03/23/2012 18:32:42 PM
One of my fondest memories as a child was an evening game of Freeze Tag, played with the kids in my neighborhood. In this game, whoever was It had the task of chasing the other kids, catching them, and freezing them out of the rest of the game. When caught by the kid who was [...]
11/23/2011 17:45:18 PM
Someone asked me: With the holidays here, the distance between us (literally) is challenging me and my family. Do you have any resources that specifically help with maintaining relationships with family members when living out of state? First of all, geography makes things very challenging. Nothing beats the physical presence of loved ones at the [...]
09/28/2011 00:06:36 AM
Alligators are not good listeners and have no people skills. They lack tact, respect, and empathy. They are not good negotiators, nor are they problem solvers. Imagine staring into the face of this guy, primed to eat your head off as you say, Um
youve left the toothpaste cover off
again. Lets be honest. If you [...]
07/26/2011 00:23:35 AM
I’ve been pulling an invasive plant, Creeping Charlie, out of my flower beds and lawn. I do not like it because it crowds and eventually chokes the plants already there. I have lots of Creeping Charlie…lots of time weeding and thinking about the similarity with how we live our lives. If we know our core [...]
05/02/2011 20:41:15 PM
How long does one stay in a relationship that drains them of energy?
What will wake one up to the personal cost of living in a toxic relationship?
The mind has an amazing ability to weave convincing stories that distort or deny the evidence of a rela
05/25/2010 20:52:12 PM
Everyone is guaranteed some measure of pain in their lifespan. What each person makes of that pain determines whether they will see themselves through to happiness or suffer the pain. It is not so much the circumstances they are in that adds to, or t
05/20/2010 21:08:03 PM
Sarah (not her real name) was first elated, and then deeply hurt when her daughter called with the news. Sarahs first grandchild was just born. Sarahs daughter, the mother of the newborn, asked that Sarah not come to the hospital until the foll
05/11/2010 15:34:41 PM
Children experience transitions when their parents experience transitions. During divorce, the whole family is in a difficult transition. Children are the reluctant recipients of the changes. They have no, or little, say in the matter and yet the tra
05/04/2010 12:34:36 PM
We all want a relationship of satisfaction and happiness. Here are 5.75 myths which can stir up relationships. If you want to increase happiness, and who doesn’t, be assured that awareness is half distance to the solution. Now that you know,
04/29/2010 09:57:59 AM
Fortunately most of us never encounter an Emotional Vampire. For those who live with one, or did and need to co-parent with one, an excellent resouorce is the book Emotional Vampires, by Albert J. Bernstein.
How do you know if one exists in your
04/20/2010 15:08:27 PM
For most of us, we are our own worst enemies. Saboteurs are those self limiting thoughts that nag at us and keep us from moving life forward to fulfillment. When saboteurs take over, it seems impossible to find a solution or escape their oppression.
04/13/2010 22:15:52 PM
Large doses of certain elements predict a healthy and successful relationship. They are: positive regard, high standards, healthy conflict, balance of power and positive attitudes.
If you are curious about how your relationship measures up, take the
04/05/2010 20:06:07 PM
On only two days a year, an uncooked egg will balance on end, unsupported. The remaining 363 days, it does not stand on end. Years ago, my children and I would balance eggs on the equinox days. We could see the egg, balanced and upright, yet we could
03/22/2010 12:37:54 PM
Trapped in the clutches of “stuck,” a couple walked into my office.
Stuck was draining the very life out of a healthy relationship. They came to me to figure out how to move their relationship forward. It had been a year and they were f
02/03/2010 14:46:19 PM
Recently I heard a story about the behavior of fruit flies.
If trapped in a covered glass jar, the fruit flies grow accustomed to flying just under the lid. When the lid is removed the fruit flies will still fly just under the opening. Bottom line,