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Why in the World Should Insurance Cover Infertility Treatment?!?
Published on 2012-05-24 11:15:38
Infertility treatment is expensive—very very expensive. Especially once you move into assisted reproduction and in vitro fertilization. It feels all the more expensive to those suffering from this disease … [visit site to read more] > read more
International Adoptive Parents Beware
Published on 2012-05-22 13:44:22
Life shouldn’t be this hard. Kari Shepherd was abandoned in an Indian orphanage at birth. She was adopted at 3 months, but her mom died of cancer when she was eight. I’m sure the best of intentions were meant by all, but she ended up being passed around between > read more
Dealing with the Green-Eyed Monster Named Envy
Published on 2012-05-17 08:59:25
I was catching up on some of the blogs I follow this week and ran across a passage that rang crystal clear from Shayla at Wegen Tales, who blogs about her struggles to conceive after five miscarriages. She was talking about the sermon at her church on Mother’s Day when her minister challenged those [...] > read more
Discrimination Against Asians in College Admissions?-What should we tell our kids to do
Published on 2012-05-15 11:37:28
The U.S. Department of Education is investigating charges that Harvard and Princeton discriminate against Asian-Americans by requiring that their high school grades and SAT scores be higher than those of other races in order to be admitted. The Department’s Office for Civil Rights is investigating complaints that Harvard and Princeton apply a different admission … [...] > read more
Mother’s Day is Not Always a Day of Celebration
Published on 2012-05-11 08:47:52
A couple of years ago, about this time of year, I was talking with a pastor friend of mine. I mentioned how hard Mother’s Day is for women who are struggling with infertility and for birth mothers who have placed a child for adoption. I suppose I thought I might be helping to educate her [...] > read more
Essential Topics Every Prospective Adoptive Parent and Birth Mother Should Discuss Prior to the Adoption
Published on 2012-05-08 11:11:09
I hear from prospective adoptive parents pre-adoption that they feel that the expectant woman holds all the cards. I hear from birth mothers post adoption that they feel that adoptive parents hold all the cards. As uncomfortable as it may be to admit, there is some truth to both of these sides. So how do [...] > read more
Internet Roundup: Best of the Net for Infertility and Adoption
Published on 2012-05-04 11:37:40
Take a look at what has inspired or disgusted me in my travels through cyberspace this week. > read more
Slippery Slope of International Adoptions: Cultural Misunderstandings Abound
Published on 2012-05-03 10:36:38
The Wall Street Journal recently ran an article, Inside Ethiopia’s Adoption Boom, that did a particularly good job of capturing the grayness of the ethical issues surrounding international adoption. Ethics are a funny … [visit site to read more] > read more
Save the Adoption Tax Credit
Published on 2012-05-01 11:27:05
As you probably know, the adoption tax credit, as we know it, is due to “sunset” at the end of this year unless Congress and the Administration do something to extend it. The logical thing it would seem is to jump on the bandwagon and start advocating for renewal, write letters, demand action now, right? [...] > read more
Why Should the Fertile Care About Infertility: I’m Not One of the 1 in 8, but I Won’t Ignore Their Pain
Published on 2012-04-27 10:16:05
In honor of National Infertility Awareness Week and its “Don’t Ignore Infertility” theme, I’ve been encouraging folks to start a discussion with someone they know about infertility—how common it is, how emotionally devastating it is, how expensive treatment can be. By mid-week, I was feeling a bit hypocritical since I had not followed my own [...] > read more
Parenting a Child Conceived & Grown in Stress–The Challenge of Adoptive Parenting & Pregnancy After Infertility
Published on 2012-04-26 09:43:56
Yesterday, in her guest post on this blog, Dr. Marcy Axness laid the foundation of what parents can do to help their children develop their full potential through the science of attachment neurobiology and the power of parents setting an example. In today’s guest post, she applies this information more specifically to … [visit site [...] > read more
The Power of Parental Example for Adoptive Parenting and Pregancy after Infertility
Published on 2012-04-24 13:26:48
Awhile back, I posted a couple of blogs on The Primal Wound theory (here, here, and here). This … [visit site to read more] > read more
Preparing for the Worst—The Problem with Adoption Education
Published on 2012-04-17 12:54:23
My grandmother and most adoption educators live by the “prepare for the worst and hope for the best” philosophy. But does preparing for the worst, then make us see the worst? Does adoption education that focuses on the potential problems make adoptive parents paranoid and prone to overreact? Tara, a new adoptive mom, posted the [...] > read more
The Quest for Cultural Identity-Is it Mine or Hers
Published on 2012-04-17 07:44:03
As a newly adoptive mom, I was the conscientious type. I read all the books and attended more than my share of the lectures. I was determined to ace adoptive parenting. I knew that to get an A I had to instill in my child the cultural identity of her birth country. This, the pundits [...] > read more
Internet Roundup: Best of the Net for Adoption and Infertility
Published on 2012-04-12 07:07:40
I spend my life, or at least it sometimes feels like that, online tooling around the internet. I dig through a lot of–oh, how shall I put this politely–”not so good stuff”, to find the jewels. Here is what sparkled in the last week or so. I Believe-Music video for the infertile struggling to conceive. [...] > read more
Adoption Tax Credit Delays
Published on 2012-04-05 16:36:15
Although we have not confirmed this with the IRS, Creating a Family is hearing that the IRS is sending the majority of returns claiming the adoption tax credit to the correspondence auditors to be reviewed. At that point, they determine which returns will be processed and which will be audited. Last year, according to the [...] > read more
Walking the Tightrope in Adoptive Parenting
Published on 2012-04-04 10:01:51
Surely I’m not alone up here on the adoptive parenting tightrope. I bet some of you have also been there. Your child is the only kid in the history of your church to get kicked out of the … [visit site to read more] > read more
IVF Kids are Manufactured Commodities and Fertility Clinics Should Be Banned
Published on 2012-03-30 10:27:16
Yes, you read the title of this blog correctly. No, I’ve not lost my mind. And even more stunning, NO, this is not fiction. An Illinois Reproductive Endocrinologist (RE) has received approval from the Illinois Health Facilities and Service Review Board to locate an infertility clinic in downtown Naperville, … [visit site to read more] > read more
Talking with our Children about Trayvon Martin
Published on 2012-03-26 12:55:20
A friend over at the Creating a Family Facebook Support Group gently chastised me (actually all of us white adoptive parents) for our silence on the Trayvon Martin shooting. She’s right, I have been relatively silent, other than clicking the “like” button. As I pondered why, I had to fight becoming defensive. I was out [...] > read more
Internet Roundup: Best of the Net for Adoption and Infertility
Published on 2012-03-23 13:18:32
As I was tooling around the internet this week, this is what jumped out as worthy of mention on this list of the crème de la crème in infertility and adoption. Please share you own picks or comment on mine by leaving a comment. Remember, comments are the blogging equivalent of a hug or a [...] > read more
Prejudice Against the Model Minority: What Should Adoptive Parents Do
Published on 2012-03-22 11:11:13
I just read a wonderful essay, Different Racism: On Jeremy Lin and How the Rules of Racism are Different for Asian Americans, written by an adult Korean adoptee, Matthew Salesses, that set my mind to racing. He talked about so many issues that make this a must-read for adoptive parents: growing up Asian in a [...] > read more
Is Your Child’s Love Enough to Make Adoption Worth It?
Published on 2012-03-20 11:55:27
In the comments to my blog Is There Such a Thing as a Happy Adoptee? a prospective adoptive parent said, “All I was really looking for was some reassurance that I wasn’t guaranteed to make some child miserable just because I could never be biologically connected to them.” Mei-Ling, an adult … [visit site to [...] > read more
Internet Roundup – March 15
Published on 2012-03-15 16:07:33
Here’s what caught my attention while tooling around the internet this week in the land of Infertility and Adoption. We Hold On To You by Hosanna Wong. Unbelievably moving video/word artistry/poetry reading that sums up the feelings of loss that is intensely felt, but seldom spoken by those who have lost a child to miscarriage. [...] > read more
What Adoptive Parents Need to Know about the Primal Wound
Published on 2012-03-12 07:25:29
It seems like we’ve been talking about the primal wound quite a bit lately in this blog and comments. (specifically here and here http://www.creatingafamily.org/blog/adoption-domestic-adoption-international-adoption-embryo-adoption-foster-care-adoption/book-review-adoption-memoir/) The primal wound theory holds that “severing the connection between the infant and biological mother [through adoption] causes a primal wound which often manifests in a sense of loss (depression), basic [...] > read more
The Slut Goes to Morocco
Published on 2012-03-10 08:41:40
I’ve dreaded my kids growing up. I’m not proud of this fact, but it is true. I refused to let them start saying they’re almost the next age until the week before their birthday. I, on the other hand, am allowed to say they “just turned” the new age for as long as I want, [...] > read more
Internet Roundup: Best of the Net for Adoption and Infertility
Published on 2012-03-09 11:33:26
This is what caught my eye this week as I was strolling through the land of adoption and infertility (with brief forays beyond) on the great and wondrous World Wide Web. This was sent to me with the title “Engineer Flowchart”, but from my experience with two sons, this could easily have the title of [...] > read more
What Adoptive Parents Need to Know about the Primal Wound
Published on 2012-03-06 06:44:02
Top Ten Tips for Filing for the Adoption Tax Credit to Avoid Delays
Published on 2012-03-02 07:13:20
It’s that time of year to start worrying about taxes. We’ve been inundated with questions on how to avoid the long delays experienced last year when claiming the refundable adoption tax credit, so we compiled the Top Ten Tips for Avoiding Delays and provided a list of resources with links at the end. Please help [...] > read more
Thoughts on the Possibilities of Leap Day
Published on 2012-02-29 08:45:35
“Today is an ephemeral ghost… A strange amazing day that comes only once every four years. For the rest of the time it does not “exist.” In mundane terms, it marks a “leap” in time, when the calendar is adjusted to make up for extra seconds accumulated over the preceding three years due to the [...] > read more
Will the Adoption Tax Credit Expire in 2012?
Published on 2012-02-28 12:14:25
This week is shaping up to be Adoption Tax Credit week here at Creating a Family. The radio show/podcast tomorrow will be on Filing for the Refundable Adoption Tax Credit in 2012 (for 2011 taxes). We’ll talk with leading experts on what we learned from those who claimed the refundable adoption tax credit last year, [...] > read more
Surrogacy Attorney Sentenced in “Adoption Mill” Scandal
Published on 2012-02-27 09:21:56
California surrogacy attorney Theresa Erickson was sentenced to five months in prison, and nine additional months of house arrest for masterminding a surrogacy/adoption fraud. She was also fined $70,000. She had > read more
Internet Roundup: Best of the Net for Infertility and Adoption
Published on 2012-02-23 14:40:01
Picture of parenthood The Miscarriage Diaries video. This simple short video of still pictures of women who’ve experienced … [visit site to read more] > read more
Fox’s “Response” to Our Email Apology Campaign
Published on 2012-02-21 13:34:53
We have heard nothing specific from Fox News on our email campaign soliciting an apology for Dr. Ablow’s statement on the Feb. 15 Fox & Friends that David Brock, the founder of Media Matters, was paranoid and obsessed with power because he was adopted. Dr. Ablow did publish the following … [visit site to read [...] > read more
Should Obese Women be Banned from In Vitro Fertilization?
Published on 2012-02-21 11:26:42
There is a debate going on in the infertility medical circles about whether doctors should have a weight limit on women seeking IVF. Although weight limits for fertility treatment are controversial, they are already the reality in several countries. In New Zealand, obese woman are barred from fertility treatment; in British Columbia, obese woman are [...] > read more
Demand an Apology from Fox News for Defaming Adoptees
Published on 2012-02-17 09:07:56
As I blogged about yesterday, Dr. Keith Ablow made a defamatory statement about the mental health of adopted persons on the Wednesday, Feb. 15 Fox & Friends show. I have attached this segment of the show in a clip below. Yesterday, I was infuriated … [visit site to read more] > read more
Fox News Called Someone “Adopted” to Attack Their Politics
Published on 2012-02-16 16:08:48
OK, I’m hot under the collar now. I just received an email that some psychologist on Fox News had attacked someone by calling him adopted. Nah, I thought, this is not possible. Not even on Fox News. Not in this day and age. Yes, some people might think it, but no one is going to [...] > read more
Is it Ever OK to Shoot Your Child’s Computer?
Published on 2012-02-16 09:42:31
Hi, my name is Dawn, and I’m a mom of teens. Given the spacing of my children, I’ve been a mom of teens for a long time. In fact some days it seems like an eternity. I also have worked with the teens at church for…(wait for it) 16 years. In other word, I’ve been [...] > read more
Blaming the Victim: Legacy of a Disrupted Adoption
Published on 2012-02-14 12:28:17
A number of years ago every parent’s nightmare was played out on a soccer field outside of Dallas, not far from where I lived. An eight year old girl playing at an adjacent playground, with her parents sitting nearby watching her brother’s soccer game, simply disappeared. Of course, there was nothing simple about it, and [...] > read more
How Many Children Are Adopted Each Year in the US
Published on 2012-02-10 12:56:05
Simple question, right? “How many children are adopted each year in the United States?” Unfortunately, there’s not a simple answer. Believe it or not, and I’ll admit that I’m clearly in the “not” camp, the US does not have a central source for tracking the number and type of adoptions that occur each year. The [...] > read more
Internet Roundup: Best of the Net for Infertility and Adoption
Published on 2012-02-09 11:29:20
Each week I pick the cream of the internet crop of infertility and adoption info to share with you. You know that feeling you get when you read something you just can’t wait to tell someone about? Well, that’s the power of blogging– I get to tell you. Please feel to share your own best [...] > read more
Letter of Apology (or Infertility Sucks for Me and Everyone in My Life)
Published on 2012-02-07 12:03:13
Facebook is both a blessing and curse in my life—a great source of information and support, but a huge distraction to getting my work done. Last week I was working on something that absolutely HAD to be finished that day. I was plugging dutifully along until I heard the ping of an email arriving. Ignore [...] > read more
Internet Roundup: Best of the Net for Infertility and Adoption
Published on 2012-02-03 14:45:07
Gather round my friends and check out what’s caught my attention lately on the wonderful world wide web in the areas of adoption and infertility. Share your favorite finds in the comment section. What music do you put on when you need to get motivated, uplifted, or just plain want to feel better. I loved [...] > read more
Hearing the Message Behind the Anger
Published on 2012-02-02 08:20:01
I’ve been contemplating lately on how in the world we reached this place of animosity between some of the adult adoptee community and some of the adoptive parent community. . Now, in truth, I don’t actually think it is all that bad in general. I know plenty of adults who were adopted, we all do, [...] > read more
Taming the Desire to Have Kids-Is it Time to Consider Option Other than Fertility Treatment
Published on 2012-01-31 11:20:06
Have you ever had that experience in a conversation where you assume that you’re saying something entirely logical and something of near universal agreement only to be greeted by silence—a loud ear drum splitting silence? You back pedal in your mind trying to figure out what you said exactly to see if somehow you accidentally [...] > read more
To Know or Not to Know- That is the Question with Donor Egg or Sperm
Published on 2011-07-05 10:29:31
I was consulting with a couple last month about the choices there were facing in their fertility treatment. They had reached the point where their options were using donor egg with IVF, using donated embryos, or adoption. During our discussion ab > read more
Is Facebook a Blessing or a Curse for Adoption and Adopted Children
Published on 2011-07-01 09:40:25
On the Creating a Family show this week, Adam Pertman, Exec. Director of The Adoption Institute and author of Adoption Nation said that “the Internet has fundamentally changed adoption forever.” Hollie, one of our Creating a Family comm > read more
Who Owns the Infertility in Your Relationship?
Published on 2011-06-28 12:46:43
Ownership may seem like a silly term to use when talking about a disease (and let us not forget that infertility is a disease!), but it seems to me that in many relationships one partner steps to the plate and claims the responsibility–the owne > read more
Adoption Tax Credit Equals Welfare?!?
Published on 2011-06-21 12:49:46
CNN Money ran an article a couple of weeks ago on the Adoption Tax Credit and the delays many families are experiencing receiving credit. Now, you might imagine that the readers of CNN Money would be the thoughtful, staid type. Heck, CNN Money is e > read more
A Father’s Day Toast to the Infertile Dad
Published on 2011-06-16 07:42:52
Most of the consultation requests I get are initiated by women. In fact, so much so that I was rather surprised when I received an email from a man asking for a consultation. He and his wife had been trying to conceive for five years, and he wanted t > read more
Adoption Tax Credit Update
Published on 2011-06-15 06:06:51
It’s been two months since tax day, so I thought I’d recap the current status of what is happening with the Adoption Tax Credit. First a quick bit of tax history to get everyone up to speed. Governments have long used tax incentives to encourag > read more
Another Set of Sextuplets: Modern Miracle or Medical Mistake
Published on 2011-06-07 08:56:00
By now you’ve probably heard that another set of sextuplets have been born. The three boys and three girls were born in Pennsylvania on June 1 10 weeks premature. Births are supposed to make you feel happy, but this one left me feeling intensely sa > read more
There Has Gotta Be a Better Way (Adopting from Foster Care)
Published on 2011-05-31 14:00:40
This article about adopting from foster care ticked me off. And not just because James is a member of our Creating a Family community. And not because reading his posts about his kids make me smile each and every time because he’s obviously so in > read more
Threads of Feeling
Published on 2011-05-24 10:01:51
While I welcome the discussion of adoption and adoption ethics taking place today, it is a sad fact that for as long as humans have been around, there have been parents who were not able or not willing to care for their children. Usually, someone i > read more
I Love My Parents, but…: Loyalty, Gratitude, & Adoption
Published on 2011-05-17 13:38:52
I read an interesting post a while ago on The Adopted Ones blog that got me to thinking about the nature of loyalty and adoption, and how societal expectations of gratitude play out with adoptees. I think she raises some interesting points that all > read more
Good News about Health of Kids Conceived through IVF
Published on 2011-05-11 05:08:39
As most of you know, I’m a bit of a research geek. I actually enjoy curling up with a good journal and cup of coffee whiling away a Saturday morning. Although I may be weird, you, my friends, are the beneficiaries of my quirkiness. It’s time > read more
Virtual Twins Through Adoption: An Adoptees Perspective
Published on 2011-05-03 14:46:36
Creating artificial twins, also known as virtual twins, through adoption is a bit of a sticky wicket in adoption circles. Virtual twinning means having two children in the family that are closer than could occur through birth where at least one child > read more
Infertility Myths (#itsadiseasedamnit)
Published on 2011-04-26 08:41:10
For whatever reason, infertility is a much misunderstood disease. I’ve often pondered why. Is it because it deals with procreation and therefore is hush hush? Is it because it is invisible—no one knows whether your lack of children is by choice > read more
Delays in Receiving the Adoption Tax Credit-What You Can Do
Published on 2011-04-15 10:52:49
Delays in receiving the Adoption Tax Credit refund is probably the most discussed topic this week on every adoption forum or group on the internet. Creating a Family has been inundated with complaints about delays in receiving the Federal Adoption > read more
Adopted Children (Transracial and Same Race) Are Doing Just Fine
Published on 2011-04-12 12:53:40
Adopted Kids (Transracial and Same Race) Are Doing Just Fine The myth of ”the troubled adoptee” is pervasive. It’s all the more insidious because it’s seldom voiced, but exists as an undercurrent. This myth is a bit fuzzy on the details o > read more
PETA Says “Just Adopt”
Published on 2011-04-07 12:36:47
PETA (People for the Ethical Treatment of Animals) issued a non-apology apology on Facebook for their campaign to offer a free vasectomy if you sterilize your pet “in honor of” National Infertility Awareness Week. They said “We meant > read more
PETA Takes Aim and Hits the Infertile
Published on 2011-04-06 07:46:38
Insensitivity reigns once again. PETA (People for the Ethical Treatment of Animals) is offering a free vasectomy in honor of National Infertility Awareness Week. I must admit when I first heard about this, I thought the “in honor of” pa > read more
Five Things I Know for Certain about Parenting
Published on 2011-04-05 09:14:10
Back in my pre kid (PK) days, I knew a lot about parenting. I dreamed of parenting, I studied parenting, I read endless parenting books. By the time my first child arrived, I was certain I’d be close to the perfect parent. I maintained th > read more
Who are Birth Mothers?
Published on 2011-03-29 09:58:10
The part of the adoption triad we hear the least about is the birth parent. (“Adoption Triad” is adoptionese for the group of people connected through adoption—the adopted person, adoptive parents, and first parents). Let me stop for a minute > read more
Ethics of Embryo Adoption (Embryo Donation)
Published on 2011-03-24 09:02:02
I just read an interesting article in the Vancouver Sun on the ethics of embryo donation (also known as embryo adoption): Embryo ethics: Finding a home for Canada’s frozen ‘orphans’ . While acknowledging that the growing numbers of frozen embry > read more
Forgiving Our Body
Published on 2011-03-22 08:32:06
I hereby declare, by the power vested in me, that today, March 22, 2011, is Forgive Your Body Day. (FUBD-pronounced ‘fubbed’) (By the same power mentioned above, I hereby declare that I am allowed to take liberties with spelling for acronym purpo > read more
The Perils of DIY Surrogacy
Published on 2011-03-15 11:11:19
Each time I post on our Infertility in the News page about a celebity birth via surrogacy (think Nicole Kidman, Elton John, Neil Patrick Harris, Ricky Martin, and just this week Martha Stewart’s first grandchild born via surrogate to her daughter > read more
China Open Adoptions to Single Women!!!!!!
Published on 2011-03-14 12:47:05
The China Center of Adoption Affairs (CCAA) just announced that single women are now allowed to adopt from their Special Focus special needs adoption program!! For a child to be considered a “Special Focus” child they must have been waiting on t > read more
Drastic Cutbacks to Ethiopian Adoptions: Are They Necessary and Effective?
Published on 2011-03-10 11:44:39
On Monday, March 7, the Ethiopian Ministry of Women’s, Children’s and Youth Affairs announced their plans to reduce intercountry adoptions by 90% beginning today (March 10) by establishing a quota for processing adoptions (5 per day vs. the c > read more
Adoption—It’s Not all Hearts and Smiley Faces
Published on 2011-03-08 11:27:46
The following was written by a 15 year old adopted as a baby from China. I always knew my background. The story that had been told to me over and over again all through my childhood: ” Once upon a time in a beautiful land called China there w > read more
Crossing the Great Divide: Addressing the Threats to IVF
Published on 2011-03-01 11:30:53
I want all of you who have children to come with me on a little journey across the Great Divide. It doesn’t matter if your children are yours through successful fertility treatment, donor egg, adoption, or surrogacy. If you were one of the luck > read more
“You’re Not My Real Mother”
Published on 2011-02-17 06:22:20
My then sixth grade daughter was invited to a sleep-over party at a hotel with an indoor pool. The divorced dad who was flying in for the occasion was giving the party. My daughter and I were both new to middle school. I didn’t know the child or th > read more
Adopted vs. Abducted: What’s the Difference?
Published on 2011-02-15 07:49:46
The Huffington Post headline last week was certainly catching, to say the least: Abducted Versus Adopted: For 1.5 Million of U.S. Adoptees, What’s the Difference? The article by adult adoptee Jennifer Lauck, author of the adoption memoir Found, > read more
Family Portraits Gone Wrong
Published on 2011-02-08 10:40:40
I thought we could all use a bit of humor to warm us up this week, and there is simply no better place to find humor than the great website Awkward Family Photos. I focused on the family portraits for this blog. Here are some of my favorites with > read more
Surviving the Adoption Wait
Published on 2011-02-01 13:59:30
The old proverb is right—time does indeed move slowly for those who wait and after a few months, slow takes on a whole new meaning. Keeping busy is the only way to survive. Fortunately there is much you can do during this time to keep your mind > read more
A Bedwetting Plan of Attack
Published on 2011-01-25 08:04:21
If I remember right, you blogged about your kids having issues with bed-wetting and letting them take some ownership with the clean-up? We are 2 weeks home with our 4-year-old adopted from China. In China, she had 1 accident per week. Since home, she > read more
Fame Doesn’t Protect You from Ignorance– Just ask Nicole Kidman & Keith Urban
Published on 2011-01-18 14:58:33
I knew better than to look. I really did. As I was typing in the search terms, I told myself: Don’t do it! But did I listen? Nope. It’s kind of like the way your tongue is almost drawn against its will to explore the sore in your mouth. > read more
A Homeland Visit- A Different Perspective
Published on 2011-01-11 10:30:19
One of my pet peeves is the prevalence in the adoption community of talking about teen and adult adoptees as if they are a homogeneous group. Even a few adult adoptees I’ve spoken with fall into this trap when they purport to speak for all adopte > read more
New Year’s Resolution for Those Trying to Conceive
Published on 2011-01-04 09:14:38
Chances are good if you are struggling to get pregnant that sometime over the past New Year’s weekend you prayed/hoped/implored that this next year will be the year that your wish will finally come true. Since we’re at the time of year for reso > read more
A Real Story of a Real Mom Through Donor Egg and Surrogacy
Published on 2010-12-30 10:23:33
I saw the article on the front page of the New York Times and sighed. The title, Meet the Twiblings, promised, in my mind ,another one of those articles focusing on the new fangledness of third party reproduction: “Gosh darn, look what they&# > read more
A Much Needed Pause
Published on 2010-12-28 08:41:52
We’re now on our third day of being snowed in. This is not a regular occurrence where we live. It happens seldom enough that we don’t have all the equipment necessary to go on with life when you get dumped on with snow. I am not oblivious t > read more
The Feelings of the Season!
Published on 2010-12-21 10:51:05
This is the season for children. I don’t mean all the hoopla of presents and Santa, although there is that, of course. I am thinking on a deeper level. Christmas is about hope and love in the form of a baby. Although the Chanukah story is less over > read more
The Christmas Cookie Nazi
Published on 2010-12-14 08:47:50
A December Saturday with my family of three teens, one early 20s, and an ever-so-helpful husband. Daughter #2 (L): Mom, when we make our Christmas gifts for friends this year, let’s make sugar cookies. You know, the ones you decorate with icing. > read more
Gratitude
Published on 2010-12-07 12:52:23
How many of you adoptive parents have heard comments that imply that your child should be grateful to have been adopted by you? It might be a variation of the “He’s so lucky” comment. Or it might be like one of our Creating a Family communi > read more