This post isn’t about a date I went on, but about a single moment I shared with a woman at costco.

I’ve been out of the game for a while, now fresh out of a relationship I’m ready to hit the streets and work on my game. I’ve come to realize that when I get out of a relationship my game suffers. But it’s not because of a broken heart, but because I stop approaching women in general. So part of the post breakup process is to spend time just approaching women. I never go crazy with it and go to the club 5 days a week (I’ve got a life and clubbing isn’t it.) But I look for opportunities everyday while I’m out doing whatever it is I got to do.

Since I already have the skills it’s just a matter of dusting them off and putting them into practice. One of my favorite skills is using a deep penetrating gaze I affectionately refer to as the eyes of lust. It’s mainly about looking at someone with intention and the kind of calm assertive energy that women respond to. When I had the stare on automatic it was a force to be reckoned with. Conversations automatically started with a certain magnetism that neither the woman or I had to explain but clearly knew was there.

The problem is that I couldn’t turn that damn thing off. I felt like Cyclops from Xmen, indiscriminately shootings beams at anyone that crossed my path. Single women, married women, single moms, girl’s boyfriends and gay dudes. The thing was out of control, so I had to turn it off.

Fast forward to today. I found myself shopping at costco; damn I love that place. While I was there, I was focused. I needed to get a few things for a dinner I’m going to put together. Hunting down my ingredients I turned and looked at a girl that I noticed from the corner of my eye. She instantly froze, almost like a deer caught in headlights. Then I broke the tension with a soft  smile. Her face slowly flushed with a large grin. It almost seemed like she was fighting it, but couldn’t help it. I love that look on a woman when she gets shy, tries to look away and plays with her hair.

That’s when I noticed something weird. She started to fidget, like she was thinking of going left, but changed her mind and went right, but then changed it quickly… Right behind her and starting to walk toward me was none other than her husband with a baby stroller. I hate when this happens.

So I walked away. But before I faded into the isle I noticed, she was still looking at me. I always find it interesting when another man’s woman lingers on me.

Does this ever happen to you? How does it make you feel? And what side have you been on?

-Sharp