The many layers of frustration...
10/15/2014 01:22:00 AM
So here's why I'm whining...1. > read more
About time to get back to blogging...
10/08/2014 10:26:00 AM
It's been a while, but I'm back... back to training every day, back to thinking about Jiu jitsu and back to lots of parts of my life that kind of got back burner'd for a while.Just wanted to show off my latest indulgence... this Mizuno gi, the Rickso > read more
Gregorio Rivera, BJJ instructor in Claremont CA, arrested on sex charges
09/14/2014 11:44:00 AM
Thanks to the person who brought this to my attention.Someone with inside information posted a thread a few weeks ago on mma.tv about a BJJ instructor in California arrested for child sexual assault.At the time there were technically no charges > read more
Lloyd Irvin is starting an after-school how-to?
09/11/2014 17:10:00 PM
I couldn't even listen more than a few seconds. > read more
Why is Dateline filming a piece about Lloyd Irvin?
08/21/2014 23:02:00 PM
I'm told by a good source that Dateline NBC was filming at Lloyd Irvin's this week and they'll be back in September. > read more
Aldo Batista trial begins 8/25
08/11/2014 10:12:00 AM
New Hampshire jiu jitsu instructor Aldo Batista's rape trial begins August 25. > read more
Crispy cool summer salad
08/08/2014 15:57:00 PM
Lots of changes in my life these days and been really busy, but I wanted to share something yummy that requires no cooking...Chinese Cucumber Salad (from SewPetiteGal)Prep Time: ~10 minutesMarinating Time: ~30 minutesIngredients:1 English cucumber (c > read more
Ruth's Dissent in Hobby Lobby
07/31/2014 09:15:00 AM
Wonderful interview with Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg about her dissent in Hobby Lobby. > read more
Review: Ladies' rashguard and spats by Detales
07/30/2014 14:24:00 PM
I'm so excited to review this rashie and spats for you ladies! > read more
07/28/2014 09:54:00 AM
I have three new gis, one of which was used and no longer made, from ebay, and one of which is sold out.. but I plan on posting a brief review of all three here...Right now I'm working on big answer at work and here's what I'm listening to right now. > read more
Spicy sesame noodles, for Bobby :)
07/21/2014 13:59:00 PM
I made these for the academy potluck which was held immediately following the big promotion... wow, they turned out really good and super easy. > read more
Faixa Roxa 7.12.14
07/14/2014 12:22:00 PM
I started training jiu jitsu inadvertently, because I began training in kajukenbo before I got married in the spring of 2008 and jiu jitsu and judo were part of the curriculum. > read more
Advice for people training jiu jitsu about when it's paranoia and when it's not....
07/09/2014 11:06:00 AM
I received an incredibly disturbing email telling me a story about a relationship in an academy. > read more
Nick Schultz trial update
07/06/2014 15:35:00 PM
I will add to this post as I obtain more information next week:Just checked on the DC Courts website and here's what I see. A few explanations: I don't have contact with the misdemeanor prosecutors so I can't ask questions yet (it's Sunday folks) but > read more
07/05/2014 10:56:00 AM
April 20, I had an injury during a roll. > read more
Raising my own consciousness
06/02/2014 15:30:00 PM
I read a good article on Slate titled "Why It's So Hard for Men to See Misogyny." > read more
05/29/2014 05:08:00 AM
If you haven't already, you really must clear your calendar and watch everything BJJScout posts on his site.BUT... his latest series of additions just came to my attention. > read more
So much sexism, so much male entitlement...
05/28/2014 06:20:00 AM
I begin this post with a confession and an apology; towards the end, a repost of some scary shit from Ronda Rousey's mom about martial arts and sexual abuse.I Facebook way, way more than I blog. > read more
Combat Skin spats and rashguard review
05/27/2014 10:31:00 AM
I'm a big fan of the "Combat Warrior" rashie and spats, designed by Meerkatsu and made by Combat Skin.I'll start by saying I wore the rashguard and spats in a lot of nogi classes as well as under my gi, for a few months. > read more
Detales grappling gear specially for women...
05/22/2014 15:30:00 PM
Detales Clothing just opened their online store. > read more
July 26, Naturally Fit grappling tourney in Austin
05/01/2014 15:50:00 PM
Check out a great tournament hosted by the Machado family, in Austin July 26th. > read more
Update on Aldo Batista child rape prosecution
04/29/2014 22:18:00 PM
Aldo Batista Dos Santos, a 37 year-old Brazilian jiu jitsu instructor in New Hampshire, was arrested May 17 by Nashua (NH) Police, charged with several rapes. He was then arrested in Hudson on similar charges. Today, the Hillsborough Southern Distric > read more
Let's play the Rape Culture Game!
04/28/2014 22:30:00 PM
Rape culture: > read more
How to prevent and deal with rape in your academy.
04/24/2014 16:39:00 PM
This will be an evolving work as I receive suggestions and input (welcomed from all)... Sexual assault in the BJJ community is certainly a hot topic right now, and has been for at least the last year or so. > read more
Oh yes more rape in the BJJ community
04/24/2014 12:18:00 PM
I'm so tired of posting about this stuff. > read more
Rape culture, education, prevention, and mansplaining.
04/21/2014 22:47:00 PM
On facebook the other day I posted this picture, which comes from here:It started getting comments like this: ** Teaching women how to protect themselves works. Teaching predators not to be predators doesn't. That's why they're called predators.** > read more
Guest Review: Drysdale's Cradle nogi instructional
04/15/2014 13:22:00 PM
My buddy Pete (in the red shorts) has been training for six years, predominantly nogi, and currently trains at BETA Academy in DC under Nakapan Phungephorn, a Pedro Sauer bb. > read more
Review: Q5 supplements for performance
04/02/2014 15:34:00 PM
I don't usually review supplements, because I don't take them, honestly. > read more
Maybe the horse can fly...
03/31/2014 17:09:00 PM
There are always possibilities available to us in life. Whatever the world throws at us, we should never lose hope. Our circumstances will improve if we keep pursuing our desires.Theres an old Sufi legend about a man named Mullah Nasrudin. This wi > read more
Victory and loss.
03/30/2014 22:46:00 PM
Won my division Saturday.Best friend died of cancer Sunday.Heather, I'll never forget you, I'll always miss your smile and loving kindness. > read more
Out of the Pan, into the fire...
03/28/2014 09:19:00 AM
Sorry I haven't been around in a while... it's been busy. > read more
Interview with Leo Negao!
03/20/2014 11:27:00 AM
GymTalk just did a cool interview with Leo Negao, thought you might enjoy it. > read more
03/10/2014 14:34:00 PM
I'm leaving this evening for Santa Ana CA and I'm pretty excited about working the Pan! > read more
IBJJF adds 2 new weight classes for women!
03/07/2014 15:13:00 PM
Starting with the 2014 Worlds, IBJJF has now added Rooster and Super Heavy weightclasses for women.http://ibjjf.org/2014/03/new-female-weight-divisions/ > read more
Countering how BJJ destroys your hair
03/05/2014 12:51:00 PM
The oldest story in the book of women and jiu jitsu might just be about the relationship between us and our hairs. > read more
Countering the Whizzer!
03/04/2014 17:18:00 PM
Thanks Keebler (Gracie Humaita Cleveland, under Royler) for this great little show-and-tell: > read more
New patches available!
02/26/2014 10:58:00 AM
Click on the page tab at the top of the blog-- cleverly named "Patches Available."And something fun to watch... Keenan and Galvao training back in August, 3 rounds. > read more
Amazing charity BJJ seminar, please chip in!
02/25/2014 19:10:00 PM
Better late than never... some friends in Seattle had a fabulous charity seminar recently with instruction from people like Renato Laranja and James Foster and you can still chip in a bit for a worthy cause. https://www.indiegogo.com/projects/care-fo > read more
How did I get my start in jiu jitsu?
02/18/2014 13:15:00 PM
I get asked this question a fair bit, and since I just replied to a friend on this topic, thought I would share here:I started in another art called Kajukenbo which includes jiu jitsu and judo, mainly because it was the martial art offered at the "re > read more
Journalism vs Public Relations
02/15/2014 14:02:00 PM
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Chat with the author of the rape apologia on BJPenn.com, Daneul Summers
02/12/2014 09:30:00 AM
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Prancing around with models in NY Fashion Week... whaaaa?
02/11/2014 21:06:00 PM
No, no one hates on you because of your success (at what, exactly?) or your looks. In fact, as far as I know, you aren't actually hated. You're not important enough to merit the energy of hate. > read more
More of Nick Schultz's opinions on tonight's podcast.
02/09/2014 16:30:00 PM
Tonight, starting around 5pm CT, the Bullshido podcast, including more of my interview with alleged rapist Nick Schultz. > read more
I'm in the newspaper...
02/06/2014 12:17:00 PM
This is my day job, nothing to do with jiu jitsu. > read more
Super Body Care-- you'll never go back!
01/31/2014 09:37:00 AM
Cheri, owner of Super Body Care, sent a huge care package last year with presents for the NYE rape survivor, and duplicates for me. > read more
something fun to watch...
01/30/2014 09:53:00 AM
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You're not a unique, delicate snowflake. Time to commit.
01/29/2014 16:18:00 PM
The fabulous advice from Mark Twight, the trainer for the cast/crew of the movie "300," bears repeating again, and again. > read more
Interviews with Nick Schultz and Alvis Solis tonight....
01/26/2014 09:05:00 AM
Tonight (Sunday January 26) for the Bullshido podcast at 5pm CT I will be interviewing Nick Schultz and Alvis Solis...I'll have Alvis appearing live to discuss his actions in getting Nick ejected from the World Grappling Circuit tournament in Houston > read more
Discount codes for my readers....
01/24/2014 13:38:00 PM
Two great suppliers, one BJJ-specific and one more general martial arts/muay thai/MMA oriented, have offered some discounts for readers of my blog...The first is Ok! Kimonos. > read more
Ladies' Predadora gi back on the shelves! review coming!
01/24/2014 08:18:00 AM
As you know I am sponsored by Black Eagle, a premium supplier of all kinds of gear in the UK. > read more
Sexual abuse of minor at New Hampshire BJJ academy...
01/21/2014 08:32:00 AM
This is semi-old news since it happened in May 2013 but I was just made aware of it... so sad... I was contacted by one of Aldo Batista's former students who wanted some help in getting the word out so that potential future students might be made awa > read more
Nick Schultz thrown out of BJJ tournament
01/19/2014 02:46:00 AM
The World Grappling Circuit held a BJJ tournament in Houston on Saturday. > read more
Mateo in NYC
01/15/2014 08:15:00 AM
How many of us ladies have hung out with an "alleged" rapist (perhaps someone who was acquitted? or who was never formally charged?) and not known it? > read more
Instructor formerly at Brandon Quick Jiu Jitsu charged with sex offense
01/14/2014 14:27:00 PM
Twenty-three year old owner Samuel Lewis of BQuick Jiu Jitsu in Stephenville TX was arrested on Monday January 13 and > read more
The Pan is coming right up...
01/10/2014 10:13:00 AM
For those of you maybe a little newer to jiu jitsu, or who haven't competed much in the bigger tournaments, you may be wondering what the heck is the Pan.I know when I first went, I called it the Pan Am or Pan Ams. > read more
Should tournaments allow TLI to compete?
01/08/2014 22:58:00 PM
I received this from a friend in November, but due to work and family obligations, I failed to write this up until now.I offer this principled stand for your consideration... personally, I will not compete in any tournament that permits TLI competito > read more
Civil suit filed in NYE rape case
01/03/2014 14:47:00 PM
On December 30, 2013 "Jane Doe" filed a civil lawsuit against Maldonado, Schultz, the parking garage and the nightclub.12/30/2013Service IssuedIssue Date: 12/30/2013Service: Summons IssuedMethod: Service IssuedCost Per: $PENN PARKING, INC.1717 Rhode > read more
Merry Christmas everyone!
12/24/2013 14:11:00 PM
2013 was a crazy, crazy year for me, for the blog, for my jiu jitsu...The biggest deal of my 2013 was the infertility bullshit. > read more
Don't ever start from failure!
12/10/2013 12:27:00 PM
Darren from Gracie Humaita Cleveland makes a great point which helped my training...And hey... that Tozi pass? > read more
Training again as consistently as I can...
12/04/2013 14:28:00 PM
Super happy to be back on the mats a little more consistently than work, family, and travel permitted within recent memory... > read more
DJ Jackson's confession and other horror stories released in new Lloyd Irvin exposé
12/03/2013 10:34:00 AM
Jake Rossen's article just came out:http://www.miaminewtimes.com/2013-12-05/news/ufc-trainer-lloyd-irvin-cult/Also, updates in Nick Schultz's case... his prior attorney withdrew (he's out of cash) and he's gotten counsel appointed by the Court. > read more
A Quick Primer on Defamation
11/21/2013 09:18:00 AM
The following is not meant to provide legal advice nor am I your lawyer just because you read this post! > read more
Review: the Wamada Bamboo rashguard
11/18/2013 11:32:00 AM
I met Zack Adelson, the man behind the company, at the NY Open this spring and was delighted to have the chance to review one of their new bamboo rashguards. > read more
11/14/2013 11:03:00 AM
I am not publishing comments which contain profanity, the real name of the NYE survivor, or rude/hateful language. I welcome open discourse even with people with whom I disagree... but I always reserve the right to protect others or to limit this for > read more