I think that fundamentally all of us can agree that there is a strong distinction between a man who knows what he wants and one that actually knows what he needs. Most significantly, I’ve noticed this distinction as I’ve come across men in the dating world. The mistaking of a ‘want’ as a ‘need’ is an error that inevitably happens to all of us, however this blunder’s impacts on future partnerships and truly finding someone who ‘works well with you’ are drastic.
In all honesty, I think that it is rare to come across a man who has fully come to grips with what he needs in a relationship. Most men will rationalize every purchase in their lives down to the very last cent, they will fully evaluate their major life decisions with rigor and attention to detail; but when it comes to love, if it feels right then it feels right, and if it doesn’t then it doesn’t and that’s that.
I am in no way empowered to have a strong knowledge of the “inner-workings” of men. First off, I’m a woman. I base most of my decisions on emotion and gut feelings. I, often times, make impulse purchases on little black dresses that I just have to have. However, I have become familiar with a few characteristics that classify men who know what they need vs. men who base decisions entirely on their wants, and it starts with this list…
1. Physical attraction is something but it’s not everything. – Men who know what they need understand that it’s crucial to be physically attracted to the women that they pursue, but appearances are not everything. It’s fun to constantly chase a shiny, bright object… but only for so long. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not another person trying to tell you to just go after a duckling because it might turn into a swan or that the most beautiful woman is not worthy of love. All that I am preaching is that men who know what they need don’t put all of their eggs in one basket. He won’t focus all of his attention on the most beautiful woman in the room because he understands that beauty exists in all women and that it truly remains in the eye of the beholder. I have a similar opinion towards the most ambitious, outgoing and center-of-attention woman in the room. She is easily attractable to many men, but may not be what each of them truly need.
2. Common interests only get you so far. – It’s fun to find a woman who shares all of the same hobbies as you. Running, love for sports, similar entertainment interests, frolicking in the woods together. Whatever. But, a man that knows what he needs recognizes that common interests only get you so far. To read more, click here.