I’m not sure what’s going on but I find myself surrounded by a number of friends and acquaintances who are transitioning from one phase of their lives to another. These shifts involve moving physically from one place to another.
Several young people I know are trying to escape from their parents’ homes. One was eager to move in with her boyfriend… only to find that the boyfriend was living in his grandmother’s basement. Another moved in with three roommates… only to find that the roommates were not able to pay their portion of the rent, and they were evicted.
One friend is returning to the Bay Area, to be with her daughter and grandchildren. For the past couple of years, she’s been traveling back and forth between where she lives and where her daughter and grandchildren live. The drive is becoming too much for her, so she’s decided to move back here and, hopefully, find a job near her daughter.
Another acquaintance has relocated to another state, due to her husband’s job. They can’t afford to buy a “real home,” until they are able to unload their other house. Because of this, they can’t move on with their family plans. They are living in their personal Purgatory — living in a small apartment in a dangerous neighborhood — waiting to resume their lives again. As it is now, they feel that they have no home, even though they are surrounded by their personal possessions.
Another friend of mine has been separated from her husband for a number of years. They continue to support a household and raise their boys together. Although her possessions are in the house with the boys and their father, she doesn’t consider that place to be her home. Her heart has found a home with a different partner, and it’s his place that she calls home, even though she doesn’t own anything there.
I have another friend who is constantly redecorating her house… never happy with how it looks or feels. There’s always some massive project going on, and the house is in constant turmoil and upheaval.
These examples reinforce my belief that the building in which you reside does not define your “home.” Home is more than your residence. Home is where your heart lives… where you're loved… where you go for peace and security. It’s not a physical place but an emotional and mental place of refuge and strength.
Some find their home — their stabilizing force — to be within a healthy primary relationship with another. Others find their life source within their inner “self” — anchored by their core principles and supported by spiritual beliefs.
Whoever or whatever supplies you with that positive source of well-being and security, keep it close to you… respect it… and protect it, because…
There’s no place like home.