Oh no…here come the butterflies in the stomach.
It’s a gut-wrenching feeling….and some of us feel it more than others.
What if I’m not good enough?
What if my blog isn’t good enough?
What if I……uh, fail….?? (Queue ominous music…da-ta-da-dun…)
Fear is a powerful emotion. It helps keep us safe. It is a survival instinct. But, sometimes we fear things that are far from life-and-death situations.
It prevents us from doing the things we need to do with our blogs, guest posts, and communication with others. It gives us an excuse to say, “I’ll do it another time.”
We, as humans, are naturally wired for fear.
I know I used to have my moments before a show, when those butterflies hit…and hit hard.
Fortunately, there are ways to overcome this fear.
One way to overcome fear is to expose ourselves to what causes our fear. Think of it as a small challenge. You don’t have to master this immediately. Take small steps to expose yourself to this fear.
For example: Your ultimate goal is to publish your posts on major blog sites, but you’re afraid that you’re not good enough. The only way to find out is to accept a challenge that you can achieve and succeed with.
Contact a fellow blogger that you like and whose work you respect. Ask them to review a potential post before putting it up somewhere live. Get more than one opinion from different people if you have to.
Even if what you’ve written could use a tweak here or a tweak there…
The point is to face your fear. Take any criticism and use it to fuel some courage. Not all criticism is meant to tear you apart. A little constructive criticism can make a good writer into an excellent writer.
So, you get your reply from your fellow respected blogger, and they say it’s great. Take another step toward quelling that fear and approach them with the idea of including the post on their site.
What if they say no?
Don’t stop there. Ask them if they know another site that may be interested in this content. Chances are; they do.
Remember this, the road to success is full of no’s. This is something you might as well get used to now.
Another way to reduce fear is to get mad. Anger is a much stronger emotion than fear. Now, I’m not saying to go Hulk and destroy your living room. But, use the emotion to turn things around.
Doesn’t make you mad that you have the potential to be a success and you’re letting it slip away?
Doesn’t it make you mad that Joe Schmoe sucks at writing, but his blog is becoming a big success?
Put fear in its place, step up on that stage, and show us what you’ve got.