

Published on 2011-04-15 00:01:20

Q: My boyfriend and I are considering an open relationship. We are happy and in love and I am content with him as my only sexual partner, but he misses the freedom of being able to flirt and be a pick-up artist at the bars. I think I could get used t

Bridging the Gap (Between Swinging and BDSM)

Published on 2011-04-14 00:01:44

Cadence Rayne implores the Swingset readers to not exclude BDSM from their play life because it may seem a teeny bit scary, but instead to begin exploring

A Bump in the Road – A Swinger Party Goes Bad

Published on 2011-04-12 00:01:37

Jack returns to the Road to Swingtown to tell us about a swinger party that almost threw them completely off balance and out of their course into the swinging lifestyle

Ep 34: Breaking it Down – BDSM In The Swinging Lifestyle

Published on 2011-04-10 23:01:44

Miss Ami, a full time Domme, returns to The Swingset to discuss how BDSM fits into the swinging and non-monogamous lifestyles, how these worlds collide, and being out as a kinky person. And Dylan's curiosity seems to be moving to full blown obsession

Lelo’s Alia Clit Vibrator Review

Published on 2011-04-09 00:01:46

Pink, quiet and soft as a mouse. Lelo's Alia, from their Insignia line, is the silkiest, smoothest clit vibe that has graced my skin. Pretty as a pearl and fits in the palm of my hand. It almost seems too lovely for me to be using it as a personal cl

Kasidie.com’s Swinger Couple of the Month: Heather & Andy

Published on 2011-04-07 17:03:17

Every month, Kasidie.com, our hands down favorite swinger website, profiles one of their sexy couples, click the awesome picture below to read about them! If you'd like to join the Kasidie community, click here for a free trial, courtesy Life on the

Swinging Advice: Jealousy, Unicorns & Nerves

Published on 2011-04-07 00:01:07

We here at The Swingset are always happy to help with any questions or concerns you have, please don’t hesitate to ask! Q: I am very interested in delving into a more open / alternative lifestyle with my partner. I’ve been listening to yo

Pleasurists #124 – Sex Toy Reviews

Published on 2011-04-06 11:26:48

Turn Your Heart To the Light by Belenen Welcome to Pleasurists, a round-up of the adult product and sex toy reviews that came out in the last seven days. If you like what you see and want more of it be sure to follow our RSS Feed and Twitter. Did you

We Crossed The Line – Soft Swap Swingers Go Full Swap

Published on 2011-04-06 00:01:41

After five years in the lifestyle The Doubleplays begin to have discussions and fantasy talk about making the move to full swap, and after an episode of Swingercast, they make the leap

My First Orgy

Published on 2011-04-05 00:01:19

Suzy Softy is brand new to the swinging and blogging world. What better way to introduce herself than to describe her very first orgy? Read on to find out what it was like to boldly enter a sex club for Mr. and Mrs. S's first time swinging!

My Prerogative (or, My 2nd O)

Published on 2011-04-03 00:01:23

Blue spins an erotic tale of playtime with Kitten and a dildo

Ask a Swinger: Entering the Swinging Lifestyle Through the Infidelity Door

Published on 2011-04-01 00:01:33

Ginger answers a couple whose question is about infidelity leading to swinging, and gives advice for those couples on how to transition

Pleasurists #123 – Sex Toy Reviews

Published on 2011-03-30 10:31:32

Beauty by Any Definition by UniqueNudes Welcome to Pleasurists, a round-up of the adult product and sex toy reviews that came out in the last seven days. For updates and information follow our RSS Feed and Twitter. Did you miss Pleasurists #122? Read

Jealousy? – When Attraction Levels Differ

Published on 2011-03-30 00:01:42

Team Doubleplay meet The Wonderfuls for a date, and discuss where their boundaries are when it comes to jealousy, taking one for the team, and attraction imbalance

Ep 33: Spank My Ass! BDSM, Swinging and You

Published on 2011-03-28 00:45:31

The Swingset crew invites Miss Ami, a full time Domme to join the discussion about what BDSM stands for, what it means to be Domme/sub, how her lifestyle impacts her life, and why swingers seem to have such difficulty feeling comfortable with those f

Sleeping With The Enemy – When Sex Positive Communities Turn On Each Other

Published on 2011-03-25 16:25:57

Kendra rails against the fact that many sex positive communities that proclaim themselves open and honest, and should know better, still feel the need to knock down other sex positive groups

Who Cares About Your Open Relationship?

Published on 2011-03-25 00:01:27

When a public person intimates that she might forgive her man for cheating, the internet is abuzz with speculation and condemnation of swinging and open relationships

Pleasurists #122 – Sex Toy Reviews

Published on 2011-03-23 10:10:57

Beauty of Male Form 1 by RaCorb Welcome to Pleasurists, a round-up of the adult product and sex toy reviews that came out in the last seven days. For updates and information follow our RSS Feed and Twitter. Did you miss Pleasurists #121? Read it all

Making Love & Losing Friends – Biases Against Polyamory

Published on 2011-03-23 00:01:08

Blue comes up against the cold hard reality that some friends simply will not be able to deal with the fact that she's in a polyamorous relationship

E[lust] #24 – Sexy Articles, Erotica, Sex Blogs and More

Published on 2011-03-22 13:28:51

Photo Courtesy of Kitten’s Toys Welcome to e[lust] - Your source for sexual intelligence and inspirations of lust from the smartest & sexiest bloggers! Whether you’re looking for hot steamy smut, thought-provoking opinions or expert infor

The American Dream – Porn Star Teacher Scandals and Realigning our Perception

Published on 2011-03-21 00:01:33

Justin Cleveland takes on the notion that porn stars and other sex workers have no place in "polite society" after the recent porn star teacher scandals and what's become of the American Dream

Caught

Published on 2011-03-21 00:01:00

Kylin tells us how a sexy scene with a semi-public car blowjob can turn on you from a strange and random memory

A Big O – From First Orgasms to Multiple Orgasms

Published on 2011-03-18 00:01:19

Blue takes us back to her first orgasm, how masturbation and orgasms have changed for her over the years, and orgasming with someone else.

Ask A Swinger – Discovering Anal Play

Published on 2011-03-17 00:01:26

Cooper answers a question from Jenna about how to best get started doing anal play with her boyfriend.

Mississippi Belle in Hell – A First Trip To The Swinger Club

Published on 2011-03-16 00:01:53

Mrs. Doubleplay talks about a woman who was shocked and appalled during her first trip to a swinger club but may have found her way

Pleasurists #121 – Sex Toy Reviews

Published on 2011-03-15 23:28:29

Welcome to Pleasurists, a round-up of the adult product and sex toy reviews that came out in the last seven days. For updates and information follow our RSS Feed and Twitter.

A Picture is Worth a Thousand Hits – Sexting Pictures and Swinger Profile Pics

Published on 2011-03-15 00:01:35

He Said discusses getting back into the game after their recent bad time, sexting sexy photos, and putting their first swinger profile pictures up on Kasidie.com

Ep 32: Cooper & Marilyn’s Excellent Adventure – Swinging at Desire Resort & Spa

Published on 2011-03-14 00:01:41

Cooper and Marilyn just got back from Desire, but in between the nonstop playtime and suntanning and hottubbing and drinking and dining, they found time to record a full trip diary detailing their time spent at Desire Resort & Spa in Cancun. (We

The New Romantix – A Porn Review

Published on 2011-03-13 17:24:19

Marilyn takes on her second porn review with The New Romantix sent to us from Babeland.com

Sinclair Institute Select’s Gia: Curved G Spot Massager Review

Published on 2011-03-13 17:16:47

Marilyn reviews Sinclair Institute Select's Gia: Curved G Spot Massager courtesy Blowfish.com

Evolved’s Silky G Vibrator Review

Published on 2011-03-13 11:25:25

The name of this toy says it all! The Silky G is a g-spot toy that is part of the Fleur De Lis line at Evolved. It has a hard plastic shell and like it’s name it does feel silky smooth. This toy is so smooth that it makes it easy to slide right i

Phallix Precious Steel Stainless Steel Vibrator & Dildo Series Review

Published on 2011-03-13 11:14:34

I love the feeling of hard, cold steel gliding gently over my skin. Each time I placed one of Phallix's Precious Steel dildos and vibrators over my warm pussy lips I would shiver and smile. The chilling, strong steel awoke my senses and knew I was go

Bullshit Glue – Honesty in Swinging (and Escape Plans)

Published on 2011-03-11 00:01:25

Kylin talks about when to be honest and what to do when you don't feel you CAN be honest in awkward swinging situations.

My Sex Toy – His Role in My PolyLife

Published on 2011-03-09 00:01:02

Foxy gives us a little insight into the relationship she has with her Sex Toy, and how it differs from her dating relationships

Podcast Special – Boris & Doris Come Out as Swingers

Published on 2011-03-08 01:17:35

Cooper introduces Boris & Doris, hosts of the Boris & Doris Podcast (bndpodcast.com) that follows the journey of two brand spankin' new swingers, and we listen to a shortened version of their fifth episode where they come out, live on the r

We Begin With Talk Of Drink and Debauchery – Hazy Memories of Desire

Published on 2011-03-07 00:01:42

Cooper channels his inner Hunter Thompson for this snippet of a trip report from Desire which may or may not have any factual accuracy to it at all

Our Craziest Times – Sexiest Swinger Lifestyle Moments

Published on 2011-03-04 00:01:35

Mrs. Doubleplay discusses some of her sexiest times in the lifestyle.

Blind Honesty – Blind Dates and Swinging Go Wrong

Published on 2011-03-03 00:01:23

Mr. Swap Fu discusses the importance of exchanging pictures before a date instead of going in blind, and how he learned that profile pictures are a must on swinger dating sites.

The Magic Ticket – Conversation Begets Threesome Begets Swinging

Published on 2011-03-02 00:01:58

Jubal H talks about the early days of conversations about non-monogamy and bisexuality, experimentation with unicorns, and onto finding the perfect balance for swinging.

Supporting Friends

Published on 2011-02-28 11:33:21

We feel compelled to post a blog in the wake of the most recent Swingset episode in which Cooper and Marilyn joined the Sex is Fun crew for their trip to Desire. We’re so happy everybody had a fantastic time. That is what Desire is all about! I

Ep 31: Sex on the Swingset is Fun – Live From Desire, The Sexiest Place on Earth with Kidder Kaper & Lorax

Published on 2011-02-27 23:59:38

In Ep 31, the greatest crossover since The Flintstones met The Jetsons happens as Cooper and Marilyn podcast with Kidder Kaper and Lorax from Sex Is Fun live from an outside bed at Desire in sunny Cancun. They discuss what it's like to be in a world

Swinging, Male Orgasms, and Prostate Play

Published on 2011-02-25 00:01:00

The ridiculous stigma of "being gay" has kept many men from exploring anal play and prostate stimulation. Jason makes the arguments against this line of thought and for learning to love your butt.

Women, Swinging, and Seduction – From Meeting to Fucking in the Swinging Lifestyle

Published on 2011-02-24 00:01:05

Dr. Ziggy shares a conversation he had with a friend's wife about why she wanted to leave the swinging lifestyle, how so many men she meets just seem to stampede from the first moments right for the sex.

To Enhance or Not to Enhance – Erection Enhancing Pills and Swinging

Published on 2011-02-23 00:01:50

Cooper talks about the feedback loop that is erectile dysfunction and going off the pills that helped him keep it up during the tough times.

Happy Lady Porn Day!

Published on 2011-02-22 07:43:11

Happy Lady Porn Day, Swingsetters! You’ll notice a theme in the cyberverse today…Lady Porn, specifically porn created by, uniquely for or with women in mind. Lady Porn is not your dad’s Hustlers. While Lady Porn in some ways should be whatever

Three Weddings and a Baptism – Sexy Happenings at a Hotel Bar

Published on 2011-02-21 00:01:12

The Saucy Wench tells us of her time to play a cougar amongst the twenty somethings from a wedding at a hotel bar in Washington DC

Ep 30: Love Thyself – Masturbation and Non-Monogamy

Published on 2011-02-17 23:15:53

In Ep 30, we discuss masturbation, which Woody Allen called "sex with someone I love," and talk about why, in swinging and non-monogamy, we have all the opportunity in the world for sex and we still continue to jack off and jill off (is that a thing?

Kasidie.com’s Swinger Couple of the Month: Stace & Brent

Published on 2011-02-17 12:21:33

Every month, Kasidie.com, our hands down favorite swinger website, profiles one of their sexy couples, click the awesome picture below to read about them! If you'd like to join the Kasidie community, click here for a free trial, courtesy Life on the

What if His Is Much Larger Than Mine? – His & Hers Perspectives on Cock Size And Swinging

Published on 2011-02-17 00:01:14

Y.U. Freaky offers his and hers perspectives on the ever important question of cock size and swinging

Blue Falls In Love – A Polyamorous Beginning

Published on 2011-02-16 16:45:40

Photo provided by Marco Gomes Hey sexy people, Cooper here. Blue came to me with a proposal, to document her journey into Polyamory. I told her to climb on up and take a swing. “I am definitely in love with her.” Not that strange a senten

Soft To Hard To Insanity – Full Throttle Swinging with the Hardcores

Published on 2011-02-16 00:01:04

Mrs. Doubleplay tells us about their last night in New Orleans, and being caught off guard by Mr. & Mrs. Hardcore's level of hardcore swinging

Threesome On a Cloud – Erotica

Published on 2011-02-15 00:01:23

Our narrator tells the story of an amazing threesome he shared with another couple in the basement of a swinger party on a Liberator Zeppelin Lounger

False Sense of Security – A Polyamorous Relationship Experiences Growing Pains

Published on 2011-02-14 00:01:17

Blue tackles growing pains of an ever evolving and shifting relationship landscape in her triad with Kitten and Ark

Someone Else’s Arms – Lamenting the Loss of a Lover and Friend

Published on 2011-02-11 00:01:34

Ginger talks about the "polyswingamorous" relationship she misses most in her life, that of the girlfriend she and Prof shared.

Dinner Gone Wild – Tequila, Great Sex, & New Beginnings

Published on 2011-02-10 00:01:11

The Saucy Wench describes a wild night of tequila, fucking, and fun with a vanilla couple and a beautiful man.

New Lady – A Three Way Scene of Domination and Submission

Published on 2011-02-09 00:01:55

Foxy tells us of her first date of 2011, where she and the beautiful Miss K went out on the town and found themselves in a scene of domination and submission with Mr.T

When Love Multiplies: Two Couples, One Relationship – Swinging, Polyamory, and Evolution (Pt 2)

Published on 2011-02-08 00:01:07

Guest writer LoveAllWays talks about two couples who experience a full range of swinging and polyamory together, their emotions, and the effects on their relationships (Part 2)

Kindness of Strangers – Returning to the Swinging Lifestyle After a Hiatus

Published on 2011-02-07 00:01:39

Kylin talks about being on hiatus from the lifestyle for a while, and how she came back to it.

Ep 29: Porn, Bisexuals, Anal Sex, Opening Up, and Tristan Taormino

Published on 2011-02-04 00:01:28

In Ep 29, the Swingset tries very hard not to simply gush over their biggest crush, Tristan Taormino, as she joins us for a discussion of the time writing porn, her thoughts on bisexuality in the lifestyle and in film, her book Opening Up, and puttin

Pleasurists #115 – Sex Toy Reviews

Published on 2011-02-03 18:20:10

Adam by Slajmboll-photo Welcome to Pleasurists, a round-up of the adult product and sex toy reviews that came out in the last seven days. For updates and information follow our RSS Feed and Twitter. Did you miss Pleasurists #114? Read it all here. Do

Flying Solo – Do Fuck Buddies and Solo Play-Dates Work?

Published on 2011-02-03 00:01:30

Mrs Doubleplay tells us about a couple they know who both have separate fuck buddies, and discusses the idea as it applies to her and her husband.

Chivalry is Not Dead…it’s Just Had Cosmetic Surgery – Being a Nice Guy in the Swinging Lifestyle

Published on 2011-02-02 00:01:11

Jubal H talks about the difficulties inherent in NOT being a Lothario in the swinging lifestyle.

When Love Multiplies: Two Couples, One Relationship – Swinging, Polyamory, and Evolution (Pt 1)

Published on 2011-02-01 00:01:09

Guest writer LoveAllWays talks about two couples who experience a full range of swinging and polyamory together, their emotions, and the effects on their relationships (Part 1)

Interview with Terry Gould, author of The Lifestyle: A Look at the Erotic Rites of Swingers

Published on 2011-01-31 12:28:05

Kasidie interviews Terry Gould, author of what many consider the definitive book on swinging and the lifestyle: The Lifestyle - A Look at the Erotic Rites of Swingers

Kendra Holliday’s First Full Swap (Pt 2)

Published on 2011-01-31 00:01:05

Kendra Holliday, writer and creator of TheBeautifulKind.com joins us on the Swingset to tell us about her first time full swapping with another couple. (Part 1 of 2)

Ask A Swinger – Boundaries and Broken Rules at the First Soft Swap

Published on 2011-01-28 00:01:57

Sara Hedon fields an intense question about broken rules, boundaries being crossed, and inconsiderate playmates at a first soft swap experience.

A Year On The Swingset – Our Very Sexy Birthday

Published on 2011-01-28 00:01:54

Cooper reflects on a year on the Swingset and looks forward to year two.

Fine – A Sexy Man and His Grumpy Wife at a Swinger Club

Published on 2011-01-26 00:01:29

Kylin tells the story of her trip to an orgy at a swinger club where she met a sexy man and his wife who simply said grumpily that everything was "fine..."

Pleasurists #114 – Sex Toy Reviews

Published on 2011-01-25 09:50:26

Sexy by AleViolet Welcome to Pleasurists, a round-up of the adult product and sex toy reviews that came out in the last seven days. For updates and information follow our RSS Feed and Twitter. Did you miss Pleasurists #113? Read it all here. Do you h

Kendra Holliday’s First Full Swap (Pt 1)

Published on 2011-01-25 00:01:21

Kendra Holliday, writer and creator of TheBeautifulKind.com joins us on the Swingset to tell us about her first time full swapping with another couple. (Part 1 of 2)

I Am The Unicorn – A Single Girl in the Swinging Lifestyle

Published on 2011-01-24 00:01:12

The Saucy Wench tells us why she loves being a unicorn and helping to fulfill swinging couples fantasies.

Cum Play With a Lelo Ina – Win Marilyn’s Favorite Vibrator!

Published on 2011-01-22 01:45:24

Win a Lelo Ina as Life on the Swingset celebrates its first birthday!

Lelo Siri Review

Published on 2011-01-22 01:31:14

Marilyn reviews the Siri, from our the company behind many of our favorite sex toys, Lelo.

Big Teaze Toys’ Dai-Do No. 6 Review

Published on 2011-01-22 01:25:36

Marilyn reviews the unique and fascinating Dai-Do No. 6 by Big Teaze Toys. This stainless steal and silicone toy is utterly unique and unusual, and a must try.

Ep 28: Sexual Erotic Nutrition and Sex At Dawn – An Interview With Christopher Ryan (Part 2)

Published on 2011-01-21 00:01:09

In Ep 28, the Swingset's interview with Christopher Ryan, author of the bestselling book Sex At Dawn which challenges the idea that monogamy is natural and ingrained in human beings, continues. We discuss whether or not there's hope for America's daw

Swingers 2: Polyamory Drift

Published on 2011-01-20 00:34:57

Cooper talks about being disappointed with newbies, changing relationships with friends, and the magnetic pull towards polyamory that he and Marilyn are feeling as swingers.

Tempus Fugit in the Magic Kingdom – A Booty Call in a Disney Bedroom

Published on 2011-01-19 00:01:43

Kylin reminisces about a booty call hook-up in a Disney themed bedroom

Pleasurists #113 – Sex Toy Reviews

Published on 2011-01-18 17:01:32

Snake by SangsterPhotography Welcome to Pleasurists, a round-up of the adult product and sex toy reviews that came out in the last seven days. For updates and information follow our RSS Feed and Twitter. Did you miss Pleasurists #112? Read it all her

Full Swap vs. Soft Swap: What’s the Big Deal?

Published on 2011-01-18 00:01:45

Holly Swings asks the big question on everybody's mind, full swap or soft swap, as a swinger, where're you headed?

E[lust] #22 – Sexy Articles, Erotica, Sex Blogs and More

Published on 2011-01-17 15:22:51

Welcome to e[lust] - Your source for sexual intelligence and inspirations of lust from the smartest & sexiest bloggers! Whether you’re looking for hot steamy smut, thought-provoking opinions or expert information, you’re going to find it her

How I Met Sexy Firefighter…

Published on 2011-01-17 00:01:54

The Saucy Wench tells us about a chance meeting at a local gas station that led to some watching, some kissing, and a teeny bit of fondling with a sexy firefighter

Ep 27: Bonobo Porn and Sex at Dawn – An Interview With Christopher Ryan (Part 1)

Published on 2011-01-13 14:55:37

On Ep 27, the Swingset interviews Christopher Ryan, author of the bestselling book Sex At Dawn which challenges the idea that monogamy is natural and ingrained in human beings. We discuss bonobos, a species that sexually is far more similar to us tha

Poly Living – Children and Living Arrangements For the Polyamorous

Published on 2011-01-13 00:01:29

Blue talks about many variations on Polyamorous living arrangements including children and co-habitation

I Cannot Tell A Lie After Two Drinks – Discretion As Swingers

Published on 2011-01-12 00:01:41

Mrs. Doubleplay talks about her concerns about lack of discretion in the swing community and how drinking can create loose lips.

The Sexiest Sex is Healthy Sex – Safer Sex and STI/STD Avoidance

Published on 2011-01-11 00:01:42

Ginger discusses having the safer sex conversation with your lovers, getting tested for STDs / STIs and practicing safer sex.

You Are Not In Control Today

Published on 2011-01-10 00:01:26

The Saucy Wench tells us about an impromptu play date with the Sexy Firefighter where he took complete control

Douchebagopolis. Population: Him – When Communication Fails In Swinging

Published on 2011-01-06 23:46:13

He Said and She Said tell a story of poor communication at a swinger party and a boundary pushing guy who doesn't understand swinger rules

The B-Word

Published on 2011-01-05 00:09:26

Kylin talks about her relationship with her rear, and the difficulties she's had realizing that some of the comments (most in the swinger community) about her butt are very complimentary!

Kasidie.com’s Swinger Couple of the Month: Teri & Kevin

Published on 2011-01-03 23:05:00

Every month, Kasidie.com, our hands down favorite swinger website, profiles one of their sexy couples, click the awesome picture below to read about them! If you'd like to join the Kasidie community, click here for a free trial, courtesy Life on the

Sex, Orgasms, and Polyamory

Published on 2011-01-03 00:01:50

Blue talks about the importance of sex in relationships monogamous and non-monogamous, and ease of orgasms.

Sex, Orgasms, and Polyamory

Published on 2011-01-03 00:01:50

Blue talks about the importance of sex in relationships monogamous and non-monogamous, and ease of orgasms.

Liberator Flip Ramp Review

Published on 2010-12-30 22:47:15

Cooper and the Professor give a tag-team review of the Liberator Flip Ramp while playing with each other's wives.

Ep 26: Auld Lang Syne – An Orgy, A Game, An Epiphany, & A Ritual

Published on 2010-12-30 20:10:28

Episode 26 is a time of reflection for us as The Swingset celebrates the end of its first year of existence. We discuss what we've learned along the way, talk about the orgy Cooper and Marilyn threw for Ginger and the Professor where the crew beta te

Jack’s Arrival in Swingtown – The First Soft Swap With Swingers

Published on 2010-12-30 00:01:43

Jack shares his feelings about the first nervous toes dipped into the water at the edge of Swingtown.

A Night on Bourbon Street – Swinging in New Orleans

Published on 2010-12-29 00:01:54

Mrs. Doubleplay tells us about a steamy night in New Orleans with some new friends, and some hot and sexy oral action.

Pleasurists #110 – Sex Toy Reviews

Published on 2010-12-28 22:49:17

Shibari XII by mjranum Welcome to Pleasurists, a round-up of the adult product and sex toy reviews that came out in the last seven days. For updates and information follow our RSS Feed and Twitter. Did you miss Pleasurists #109? Read it all here. Do

A Tryst By The Car – Erotica

Published on 2010-12-28 00:01:44

Our narrator brings you in and fills you up in a tryst by the car outside work involving oral, and anal, cunnilingus and rimming, all mingled with the threat of getting caught in this new piece of erotica

Our First Trip to a Swing Club – Conclusions

Published on 2010-12-27 00:01:06

Andy and Michelle, while researching to open a safe haven for sexuality coffee shop called "Shameless Grounds" in St. Louis, traveled to Seattle and to a swing club. They describe their experiences in a "he said/she said" fashion and don't pull any p

Putting the X Back in Xmas

Published on 2010-12-25 00:41:16

Jack talks about making Xmas sexy again by putting in the X and buying Anne a Hitachi Magic Wand, and other sexy gifts