By PJ Trell

I've been married for nearly ten years. As a matter of fact, my 10th year Anniversary is next month. Sustaining an active sex life after so many years of marriage is hard. The fire and desire that your relationship once had can dwindle into a to spark and Susie Palm and her five sisters if you are not careful. Remember when you couldn't keep your hands of each other? Sex in the morning, sex in the evening, a quickie at lunch. Life was great.

Then came the kids and the stress of everyday life. You still maintained your sex drive, but your wife is never in the mood. Can't have sex in the morning because at the crack of dawn, one of the kids is in the bed with you. No more sex in the evening because after supervising home work, preparing dinner, doing the dishes, and putting the kids to bed, the last thing on your woman's mind is sex. I haven't had a lunch time quickie in 8 long years.

Guys don't lose hope. I got tired of not getting laid so I did some research and asked some ladies that are still having sex after 10 - 15 years of marriage what is their secret. I have compiled 5 sure fire ways to put the fire and desire back into your sex life and start getting laid tonight!!!!! Are you with me??!!

5. Make her feel appreciated - My wife recently went on a trip to Miami with one of her friends, and I stayed at home with the kids. Although I did an admirable job taking care of my babies, I am so glad that I am a man and not a single parent. I have gained so much more respect for my wife and single parents in general. It's a very hard job to maintain a household, take care of the kids and have something of a social life. I understand the pressure and stress that my wife is under everyday, so I show some appreciation for her hard work by volunteering to cook dinner, help the kids with their homework, or doing the laundry. Relieve her of a chore that you don't normally do.

4. Be A Good Listener - If your household is like mine, the moment I walk through the door, I am attacked by my adoring children and wife who wants to share the day's adventure with me. To be honest, all I want to do is chill for a few minutes and unwind from a long days work. Guys, if you want to get laid, this is a perfect situation to lay the ground work for a night of passionate love making. Avoid the urge to flop down on the couch and watch Sports Center before dinner. Engage in a conversation with your wife. As a matter of fact, you don't really have to say much because she has been home with the kids all day without another adult to talk to, so all you have to do is listen. Let her get the days frustrations off her chest. Once the conversation is over, she will thank you for listening by giving you a big hug and kiss.

3. TAKE THE KIDS OF HER HANDS - Now that your wife has gotten her day's frustration of her chest and she's feeling more relaxed, you must ensure that she stays in that state of mind. Go round up the source of her frustration, the kids, and keep them occupied for an hour or so, so that your wife can have some "me" time. Do homework with them, play a game with them, just spend time with your kids man!!!!! Not only will you bond more with them, at this point your wife is really feeling good about you.

2. DO MORE DISHES - Do more domestic work around the house to increase the intimacy with your wife. These two acts may seem unrelated but studies have shown that men that do more work around the house such as dishes, laundry and vacuuming have significantly more sex with their wives. When women feel that their husbands are really contributing and helping out with house work, it is much easier for them to relax and have sex.

1. MAKE HER COMFORTABLE - Now it's time for your hard work to pay off, but you still have a little more work to do. Make your wife as comfortable as possible mentally so that she can relax. While your wife is putting the kids to bed, have a nice hot bath waiting for her when she returns or rent one of those chick flicks that women like so much and enjoy the evening together.

Women need to feel emotionally needed, loved and taken care of to relax and have great sex with you.

Well, there you have it. It's a little bit of work, but guess what? Marriage is hard work. Just a little effort on your part to make your wife feel loved and appreciated will go a long way to having the kind of sex life you want.


PJ

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